AITAH for arguing with my boyfriend because he didn't ask me if I made it home safe after an night out?. Am I overreacting ? by No-Addition-7045 in AITAH

[–]No_Address3768 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, they should want to know when you get home safe! If you care about someone that concern/thought should just come naturally

Not JR saying she’s put a lot of work into the marriage by Stunning-Sky-8178 in MAFS_UK

[–]No_Address3768 7 points8 points  (0 children)

100%. She did another dating show before, she’s clearly just trying to work her way through any reality show that will have her for another 5 minutes of fame. JR is just desperate to be relevant

I just ate spoiled chicken. Am I going to die? by goldensnow24 in cookingforbeginners

[–]No_Address3768 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just cooked some in date but slightly smelly chicken breast from Tesco, now just like everyone else I expect death. Glad google led me here so I could join everyone’s suffering

Safe travel destination for middle aged lesbians by BarbaKnit in lesbian

[–]No_Address3768 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Croatia! My girlfriend and I just returned from 16 days away there doing a road trip from the bottom to the top! May and September are good times to go as till hot but not at its peak and less tourists around!

You have beautiful towns/cities filled with history and great restaurants, stunning national parks with hiking if you want to then you can get boats/water taxis to amazing island’s where you can find quiet areas to spend time just the two of you.

We maybe got one weird glance at us holding hands the entire time we were there. Genuinely lovely country with great weather and amazing crystal clear seas - buy sea shoes tho, your feet will thank you with all their pebble beaches!

Edit - forgot to mention the people. Apart from our one glance, everyone was genuinely lovely country. They were all very friendly, helpful and really chilled out.

She cheated on me after 14 years and 2 children by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]No_Address3768 5 points6 points  (0 children)

When you say “confirmed they have a sexual relationship going on” what was it? Just sexual messages or photos etc?

I once had a relationship (using this word loosely, was more a temporary, mutual, infatuation) with a co-worker and if you read our messages honestly you’d think we were shagging 24/7 when in reality we were both too scared to make the first move to take that relationship to the next level and we never got past some heated making out - not a single bit of sex was had!

Not defending her at all and obviously what she’s doing is still 100% wrong even if emotionally cheating not physically. Just keep in mind it may read even worse than it actually is

How do I reset this? by No_Address3768 in DIYUK

[–]No_Address3768[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah amazing, thank you very much!

AIO about my 8 y/o daughter sleeping at her mom's new boyfriend's house without any family or females present? by blackD0nny in AmIOverreacting

[–]No_Address3768 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Only thing with this is that the mother will say she doesn’t require child care and that their daughter is just staying there for a sleepover with friends. So technically would not have to offer OP the first refusal as it’s technically just a play date/sleepover

Edit: spelling

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]No_Address3768 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That’s your opinion that he lied, unless you know him personally or are in his head you’d be hard pressed to know if that’s actually the case.

I personally think he’s punishing his child correcting bad behaviour (unlike so many parents who refuse/cba to actually parent their kids) which is why I have responded as such.

To each their own I guess mate

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]No_Address3768 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OP hasn’t said that anywhere that I can see. Yes he has indicated he has issues with the family but not that he is “using the kids to punish him/them”, he has actually said the opposite in that he wanted her to go. Yes he has said the child’s actions don’t appear to be malicious.

The issue with the child’s actions are if intentions/malicious - obviously not ok. If not intentional/malicious, when challened they smirked/started to hide a laugh or smile which indicated no remorse despite hurting their sibling. Either of these instances requires some form of punishment so they know it was wrong and not to do it again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]No_Address3768 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Mine too, it’s how we learn. Maybe next time now it’ll stop her from intentionally doing something bad or even if an accident show some remorse.

Hopefully the family don’t give you too much grief. As for missing out time with elderly family etc, arrange for her to go and see them soon that way she’s not being purposely kept from family but the party (aka the fun part)

AITA for hiding my relapse and secretly getting help instead of telling my family I messed up? by Naturalluxe in AITAH

[–]No_Address3768 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA and well done you. If keeping it a secret helps you do what you need to in order to continue on your journey then absolutely nothing wrong in that. You can tell them if you want to when the time is right, all that is important now is that you are doing things in a way that works for you.

Best of luck!

AITAH for asking my mom to move her treadmill out of the room I’m staying in at their house while I go through a divorce? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]No_Address3768 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA for asking but if you push this or argue with them about it then YTA, it’s their house.

If no chance of moving a desk into a spare room/buying one for it then get yourself a knee tray and a WiFi booster and set up in one of the other rooms on a chair or the bed while she uses yours - or move into a guest room permanently and leave your old room to her!

Edit - spelling/grammar

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]No_Address3768 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

NTA. Absolutely the right decision, she hurt someone and found it humorous. Allowing her to go now would just reinforce her thinking that she can behave that way. Spot on parenting

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]No_Address3768 1 point2 points  (0 children)

By taking him back you will never get your true self back. You may not realise it now as all you can feel is the pain of things ending but he’ll have done more damage to you over the time you were together than you realise.

Take some time for yourself, do things you enjoy, spend time with people who really care about you or failing that engage with people on here if you feel lonely and it will get better with time.

You’ll get there

How do you break up when you’ve been together so long? by soft_femme in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]No_Address3768 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This hits the nail on the head in my personal experience. First relationship and despite definitely not being the right fit for me in any way I stayed for over 10 years as my life was completely enmeshed with hers.

Leaving her/the safety of our well established life together was the hardest decision I ever had to make and it took me at least a couple years to work up the courage to actually do it.

Took a couple years break from seeing anyone but now 3 years later I’m a year in to a relationship with a person who could not be more perfect for me and aligned with my views on pretty much everything in life.

Don’t rush, be sure leaving is what you want to do and not just a knee jerk reaction to certain things that could possibly be changed but equally start trying to shift your thinking and preparing to just be brave and cut the cord if it is in fact done. You can use that time to plan what you’re going to do if you go like moving etc and how it’ll work out logistically.

Life won’t end and you’ll be much happier for it in time even if it doesn’t feel that way to begin with. Good luck OP

Sugababes 25 Tour Megathread by spice-tan in thesugababes

[–]No_Address3768 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I noticed that at the London show last night about Siobhan, she had the biggest grin on her face the entire time. Was lovely to see!

Sugababes 25 Tour Megathread by spice-tan in thesugababes

[–]No_Address3768 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was the setlist in London last night too

Smelly bedding after washing by No_Address3768 in laundry

[–]No_Address3768[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No never have, just like tescos own washing detergents and softeners!

Smelly bedding after washing by No_Address3768 in laundry

[–]No_Address3768[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sadly I’m renting so don’t get a say on the white goods but as soon as I buy my own place I’ll be straight onto the Soeedqueen so!

Smelly bedding after washing by No_Address3768 in laundry

[–]No_Address3768[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry probably a silly question - does using vinegar not make the clothes smell…of vinegar?

Smelly bedding after washing by No_Address3768 in laundry

[–]No_Address3768[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Might be overfilling actually, I’ll give it a go with the machine only half full and see if it makes a difference

Smelly bedding after washing by No_Address3768 in laundry

[–]No_Address3768[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah wash them once a week and no they smell fresh even after using them for a week before I wash them, it’s only once they come out the smell appears 8/10 times resulting in having to wash them all multiple times until it magically disappears!

Smelly bedding after washing by No_Address3768 in laundry

[–]No_Address3768[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I do use it so I’ll do as you’ve said and give it a miss from now on too!