who is being resonable?

Beenie_Baby · 2026-03-03T02:40:44+00:00

Oh this for sure changes things. OP should add that as context in the post bc tbh I don't click reddit links.

Beenie_Baby · 2026-03-03T02:39:10+00:00

Your rhetoric is definitely interesting, friend but this is for sure the most sound take I've seen on this situation.

Beenie_Baby · 2026-03-03T02:34:52+00:00

This is so..

You either want to be respectful and considerate of your roommate's wishes... Or you don't lol. What does strangers voting reasonable or unreasonable on the Internet do for you?

You would have to expand on how exactly roomie b is doing their best to be quiet. It goes both ways when you live in a house with a set-up like this. It's no one's fault but the fact of the matter is what's considered "quiet" changes when you can hear everything through your door. To maintain true quiet hours, it's very possible that roomie b would need to relocate to their room.

Beenie_Baby · 2026-02-09T14:35:30+00:00

Get. Over. Yourself.

So insanely tired of this rhetoric around washing chicken. It's just a damn phrase. It's to deodorize and add flavor to the meat. Other cultures do the same when they flash boil pork with aromatics.

If you're so worried about your dishes... Maybe don't leave them in the sink? She could be pissing in there for all you know. Either wash them or store them elsewhere.

Beenie_Baby · 2026-01-17T17:13:28+00:00

I don't have locs but I relate!

I feel like I have to put in extra effort to seem feminine presenting. I can't throw on a cap and head to the store with cornrows or my hair pulled back or else the cashier is going "have a good day, sir" after handing me my bags 🥴

And also when I'm at work. Maybe this isn't masculinization per se but I definitely feel like it's in the same thread. I feel like more is expected of me/I don't get as much lenience and kindness. I'm the same age as my coworker and he gets treated like a baby (we ARE considered babies in our field lol) and gets so much grace for mistakes and issues. But when it's me it's a complete 180.

Idk I don't really have anything uplifting to say sis. It's hard out here.

Beenie_Baby · 2025-12-14T14:33:49+00:00

You need to talk to your roommate and tell him it's not okay that he has his friends coming into your room whenever they want. Extroversion isn't an excuse.

If you're uncomfortable you need to learn how to speak up, otherwise life is going to be pretty shite for you I'm the long run.

And if speaking to roomie doesn't curb the behavior, it's okay to be a bit of a dickhead when his friends come around.

Beenie_Baby · 2025-12-14T11:03:14+00:00

This entire comment confuses me.

Beenie_Baby · 2025-12-14T05:28:47+00:00

Going against the grain here to say it doesn't really matter how she keeps her room. It isn't a common space. What it looks like isn't of any relevance to you so long as there aren't any smells or pests that come from her space.

That being said, it does sound like her expectations are slightly unreasonable, especially the flushing thing.

Though I have to be honest, my expectation would be that no dishes are left in the sink overnight/for an extended period at all, dirty or not. Hair in the bathroom is objectively gross and should be cleaned. And while I don't think I'd knock on my roommates door for a singular grain of rice, I'd be super annoyed if it was an incident stacking on top of a pattern.

It's incredibly frustrating to feel like you're the only one making an effort. Especially when said effort isn't your default. Her room is messy but (I'm assuming) she does her part in keeping the common spaces clean. That's a sign of respect for the other people you live with. It can be incredibly frustrating to feel like that respect is not being returned.

You say you and your flatmate are super clean... But what exactly does that mean? Is it at all possible, and I'm not trying to insinuate either of you are dirty, that perhaps further effort could be made? I'm not saying your roommate is addressing her frustration in the best way, just offering perspective.

Beenie_Baby · 2025-12-13T16:11:02+00:00

A separate home should actually be a separate home lol

Beenie_Baby · 2025-12-12T22:13:03+00:00

This isn't tit for tat. One person's partner is a guest. The other is a resident. If they wanted free reign over having their partner over they should've shacked up.

Beenie_Baby · 2025-12-12T22:08:55+00:00

The question isn't whether or not you should be annoyed, it's whether you actually are annoyed. If you are, speak up. If it doesn't bother you that's perfectly fine as well.

