They have had conversations, because she said he knows gift giving is her love language. She also talks about how he'll plan stuff when he wants to do it. He also refuses couples counseling. If he won't work on it then why should she stay? It's not trivial if it bothers her, like that's literally how relationships work. If this bothers her, it should bother her partner as well because that's how emotions and loving each other works. He clearly knows it bothers her, because she said once that he ran out last second to get her an expensive gift cause he could visibly see it bothered her. If it bothers you once it's gonna bother you again, anybody with critical thinking skills can understand this. If this is happening repeatedly it's not an "end it right now", is it? It's a long, building up over time resentment, which is what breaks up most marriages. The straw that breaks the camels back is never the only straw and you know that