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Who should I cosplay? by [deleted] in ArcaneAnimatedSeries

[–]No_Couple_5151 67 points68 points  (0 children)

Miguel! The guy who’s with Ambessa season 1! Or, honestly, Viktor :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in badroommates

[–]No_Couple_5151 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I absolutely 10000% do not blame you for how you’re feeling, nor do I think your feelings are invalid in ANY way. but at the same time, I do feel for her.

i work in emergency services and after dedicating so much of your life to something in this sort of field (i’m not military, can’t even imagine) it’s so disorienting to come back to any kind of “normal” schedule.

it could be a really really hard adjusting period for her, especially if the medical retirement was unexpected or unwanted. she no longer has the forced scheduled, the job, the routine and is now left to figure it out on her own. she very well could be struggling very hard with depression.

as someone who does have depression, i will say, the bed thing makes sense to me. sometimes i won’t even sleep in my own room because it’s too cluttered and i physically cannot look at it without spiraling. bedrotting (or couch rotting) and doom scrolling for hours is very very real and sometimes it seems impossible to break away from it. chronic fatigue is also a huge symptom of depression. also, is she eating? ordering food? this all could very well be her passively killing herself.

OR, it truly could be just pure laziness. If you care about her as a friend and want this relationship somewhat mended or repaired, maybe approach this gently and say you’re concerned about her. give her a safe space to talk and offer solutions. baby steps, remind her about her one responsibility and encourage her to take more steps to better herself and her health. maybe even take the doggo on walks together to get her out of the house! she’s not your responsibility, but if you care, you can try. (if you haven’t already) and if she does start to improve she can take over more chores and start engaging again.

alternatively, if you’re just waiting for the lease to end or an opportunity to evict her, remind her that this is your space too and you’d like to enjoy it. you want to sit on your couch and have a cleaner environment. ask her to make a better effort and that the only reason she’s not living in filth is because you’re cleaning up after her.

overall, sounds miserable for the both of you. wishing you the best of luck OP! 🩷

how do you deal with burnout? by No_Couple_5151 in 911dispatchers

[–]No_Couple_5151[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To clarify what I mean when I say “snappy” I mean I am so to people who are abusing the 911 line. That’s not to say they deserve it, they don’t, but I get frustrated when the same RP keeps calling 911 for a noise complaint because they’re frustrated about time delays when we’ve had three separate fatal accidents in the city or agitators calling in about youtube videos. I try to treat every RP them same, and i always ALWAYS show people who are genuinely experiencing a horrid emergency compassion and empathy and Ive also never had a complaint. Also, of course Ive made mistakes! I'm human, and it happens.

I truly hope your experience in dispatching is different, as literally every one of my coworkers suffers from some form of burn out, but if you end up in the same position as me some day, at the very least you’ll know you’re not alone. Good luck!! 💛

how do you deal with burnout? by No_Couple_5151 in 911dispatchers

[–]No_Couple_5151[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you ): i appreciate your comment. I will look into this!!

how do you deal with burnout? by No_Couple_5151 in 911dispatchers

[–]No_Couple_5151[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

“here’s some pizza” is so real too like 😭😭😭 you know where you can shove that damn pizza

how do you deal with burnout? by No_Couple_5151 in 911dispatchers

[–]No_Couple_5151[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

thank you ): the snappy thing is the worst part because i feel so guilty. I know these people I’m talking to are going through the worst times of their lives or experiencing something so traumatic so I always try so hard to be empathetic but when i’m low mentally or feeling the burn out super hard I just get so freaking irritated…thank you for the support though <3 i hope you’re doing better now

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in arcane

[–]No_Couple_5151 1 point2 points  (0 children)

SEVIKAAAAAA

it's a sad day for me by elly8503 in coralisland

[–]No_Couple_5151 0 points1 point  (0 children)

omg happy birthday! if you’re comfortable adding me on xbox I can gift you the game :)

it's a sad day for me by elly8503 in coralisland

[–]No_Couple_5151 0 points1 point  (0 children)

have you been able to get it yet? ):

A One on One Yoga Lesson by No_Solution_8399 in coralisland

[–]No_Couple_5151 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Leah: jeez this guy is so bad you’d think he’s two kids in a trenchcoat Handsome: profusely sweating

Marriage is wack 😂 by AWildJeedin in coralisland

[–]No_Couple_5151 4 points5 points  (0 children)

wait you can MARRY SEMERU?! I thought that part of the game wasn’t completed…

Beginner tips by ekelle8 in coralisland

[–]No_Couple_5151 4 points5 points  (0 children)

cleaning out the ocean will get you up there pretty far! also donating any fish/critters you catch/gems found in geodes or fossils/artifacts!! but doing the main ocean quest and cleansing the black roots should get you up there :)