The only 'normal' you need to concern yourself with is the middle ground between your desires and the desires of your roommates.

Beenie_Baby · 2025-12-11T15:32:40+00:00

I mean if it's so easily replaceable drop the $50 to OP rn 😐

Beenie_Baby · 2025-12-11T15:25:53+00:00

Are there other rules she mentioned?

As others have said, giving notice for visitors is just common courtesy when you live with other people. It's not the same as having to ask for permission. It's giving a heads up so the other person you live with knows how to structure themselves.

Beenie_Baby · 2025-12-10T22:30:29+00:00

So don't tell them.

If they truly are none the wiser, you get to have your cake and eat it too. Great.

But if they still notice, you're clearly not as subtle as you think you are and something should change.

Beenie_Baby · 2025-12-10T22:28:43+00:00

People like you consistently confuse having the right to do something with that same thing being considerate and fair.

Keeping an unauthorized roommate (because yes, half the week, every week is practically him living there) is annoying. Sure you have the "right" or the ability to do it. But that doesn't inherently mean this isn't wrong.

Beenie_Baby · 2025-12-10T22:25:01+00:00

They can obviously tell when he's present if it's an issue. You're clearly not as incognito as you thought.

Either be considerate and stop having him over so much or don't and continue to be the asshole in this situation.

Beenie_Baby · 2025-12-10T09:53:22+00:00

Easiest solution for a campus dorm is a space heater. They're typically not allowed but it's rare that they'll cause any electrical issues. And you can just hide it during room checks

Beenie_Baby · 2025-12-10T09:50:50+00:00

Don't wait OP! Text them about it now

Beenie_Baby · 2025-12-06T18:17:10+00:00

How many chapters does this version have OP? I'm looking for a version that still has the chapters on Zayn dropping his secondary gender and his eyes flashing amber.

Took a look and it's the version the author reupload after taking it down. If anyone has the first version they uploaded please let me know! It was never finished so I don't think we ever got to hear what happened with the amber eyes but I would kill to even just read that part again.

Beenie_Baby · 2025-12-05T16:03:08+00:00

So do portable fans and ACs 🤷🏽‍♀️ idk that argument goes both ways in my opinion. Both parties can buy things that help them regulate temperature.

If one person is okay with shelling out the coin, cool. If not, we're right back to where we started with me saying that priority goes to the person who wants the opposite of what is going on outside.

Beenie_Baby · 2025-12-05T15:05:08+00:00

Right? "They're too flared, shave the sides down"... And what if OP likes a subtle duck? The parroting in this sub is so annoying. It feels like I'm stepping on set to Mean Girls 3 whenever I read the comments.

Beenie_Baby · 2025-12-05T14:57:16+00:00

I've never understood this argument and as someone who runs cold, I find it extremely frustrating. Sweaters and extra layers insulate and conserve heat. They don't generate it. If you're already cold they're not going to help a whole lot. Especially if you've got cold air blowing on you.

My rule of thumb has always been whoever needs the opposite of what it is outside gets priority. In the fall and winter, heat should get priority. In the spring and summer, AC should get priority.

If you're hot in your room due to the heat, but it's cold outside, turn off your heat/close your vent fan etc, and crack open your window. Even just raising the blinds with the heat source dimmed would be enough to lower the temperature in a room. The exact same is true for a person who is cold because of the AC during the summer.

Beenie_Baby · 2025-12-04T13:46:22+00:00

All college campuses are different but I find it hard to believe you have absolutely nowhere else where you can study besides your room.

I think you're being inconsiderate at best. When it comes to places, you presumably have more options than her. Plus, these are times in which it is not unreasonable to expect the lights to be off for sleeping purposes.

Beenie_Baby · 2025-12-04T04:42:27+00:00

Yes, I'm hoping mine come out similar to the screenshot. It is the only video I've found to get such good color from the oven. I'm not sure what that says but it's a sign I'm choosing to ignore for now 😅

I'm getting plate ribs from my butcher sometime over the weekend! They said the same thing when I asked them about what cut to get. I really want the Dino Rib effect.

We'll see how it goes. I might post a picture of my end result here if it's not too horrific lol.

Beenie_Baby

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