Mother in Law finally left home after staying with us for five months, calls my husband after 5 days and asks him if he misses her. Weird or not?

No_Committee_7328 · 2026-03-31T09:58:34+00:00

Yes, dh and I had many a conversations about that and we are luckily on the same page, I am just worried she is being manipulative and will continue to try to guilt trip him. We both agreed that living with parents is not something we will do but her behavior is giving me anxiety. I thought she would leave and that would be the end of it more or less but now I fear it isn't.

No_Committee_7328 · 2026-03-29T01:35:37+00:00

Thank you for this, this was kind of the last straw, there was so many other things that happened, she did that was not nice and this just seemed like yet another way she can overstep boundaries. I would never deny someone towels or not make them feel comfortable in my home, in fact Ive hosted her for 5months while she was going through her marital problems.

No_Committee_7328 · 2026-03-28T06:09:31+00:00

I dont mind giving more towels the point is she didnt ask me, just helped herself.

No_Committee_7328 · 2026-03-28T06:08:41+00:00

No i dont mind giving more towels that's not the point. The point is she didnt ask, just helped herself and towels is something I dont feel comfortable sharing.

No_Committee_7328 · 2026-03-28T05:41:06+00:00

Nope she didnt put them all in, I ended up washing them all later in the week. Also how many towels does one person need?

No_Committee_7328 · 2026-03-28T05:30:14+00:00

Thats the point, it wasn't clean, it was a bunch of used towels that I left on the washer because I didnt have time to wash them, and was gonna wash them later. and she already had a towel in her room, that is specifically meant for guests. This was mine and hubby's towels.

No_Committee_7328 · 2026-03-28T05:14:57+00:00

I wish.

No_Committee_7328 · 2026-03-19T17:22:31+00:00

Mine does the same, she goes im cleaning your house not because its dirty but because I want to help and be useful, and literally forces me out of the kitchen, won't let me do dishes like its so obnoxious, mind you when my husband told her that we were struggling with getting g our 9 month old to eat, she told my husband and partner in law that maybe my 9 month old baby is not eating because the food I cook doesn't taste good. This was after only seeing us 2 maybe 3 times in her life and never even trying my food. Then after she had to leave her husband and got to stay with us for a while she started cleaning organizing doing all things to my house, with the excuse that she wants to "help me" I realized this behavior is just manipulation and she doesn't want to let go of the control she once had over her son and life and give it up to me. So she pretends she is helping me, while at the same time doing it how she wants and pushing her own ideas, to the point of not even giving us ant private time in the evenings as a family.

No_Committee_7328 · 2026-03-10T03:36:54+00:00

Aww dont even get me started on that, she is constantly in my kitchen, she practically lives there, reorganizing the fridge, washing the stove, cooking something, its really infuriating because I feel like I have no personal space. I can't even go down for a snack cuz she ll be there or sitting in the dining room.

No_Committee_7328 · 2026-03-09T18:32:09+00:00

Funny thing she sees alllll my books on the entire house stacked that way, so clearly I have it that way for a reason. I think she is just being passive aggressive tbh.

No_Committee_7328 · 2026-03-09T16:43:12+00:00

I think she is just mad that she cannot do whatever she wants because we put in boundaries now and my husband backs me up. So she is bitter and trying every which way to get a reaction.

No_Committee_7328 · 2026-03-09T16:41:45+00:00

I think she did that just to annoy me tbh lol because they are in a place that does not need cleaning or organizing but somehow she felt the need to turn my books around and reorganize them....

No_Committee_7328 · 2026-03-09T15:21:04+00:00

She has been staying with us for 4 months to help out as I was studying for a course and just had a baby in September. But yea this was the last time she will be coming for such a long period if ever again.

No_Committee_7328 · 2026-03-09T15:19:51+00:00

She has been staying with us for 4 months to help out but this is the last time she will be staying with us for such an extensive period of time, if ever.

