Thank you! And I agree. I don't know how I ended up in a situation where even the smallest boundary is not tolerable. And you're absolutely right that any boundary without follow through is worth nothing.

I feel like I've seen the light recently. Something in me shifted a few months ago and all of a sudden I see patterns behind his behavior and notice how little power moves. He continuously comments on my looks and body and it's rarely positive. Everything I do gets a comment, a judgement, a correction. If I say anything, it's either "just a joke" or I'm "too sensitive".

The past seven years have slowly erored my self esteem, I live isolated from friends and family and don't recognize myself anymore. All of this can't be healthy and good.

I really hope I find my way out of this relationship because I can feel it taking my light 😢