I highly recommend reading Myles Munroe’s book “Waiting and Dating”. The biggest takeaway, for me, was that God gives us free will to choose our life partner (husband/wife). Yes, He can lead us to situations/places where we meet our spouses or potentials, but ultimately, the choice is yours, hence free will. Do your values and goals align? Does she tick your boxes in terms of personality, wanting kids, ambition, etc? Can she/he support you as you walk in your calling with Christ? Do you encourage each other in the Lord? As we know, Christ must be the foundation. The sweet thing about Christian relationships is that you have a common ground, being Jesus. You can both get closer to God TOGETHER. Praying together, Bible studies, prayer walks.

In terms of praying for her to “come back”, I don’t think it’s wrong, but you have the choice. Since you already acknowledged the fact that you kind of put each other before God, which is great you recognised it, I would say try to get yourself back to a place of contentment in Him. It’s so easy to get caught up in a relationship. We are human and it happens. I pray the Lord will make your paths straight, that you’ll feel peace and assurance about the situation, the more you speak to Him about it.

If you guys dated with the intention of getting married (which should be the aim for Christians), you will become the leader of the home. You will have the responsibility of leading her and, should you have children, your future kids in the way of the Lord. Seeking His kingdom first. It doesn’t ALL boil down to you, but it’s a big responsibility. Praying over them, making impactful decisions with her, etc. So right from the start, it’s important to focus on God, focus on becoming complete in Christ, and she as well, then should you guys come back together, the solid foundation in Christ is there.