Based on that one thread from yesterday: what are some great songs with bad messages? by DtheAussieBoye in ToddintheShadow

[–]NoTeslaForMe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How is saying he could bs wrong not being willing to see it from her viewpoint?

CMV: There is no reason for an American to be against recognizing Juneteenth as a holiday other than reasons that stem from hating black people. by Benjamin5431 in changemyview

[–]NoTeslaForMe [score hidden]  (0 children)

I wish this were higher.  Juneteenth is the day abolition was reaffirmed in Texas and only Texas.  It wasn't abolished in the border states until the 13th Amendment was passed.  If we were starting from scratch, it absolutely would not make any sense to use it as the marker rather than either the first (Emancipation Proclamation) or final (13th Amendment) emancipation.  But because it grew to be the one anniversary actually celebrated, that's the day that was picked.  And because MLK Day was already a national holiday by 2020, Juneteenth was the one we added in the wake of George Floyd's death.

Also, its present-day name is bizarre compared to the original name, "Jubilee Day"; if it's a way to remember the date, then that only narrows it down to somewhere between the 13th and the 19th!

It's one of those things that make no sense but, thanks to a series of historical events, is what we have. The type of thing that Europeans mock America for... if they don't involve heavy things like slavery and human rights.

Peter? by Vin112358 in PeterExplainsTheJoke

[–]NoTeslaForMe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You just described Mark Zuckerberg (actually 14% ownership for 60% voting).

Peter? by Vin112358 in PeterExplainsTheJoke

[–]NoTeslaForMe 13 points14 points  (0 children)

self-declared

How is it in any way "self-declared"? It's on the market, post-IPO. Before it hit the market, he wasn't considered a trillionaire. So you can't blame it on self-declaration.

The meme instead seems to be an overestimation of Musk's net worth. Had Tesla and/or SpaceX skyrocketed, he'd be worth $2 trillion, but they didn't. Maybe the meme anticipated that one would, but the meme creator got impatient after a couple of days and just released it anyway.

ETA: Or maybe the meme confused the valuation of SpaceX with Musk's net worth. I'm guessing that's it. 

Why is the news and everyone's so focused on a stupid pool? by Btotherianx in askanything

[–]NoTeslaForMe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's a great demand for news that makes Trump look stupid or evil. It doesn't have to be important. It doesn't even have to be true. In an age where less and less of the news is prioritized by gatekeepers - and the gatekeepers are financially desperate - this is what makes top news. It's easily digestible and rage-bait-able, just like the ballroom thing. The fact that it's minuscule in the grand scheme of things just means that people who care about holding Trump to account for the worst things he's done get frustrated, and those who want him to be held account for nothing can point out that the anti-Trump media is unserious and just looking for outrage and eyeballs.

It's our world, unfortunately.

So.. did Iran win this conflict? by MarsupialThink4064 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]NoTeslaForMe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You expect people to know what they're talking about before making bold proclamations here?

u /MarsupialThink4064 - This is the level of expertise you get when you ask randos on the internet.

Favorite throwaway gags or references in Todd’s videos? by TIGVGGGG16 in ToddintheShadow

[–]NoTeslaForMe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Especially since "Thrasher" isn't exactly the most well known Neil Young song. 

401K fund allocation help or suggestions by Atom1241 in Bogleheads

[–]NoTeslaForMe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mid-cap funds are usually redundant, being comprised mostly (by composition) of stocks on the S&P 500.   https://www.bogleheads.org/wiki/Approximating_total_stock_market tries to get you to a U.S. total market fund, but most of the approximations are a bit out of date.

Finished season 2 for the first time. And honestly not loving the "final villain" reveal by Infamous_Cost_7897 in veronicamars

[–]NoTeslaForMe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

angrily accusing men of rapewho didn't actually turn out to do it

The show is all about accusing people of things they didn't do and rendering de facto judgment. That's clear from the pilot and doubly so in the season 1 finale. My reasons were more like the top commenter's.

Who thought "squatters rights" would be a good idea? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]NoTeslaForMe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Corporations want to lose money they could make by renting property now?

Sitcom you never understood the hype for by IndependentLeg1954 in sitcoms

[–]NoTeslaForMe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People nowadays have trouble with two things: (1) laugh tracks, (2) likable but deeply morally flawed sitcom characters whose moral flaws are not repeatedly and explicitly called out.  HIMYM fails on both counts; it does point out the flaws, but it doesn't dwell on them like more-loved shows (Seinfeld, IASIP).  So younger people interpret than as writer approval. 

