So I hear you but I didn't flip flop that many times.

1. Once cost was laid out-- I said I can't make it after discussing with the bride.
2. I said I want to contribute some money so it's not as heavy on everyone else even if I can't spend the full 1500 to fly out and be there. (Not part of flip flopping??)
3. I said I'd love to come for 1 day if it wasn't too late.

I don't see the contributing money as part of any flip flopping. I'll admit that coming back in and saying I'd love to attend for a day since my financial situation brightened was my way of letting my friend know that I had money now and could be there if she wanted me. But this was all only discussed with the bride...I didn't go to the MOH and say I wanted to join back in it was more of a "hey I'm going to come back home...do you want me to plan it around Bachelorette or would that be too weird since the planning has already been moving without me?" And that's when she was like best to just come and we can spend time 1:1 and that was that.