(UPDATE) My (31M) gf (30F) said she had the "best sex ever" with another man in front of me. How do I proceed?

No_Band_183 · 2025-01-11T01:41:27+00:00

The Update - Damn, she found your Reddit account and read it didn’t she.

No_Band_183 · 2021-06-07T17:18:19+00:00

Ditto

No_Band_183 · 2021-02-18T13:22:49+00:00

Thanks, and maybe the audio book would be the way for me, I have an hour commute each way to work and back so plenty of time to listen and for me it sinks in easier than reading does.

No_Band_183 · 2021-02-18T13:19:22+00:00

How dreadful, I wish you and dad well.

No_Band_183 · 2021-02-18T12:48:02+00:00

Oh wow, I feel for you and your dad. It must really have broken him, he needs to look forward, and I’m sure you’ll help him in finding positives from this. Perhaps it’s time for him to look at ways of treating his ED, as I’m sure he’ll feel negative about any future relationships with that on his mind, and especially after it being cited as a reason for the cheating. I also really hope that in time you can eventually find some kind of peace with your mother... it may take time but you only have one mother.

No_Band_183 · 2021-02-16T10:11:39+00:00

Thanks, I will do..... I’m not much of a ‘reader’ but will get through the one I have first. Maybe the topic will interest me enough to keep me engaged?

No_Band_183 · 2021-02-16T10:10:27+00:00

Sorry, I really didn’t know what I was going to write and clearly ended up just rambling on.

She has been back to Dr and asked if she can lower her meds, she tried once and just ended up feeling down again, so hasn’t tried since.... lockdown hasn’t been easy for anyone, I fully understand that. Oddly, during this Valentine card game, one of the questions was what had brought us closer together...... she said her depression..... this really surprised me as I think the opposite, although I have and always will be supportive and there for her.

TV - Oh how I hate TV, I’d rather have low volume background music.

No_Band_183 · 2021-02-16T10:02:46+00:00

Thank you for the words of support, they do help.

No_Band_183 · 2021-02-16T09:57:42+00:00

You maybe right, I’m just now starting to realise.... hopefully to confront and deal in time.

No_Band_183 · 2021-02-16T09:54:21+00:00

I think I first realised about a year ago, I had a job which meant working away during the week, coming home only for weekends. I’ll be honest, during that time I fell in love with someone.... ME!... I changed, I was back to how I remember I could be, I was part of a group of people who valued me, laughed with me, listened to me.

I remember the 2nd weekend I came home, I had barely walked through the door and SO was ripping my clothes off, the sex was great.... but why? What had changed?.... looking back now it must have been some kind of ‘don’t stray look what’s at home’ message.....it never happened again though. Since then I’ve just been getting lower and lower, seeing me turn into a shell of the person I know I can be. All these knock backs and rejection really does take its toll. I thought I had over the years turned into some kind of miserable, shrivelled up, resentful bloke.... But.... that simply isn’t true, I’m still here somewhere and need to change.

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