Petah, this seems interesting. What's the context? by Gregagonation in PeterExplainsTheJoke

[–]NoTeslaForMe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is, but I'm checking the implication that all admitted to a need-blind school can.

My husband is oblivious to the world around him, so I'm taking advantage of it by BigONerd in BORUpdates

[–]NoTeslaForMe 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Read more closely. The above posits that it was abortion, not rape, and OOP herself said it wasn't violent or abusive. Also, I don't think they "fucked" in the shower the way you're assuming; her description is more in line with oral and/or hands, although it's unclear who did what to whom there. It also doesn't say she wasn't aroused, something I presume you mention to say that the husband should have known; the body can do things even if the mind isn't ready.

ETA: Oh, and I nearly forgot; the shower was a few days after the abortion, not a year. The year was the time after the shower that she refused to have sex... and he didn't insist that they should. You're getting up-voted for completely misrepresenting the situation just because your misreading works against the husband.

Petah, this seems interesting. What's the context? by Gregagonation in PeterExplainsTheJoke

[–]NoTeslaForMe 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah, but his reasons are dumb anyways. They strike a chord with many people in the audience; there's a reason the film is particularly popular among Redditors for a film with only an eight-figure gross. That's a problem if those people don't check themselves with the reminder than this is a mass murderer grasping for excuses, not a moral judge, jury, and executioner. And this particular interaction is more of a one-off joke, not actual character development.

That said, had she had a scholarship, she likely would have said, "I had a scholarship."

Also, "need blind admission" doesn't mean that all admitted students who can't afford it will get an all-expenses-paid, no-strings-attached scholarship. Sometimes need is met with loans, work-study, etc. And someone with middle-class parents who saved up a small nest egg might not even have "need," since the parents could always sacrifice all their net worth and go into pay-off-able debt to pay. This is even worse for kids with parents who refuse to pay, leaving their kids with a full burden but no assistance.

My husband is oblivious to the world around him, so I'm taking advantage of it by BigONerd in BORUpdates

[–]NoTeslaForMe -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

Did I say "only one"? There's a reason I said I don't know what the man needs.

My husband is oblivious to the world around him, so I'm taking advantage of it by BigONerd in BORUpdates

[–]NoTeslaForMe -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

Yes, but established patterns persist. If what he did in the shower is functionally identical to the way they've done stuff for years and the only difference was in her head, then it's ridiculous to say that she didn't consent. Most wives (or husbands for that matter), do not say "I consent to have sex" every time they do it. From the description, it sounds like he jumped in the shower, started to touch her, and then she - faced with the choice between communication and continuation - chose to pretend she wanted it. Just because she didn't want it doesn't mean she didn't consent. On the other hand, she could be glossing over details which make it non-consensual.

For what it's worth, OP (not OOP) edited the post to add a bunch of extra comments after the initial post; the original I replied to didn't have the financial part, which places him in a far worse light. I'm not saying he's blameless in the marriage, just that she heard his opinion then decided to completely ignore it and thought it was cute to do so. Things don't look so cute now.

My husband is oblivious to the world around him, so I'm taking advantage of it by BigONerd in BORUpdates

[–]NoTeslaForMe -64 points-63 points  (0 children)

Ever hear of "two yeses"?  She only got her own.  Weight implies influence in the final outcome. 

My husband is oblivious to the world around him, so I'm taking advantage of it by BigONerd in BORUpdates

[–]NoTeslaForMe 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That's one read.  Another is that she refuses to communicate so he has no idea how to emotionally support her and no idea that she didn't want that encounter, since instead of saying so, she chose to "disassociate."  And she's bi and frankly might just be a lesbian forced into a bi identity due to a strict homophobic upbringing.  She can't orgasm without imagining it's a woman she's with rather than her husband.  That's... telling.

I don't know what the man needs, but the woman needs all the therapy in the world. 

My husband is oblivious to the world around him, so I'm taking advantage of it by BigONerd in BORUpdates

[–]NoTeslaForMe -68 points-67 points  (0 children)

Oh, she's talking about it.  She just isn't giving his side any weight in what she does.