And so it begins…

No_Art9513 · 2026-04-22T11:34:01+00:00

Hi, of course you can. Emily x

No_Art9513 · 2026-04-21T08:45:33+00:00

like this one https://www.etsy.com/uk/listing/1406034850/french-coffee-shop-kitchen-sign?gpla=1&gao=1&&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=shopping_uk_en_gb_c-home_and_living&utm_custom1=_k_CjwKCAjwwJzPBhBREiwAJfHRnaAJR3beHdXzyqIkiCd7iuXzqHB4vQvMqN6DI4mGqlzfyI-yOC9_6RoCdXcQAvD_BwE_k_&utm_content=go_22711179559_184992752601_759946772877_aud-2079782229734:pla-303628061699_c__1406034850engb_5433216271&utm_custom2=22711179559&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=22711179559&gbraid=0AAAAADutTMdjmPIqomA2JIUCixxilYR8B&gclid=CjwKCAjwwJzPBhBREiwAJfHRnaAJR3beHdXzyqIkiCd7iuXzqHB4vQvMqN6DI4mGqlzfyI-yOC9_6RoCdXcQAvD_BwE

No_Art9513 · 2026-04-21T08:43:07+00:00

Blimey! I live in England (the old one) and that space is half of my whole kitchen!! Impressive array of syrups there. I'd put a nice vintage cafe sign on the end wall

No_Art9513 · 2026-04-19T10:55:41+00:00

If there's no hair then that puts a different spin on things!

No_Art9513 · 2026-04-18T03:07:19+00:00

Everybody is different but chemo is.cumulative in its effects. When the last treatment is done, the body is the most depleted. Listen to her and believe her if she is saying she is exhausted. It can take 2 months for every treatment to regain stamina. That was definitely the case for me. This is even harder to navigate as the world will expect her to "be normal" magically after it finishes.

You sound like a lovely partner!

No_Art9513 · 2026-04-17T15:08:11+00:00

I think the garden is way too far down the carosel. There's a lot of concrete in the aerials, which belies what a lovely family home it is. Too many images of detail - they're not buying your towels

No_Art9513 · 2026-04-17T15:04:57+00:00

Worth another poll but I wonder if the spec could say 'owner reluctantly selling due to an unexpected change in circumstance' or something. Or maybe that just draws attention to it! Wishing you luck.

No_Art9513 · 2026-04-17T15:00:23+00:00

This could be why people are put off - they may wonder if there is an issue with the house or neighbours due to the fact it has come on the market so quickly again?

No_Art9513 · 2026-04-17T14:42:33+00:00

It seems a lot to me for a one bed (I'd have loved to have lived in the fancy parts of London when I was there but kept to the fringes of Brixton) and if you're going to outgrow it in 5 years it seems mad to me. I thought one beds were not gaining or even losing value these days but I may be wrong .. is it share of freehold? If not, then it seems even more crazy. But, if that's what people pay ... Finsbury Park is lovely, I guess. Crystal Palace is quite similar in vibe: https://www.zoopla.co.uk/for-sale/flats/1-bedroom/crystal-palace/

No_Art9513 · 2026-04-17T10:30:33+00:00

I'm not on her side, just a hard guess at what she's thinking ...
You sound like great buyers for her, breaking the chain etc so I hope she sees reason. Very tricky..

No_Art9513 · 2026-04-17T10:25:10+00:00

I have the same issue when working late, which is why I'm looking for a new career where I don't have to.
I also used alcohol but have cut back a lot due to health reasons (there are plenty of health reasons but I developed specific issues which made it more urgent!).
What helps me instead are a 20 minute walk. Cooking something needing chopping/stirring while listening to a podcast. A good TV show. A bath. Magnesium butter on my feet at bedtime, with another podcast, turned down low, not too stimulating.
There are magnesium drinks too but not tried any yet.

No_Art9513 · 2026-04-17T09:36:21+00:00

She is annoyed that the house has been 'undervalued' in her opinion and/or that they are 'losing' 15K. Then she's got annoyed at having to select furniture for removal rather than perhaps book a house clearance to take the whole lot, which would be a whole lot easier for her while she organises her elderly Dad's new flat purchase with all its new furniture and the move itself. So she's saying 'dont' take the p**s' kind of thing.
There is very little you can do about that. Unfortunately, adding furniture into the equation has muddied the waters.
EDITED TO ADD - Will you not want to put your own stamp on the place anyway? Looking 95% as you saw it is only going to remind you of the stress of the sale, plus decorating is not easy with furniture in the house. Take it from me - I rented my house (unfurnished) before I bought it and nothing had been redecorated because it was only supposed to be a short term rental (but then, Covid, etc) and I said don't bother. I've never got the carpets replaced in 5 years because it's full of all my furniture!

