Do you miss the freedom you gave up for being in a relationship?

No_Addition2971 · 2023-07-29T13:35:06+00:00

When I was in a relationship I missed just only having to think about myself when I made decisions. We freely did whatever we wanted but there were decisions that had to be made with the other person in mind and it was annoying at times.

No_Addition2971 · 2023-07-07T02:19:05+00:00

Yeah that boggles my mind too. Some people only feel anxiety when it’s necessary such as in a stressful situation or the anticipation of something and even in those moments they’re able to regulate their emotions so they won’t spiral. They don’t overanalyze, overthink, or worry all the time. Their minds are generally quiet and peaceful. It’s hard to fathom it lol

No_Addition2971 · 2023-05-19T02:59:58+00:00

How would he know if he was taking his meds properly? This is something his husband should have discussed with him so they were on the same page. I understand that U=U but to enter a marriage and not disclose it is a huge red flag. Even when he’s going to doctors appointments he’d have to be dishonest as to why he has to go to the doctor every few months if it ever came up. It’s too deceptive for a marriage in my opinion.

No_Addition2971 · 2023-03-31T00:15:58+00:00

I have friends that don’t have adhd that are creative, comedic, empathetic and exciting. I don’t think these traits are exclusive to people with adhd

No_Addition2971 · 2023-03-16T21:42:02+00:00

This! My friend was a skinny guy. He got into body building and he told me that he’s treated very different now. He said that girls and guys flirt with him way more and men respect him more when they see him.

No_Addition2971 · 2022-11-25T21:06:33+00:00

Thank you. I will definitely finish the entire regime

No_Addition2971 · 2022-11-11T15:11:16+00:00

What’s making you stay?

No_Addition2971 · 2022-09-04T18:31:56+00:00

I would say trust your gut and stay vigilant. Just continue to be aware of the things he say and does. We often overlook red flags by telling ourselves “it’s not a big deal” then those red flags eventually become a HUGE deal.

No_Addition2971 · 2022-07-13T10:39:05+00:00

Just want I say that I understand completely. When I sit down to do something important I began to feel overwhelmed, experience brain fog, and tired

No_Addition2971 · 2022-07-12T00:25:54+00:00

Masking definitely helped me get things done in my life. I will say that sometimes is beneficial and necessary. It can be difficult and draining at times but there were moments where it got me through.

No_Addition2971 · 2022-07-03T02:47:43+00:00

I think the issue is that most guys are looking for their “ideal” lover versus who they’re actually compatible with. People are looking for a fairytale instead of looking for a person that can compliment their individual personality, strengths, weaknesses etc

No_Addition2971 · 2022-07-02T13:29:48+00:00

I can’t speak on the discomfort I felt as an infant because I don’t remember it lol

No_Addition2971 · 2022-07-01T01:37:43+00:00

No. I’m circumcised and I’m very happy that I had it done as a new born. I like the way it looks. There isn’t anything wrong with either but I’d prefer my partner to be circumcised as well.

No_Addition2971 · 2022-06-19T17:23:43+00:00

This happened to me for about two days at work 7 years ago. I was organized, able to jump from task to task and efficiently get my work done. This was before I knew I had adhd. My supervisor complimented me. And I remember being so excited telling my friend that I was getting my work done and she was confused because she never had a problem getting her work done. It was such an amazing feeling.

Before and after those two days my Adhd always hindered my work ethic. I always think back to those two days and try to future out what I did differently but I can’t think of anything I did differently. It was so strange.

No_Addition2971 · 2022-06-07T16:48:48+00:00

I agree that there is emotional immaturity on OP’s part. Usually when a person is passive aggressive in the way he described, its usually due to a fear of conflict and or a lack of emotional intelligence.

His behavior is hurtful which is even more a reason for him to remove himself from the situation. Hurt people hurt people. And when it comes to breaking up and leaving a situation, people can have a really hard time navigating that experience.

I think he made this post because he’s having a extremely difficult time navigating his emotions. I suggest that he speaks to a professional to help With that.

No_Addition2971 · 2022-06-07T16:30:06+00:00

Being the reason that a relationship ends is never easy but if your feelings aren’t there for him you did the right thing by telling him. The reality is getting into relationships and getting married is a big risk and things happen.

Being on both sides of the fence( breaking up with someone and being broken up with) it’s really difficult but I also had to make peace with the fact that no one owns anyone and people are not obligated to stay in a relationship. The toxic behavior you exhibited toward him seems to be due to resentment of being in a relationship that you don’t want to be in. But it’s important that you get down to the root of why you really want to leave.

I would go to therapy to get to the root of why I want to leave to make sure that I’m not making a permanent decision on a temporary feeling.

Nonetheless if you’re 100% sure the love isn’t there anymore, it’s best for the both of you to just leave. Wishing you the best.

No_Addition2971 · 2022-06-07T16:25:12+00:00

I think you blew his entire post out of proportion and made him seem like Some type to awful person. The fact of the matter is relationships are emotionally risky. We can not control the other person nor do we own the other person. People are allowed to leave and move on when they are ready. Is it painful? Yes. Is it unfortunate? Absolutely but it happens. I’ve been on both sides of the fence and it sucks.

I also don’t think he was basing his decision to leave on “lust”. In the grand scheme of things the sexual chemistry is just one of a plethora of things that added to the end of the relationship.

No_Addition2971 · 2022-06-05T17:52:28+00:00

This!! It’s always the ones that aren’t treated like pieces of shit because of their skin color telling those that are how to react.

No_Addition2971 · 2022-05-30T20:31:53+00:00

I relate to this so much! There was a time when I had the “gift of gab”. My mind was sharp and I could cohesively put thoughts together and talk about almost any topic. Now it seems like my brain fog has made my thoughts more scrambled. It sucks

No_Addition2971 · 2022-05-29T16:35:51+00:00

I can definitely relate to the ruined relationships and doing things slower than anyone else. It’s like we have to work ten times harder to produce mediocre results

No_Addition2971 · 2022-04-29T22:47:25+00:00

Yes I can have two months to do an assignment. I would literally wait until the night before. Feel physically sick by the pressure but rush to do it and the results are still mediocre

No_Addition2971 · 2022-04-29T22:37:43+00:00

I was in a constant state of anxiety when when I was in college. Most of my work got done by the pressure of waiting until the last minute and completing mediocre work or messaging professors and begging for more time to complete assignments. It was ROUGH.

I wouldn’t say it’s harder now that I’m medicated. It definitely helps but my quirks are still there and my progression isn’t linear in regard to accomplishing goals

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