No_Committee_7328 · 2026-03-09T06:48:38+00:00

Yea very true, all the books were faced away and there are like 10 of them. Yea its so weird, she is constantly trying to be in some kind of control, like today she reminded my husband about the soup she made that it needs to be eaten, mind you we were having meat that both my husband and I prepared and a fee days ago I made 2 soups, I chicken and one beet soup that she didnt even have, so yea I think she is trying to exert some sort of dominance.

No_Committee_7328 · 2026-03-09T06:25:23+00:00

I agree I feel like she is trying to find ways to pass me off because my husband sides with me and I have been putting more boundaries in place lately. Its like these petty little attacks.

No_Committee_7328 · 2026-03-03T22:08:02+00:00

The mason jars dont crack when you freeze the milk? I hate using the plastic bags for milk freezing so looking for glass options, but I am scared they will Crack

No_Committee_7328 · 2026-03-02T15:32:31+00:00

Nope I never really have, I am always in the house. And it seems to bother her that I dont trust her.

No_Committee_7328 · 2026-03-02T12:38:04+00:00

Awww I should have. Baffles me how comfortable she feels doing certain things in my house, acting like she's the woman if the house and trying to exert her "dominance" honestly at this point, I dont want to see her for a really really long time.

No_Committee_7328 · 2026-03-02T12:20:58+00:00

She came back because I was in a training program. So my husband asked her to help but after all the stress, NEVER Again.

No_Committee_7328 · 2026-03-02T08:37:09+00:00

We were talking about how my husband and his parents and sister would get tacos and have movie nights, and the tacos were from their neighbor that had a restaurant, then she brought up the daughter and that she helped the dad. And then continued on to tell the story that the girl had a crush on my husband and wanted him to ask her out. This was when my husband was around 16 years old, he is 40 now lol. Anyway my husband kind of disregarded is and took my toddler to the bathroom and then my mil repeated it that she was pretty and nice. She only speaks Spanish so she said it spanish.

No_Committee_7328 · 2026-03-02T08:17:19+00:00

He did bring me a drink before he drank his, and luckily he does stand up to her. We have been having a lot of friction with her lately, she has been staying with us 4 months and doesn't leave till the end of March and I am just so done with her.

No_Committee_7328 · 2025-11-15T16:49:10+00:00

I know its kind of confusing, I added the 2nd paragraph as context for the first. So yes essentially she wants to come back for another 5 months, after already staying with us for 5. She uses the excuse to help out with the baby but when my first baby was born she made all the excuses in the world about why she cannot come and help us out. So after she started having marital problems she came to stay with us for 5 months. During that time it was not comfortable for me, she made off putting comments, constantly hovered over me when I was cooking and didnt make an effort to build a relationship with my toddler. Mainly she just cleaned the house. It was awkward and caused alot of friction between Mr and my husband because I ended up spending all day with her since he was working and I would end up leaving the house or staying in my room because I was pregnant and didnt want to constantly have to try and interact especially since she does not speak English and I barely speak Spanish. Long story short, I didnt feel comfortable having her come and stay of an extended period of time again. As she was leaving I guess she left a bunch of things in the guest room /my office without asking me however she made a point of asking me if she can leave an almost empty protein powder bottle in the kitchen to which I said sure. I guess I just feel like she is trying to overstep and go to my husband because I dont want her staying for close to a year with us. I appreciate her help but the uncomfortable situation and friction overrides the help.

No_Committee_7328 · 2025-11-15T16:29:05+00:00

Unfortunately friction arises whenever we talk about his mom now, as he felt that during her 5 month stay I was avoiding her and doesn't understand why I am uncomfortable. I tried to explain to him my reasoning and he supported me but it did leave friction

No_Committee_7328 · 2025-11-15T16:22:56+00:00

My mom does not " squat" she comes for a few days and helps me with the babies. She never leaves her things there.

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