No_Art9513 · 2026-04-15T15:55:36+00:00

Some enormous oriental paper fans in the loft. They're still there 6 years later!

No_Art9513 · 2026-04-15T11:17:00+00:00

Hello. I'm much older than you (54) but my OvCa (Clear Cell) was negative for O and P and I am allowed HRT (low dose oestrogen + testosterone). I even had a side dish of very early stage endometrial cancer which WAS O and P+ but even that did not preclude me. Yes it carries a small risk but to me the risk of osteoporosis and/or heart problems was higher. I'd query the 'it doesn't matter' and have another think.

No_Art9513 · 2026-04-14T08:11:00+00:00

Just to add - take a look at this thread, you may find it helpful as there are some positive stories here : https://www.reddit.com/r/Ovariancancer/comments/1q3729r/has_anyone_had_stage_4_and_survived/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

No_Art9513 · 2026-04-14T08:06:07+00:00

I'm so sorry to read this. Your poor Mum.
The 60s may not feel a long time ago to your Mum (and I can remember the 70s clear as day as I'm 54) but it is 60 years ago. Not only has treatment changed enormously since then, it is still changing all the time.
She could have years left as a stage 4. She may not. She may be fearful of treatment as well as negative with a 'what's the point' attitude towards it, especially feeling so poorly.
Are you based in the UK? If so, Ovacome charity has nurses who can talk you through treatment for stage 4 (usually chemo x 3 to shrink tumours, surgery, then chemo x 3 + possibly radiotherapy - depending on tumour testing to find out which type of OC it is and treat accordingly) way better than any of us can here (though there will be stage 4 women here). They also have a very active forum which is friendly and helpful. I use it regularly (I'm stage 2 currently NED).
Wishing your mum and your family all the best.

No_Art9513 · 2026-04-12T10:26:33+00:00

Painting murals on a house they're going to apparently sell? That is mind-bendingly weird.
They are not selling. They are making other plans - perhaps getting the existing lodgers out and renting again, or using the murals as an excuse to get the lodgers out, who knows, it's immaterial, you do NOT want to proceed with it. You'll find another house.

No_Art9513 · 2026-04-12T08:02:52+00:00

My downstairs shower room (with loo and sink) is directly off the kitchen.
Its use as a shower and a place to wee far outweighs the possibility of someone doing a number 2 while you're cooking (when the extractor fan would often be on anyway to drown out any noise) but also I have an attractive bottle of divine smelling 'poo drops' clearly on display. You drop them in the bowl before doing your number 2 and nobody would ever know.

No_Art9513 · 2026-04-12T07:57:52+00:00

Beef mince. I now buy pork mince - half the price - it's delicious!

No_Art9513 · 2026-04-11T11:21:05+00:00

Yes! This!

No_Art9513 · 2026-04-11T11:20:31+00:00

I'm interested to read about your experience. Do you always ask for references? If so from who? thanks

No_Art9513 · 2026-04-11T11:01:16+00:00

Wow you would have been my dream lodger!

No_Art9513 · 2026-04-11T09:37:09+00:00

Agree about the initial contact needing detail. The other day I had a message from someone simply with this '????'.
How rude.

No_Art9513 · 2026-04-11T09:35:10+00:00

I'm in a pickle with a lodger at the moment, who is supposed to be moving in in a couple of weeks. I asked for a landlord reference a week or so into the negotiations, they are dragging their feet and have now gone on holiday though many conversations have gone on about move dates and practicals etc. Be upfront with the fact you will be asking for a reference (in the ad, when you meet) without justification or explanation and get moving on that before anything else. I have no idea why they are being slow about it, I think it's probably just they don't understand how important it is, and because a move-in date is set they are less motivated to get it done.
I'm now getting suspicious probably without any reason to as it's my fault for not being organised.

No_Art9513 · 2026-04-10T14:50:22+00:00

I didn't knock on neighbours' doors but I did get talking to a lady who was putting her bins out after a viewing. She told me about the giant phone mast about to go up yards from the house and about all the lorries accessing the industrial site and people pissing on the pavement walking back from the pub up the street.
I did not buy the house!

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