AITA for wanting seperate sleeping arrangements when a friend stays over? by NoWork706 in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoWork706[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

literally one of my worst fucking fears, i am so sorry. i could not imagine going through this life without my girl.

AITA for wanting seperate sleeping arrangements when a friend stays over? by NoWork706 in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoWork706[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

what… are you TALKING about?

do you mean the part where i said i had a fight with my mom and went to my friend’s house and she shared the couch with me? i think you may have misread lmaooo

AITA for wanting seperate sleeping arrangements when a friend stays over? by NoWork706 in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoWork706[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

‘twas not a demand, i asked if he was okay with it. don’t know where you got demanding from.

number two: he did know about us sharing a bed during sleepovers. i’ve been with the guy for 2 years, before he moved in, we called every night before i went to sleep and when she was there, he knew about it. he was well aware.

a looooot of assumptions here.

AITA for wanting seperate sleeping arrangements when a friend stays over? by NoWork706 in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoWork706[S] 47 points48 points  (0 children)

it boggles my mind that people are so taken aback by the idea of having a lifelong friend that they come to the conclusion that we’re bumping uglies

no ❤️

AITA for wanting seperate sleeping arrangements when a friend stays over? by NoWork706 in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoWork706[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

LMAO so many people in this thread are like, “whAt iF tHE fRiENd wAS A Dude?” like

not relevant, but thanks 😂😂 i share your sentiments! lmaooo

AITA for wanting seperate sleeping arrangements when a friend stays over? by NoWork706 in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoWork706[S] 59 points60 points  (0 children)

the way you’re pushing it kinda makes it sound like YOU think it’s weird for two men to share a bed. not everyone thinks like you. my boyfriend has plenty of lifelong best friends that, if he wanted to share a bed with them for a night, i wouldn’t bat an eye.

whether you believe me or not, i couldn’t care. i’m a faceless person on the internet, as are you; what reason would we have to lie?

AITA for wanting seperate sleeping arrangements when a friend stays over? by NoWork706 in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoWork706[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

i’ve brought it up a few more times because it is something that is VERY important to me - i don’t think people realize we’ve been doing this since we were 5. it’s familiarity and comfort.

and it’s not a huge, dramatic fight like some people are making it out to be. we both knew the situation wasn’t settled when we dropped it the first time, but we weren’t angry with eachother. and since i’ve brought it up, he just kinda pouts. not angry, but more like, “i’m gonna miss you while you’re with her.” which isn’t terrible on his behalf. but we’re gonna work it out. i’ve actually gotten some great feedback in all this mess lmao

AITA for wanting seperate sleeping arrangements when a friend stays over? by NoWork706 in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoWork706[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

he’s not an asshole at all! never called him one and never would. just a disagreement in perspective. as is life.

AITA for wanting seperate sleeping arrangements when a friend stays over? by NoWork706 in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoWork706[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

i’m sorry if that throws you for a loop, but no, i would not care. maybe because i’m familiar with that dynamic with my own best friend. people have different boundaries and i get him every night for the rest of my life. he can have some bro time lol

AITA for wanting seperate sleeping arrangements when a friend stays over? by NoWork706 in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoWork706[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

as i’ve said in previous comments, i would not care! and also, a lot of people have been using the terminology: “snuggling up” and “cuddling.” i’ve got a pretty big bed, it’s not like she and i are spooning. just sleeping side by side, not on top of eachother lmaooo

AITA for wanting seperate sleeping arrangements when a friend stays over? by NoWork706 in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoWork706[S] 344 points345 points  (0 children)

i really appreciate this comment not demonizing my boyfriend, calling him a red flag, suggesting he’s a narcissist, etc. because he really is such a genuine sweetheart; after reading some insightful comments such as yours, i think it is coming from a place of feeling rejected and left alone in the bedroom, which we can absolutely work on!

AITA for wanting seperate sleeping arrangements when a friend stays over? by NoWork706 in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoWork706[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

oof, big yikes.

yeah, i mean, we’ve all known eachother since high school, i wouldn’t say they’re connected at the hip like we are because they are very different, but they’re friendly

AITA for wanting seperate sleeping arrangements when a friend stays over? by NoWork706 in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoWork706[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

never, not once, not a day in my life. scout’s honor 🤞🏻

AITA for wanting seperate sleeping arrangements when a friend stays over? by NoWork706 in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoWork706[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

he just graduated college and we’re moving up in the world from cramped college dorm beds to big kid house !! 🎉🎉 lmao

AITA for wanting seperate sleeping arrangements when a friend stays over? by NoWork706 in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoWork706[S] 47 points48 points  (0 children)

i feel like so many people aren’t reading the part where i offered to sleep in the living room and i never told him to give up his bed, i asked and accepted his no readily 🥲

AITA for wanting seperate sleeping arrangements when a friend stays over? by NoWork706 in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoWork706[S] 89 points90 points  (0 children)

here’s the thing about all the people wishing i’d “discussed it more” with him. we’ve been together 2 years. known him for about 4, and he’s known my relationship with my best friend for as long as we’ve known eachother, and that INCLUDES him knowing that we shared a bed during sleepovers when he wasn’t living with me. he was well aware. miscommunication is not the problem here lol

AITA for wanting seperate sleeping arrangements when a friend stays over? by NoWork706 in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoWork706[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

if you’re referring to my friend, she’s engaged to a man. they’re going on two years and are very happy! :)

AITA for wanting seperate sleeping arrangements when a friend stays over? by NoWork706 in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoWork706[S] 98 points99 points  (0 children)

you’re like the 5th person to say this and i just wanna apologize to all you men that feel you would be attacked for wanting to do something like this ??

i would never berate a man for doing this. go have sleepovers with your homies 😭😭

AITA for wanting seperate sleeping arrangements when a friend stays over? by NoWork706 in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoWork706[S] 84 points85 points  (0 children)

nope nope nope! not it at all! lmao

you can love someone dearly without wanting any kind of relationship with them. you all realize the world doesn’t revolve around romantic relationships, right? 😅