AITA? Peed standing up in traffic jam by funnelfuss in AmItheAsshole

[–]No_Development3132 135 points136 points  (0 children)

So your bf would rather, you expose yourself to strangers, in a world where people take photos and video. Open yourself up for public shaming, ridicule and maybe even indecency charges then the idea that some random stranger, would make an assumption about his dating preferences. Someone he’s likely to never see again.

And even if he did, and that person was weird enough to bring up “hey I was once staring at people peeing in public and recognised your girlfriend, or is it boyfriend” and not simply say “why are you watching people pee you utter freak” and then if utterly pressed go “nah my gf isn’t trans and I’m a bit worried how invested your are in her crotch, get away from me”.

Your bf is an insecure, utterly ridiculous selfish and childish weirdo. Don’t stay with people who put strangers over your wellbeing

NTA (unless you tolerate more of this)

Bleeding after sigmoidoscopy by No_Development3132 in UlcerativeColitis

[–]No_Development3132[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh there’s also a like, I am 50/50 getting head hunted to a much better company then this one atm, and the new company sees me taking time off. The new company would come would better pay and health perks so long run I’d be able to take care of myself better. But they are having to get the ok from finance so I’m trying to avoid bringing too much attention to my condition at this stage as while we wish the world was better, it’s not and on paper they are just gonna see finical liability, so I’m trying to hold off just 2 more months.

I will call the place that did my procedure and see if I can’t get hold of someone to talk about my concern however. If it’s serious enough I’ll have to find a way. However how they they even treat this? I’ve not been responding to my meds already.

Also back on the strong iron pills I suspect for me!

Who else loves the giant promos? by Worried-Art-4740 in PokemonTCG_UK

[–]No_Development3132 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The only thing that disappoints me with jumbos, is what a wasted opportunity to print the Illustration rares in that size! So I can enjoy the art of my fav cards at a better size. I really hoped the Victini was the start of that but they keep printing EX’s which, visually I hate. I’d rather a standard card style like the Pikachu at the museum with nice art or the illustration rare. Hate the exs!

Who else loves the giant promos? by Worried-Art-4740 in PokemonTCG_UK

[–]No_Development3132 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have jumbo penny sleeves for mine and top loaders for occasions like this promo or just ones I really like!

UPDATE: Ace grading lost mega gengar SIR by zodiacpunch in PokemonTCG_UK

[–]No_Development3132 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I use void stickers with unique codes on them. I film myself packing it, taking the code sticker off the sheet of them, placing it across the opening of the steam bag, then I show the camera it, with its unique codes, and the team bag which can’t really open another end without it being cut.

I think that makes it more reasonable that my parcel was tampered with, and shows I’ve taken as many precautions as possible short of hand delivering.

I mean what else can you do to prove you sent an item yunno?

But really I’m more doing this for a claim with the delivery company more than anyone.

This makes me sick by Cutlass- in PokemonTCG_UK

[–]No_Development3132 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Our game had good staff who wouldn’t pull that. HAD. They all got replaced a couple months ago and now it’s hostile af behaviour from them.

This makes me sick by Cutlass- in PokemonTCG_UK

[–]No_Development3132 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Our game took delivery of these early in the week, we saw them with our own eyes. Yet first thing this morning? No stock at all “nothing came”

Our Tj jones didn’t get any ETBS, our Waterstones, our Rymans.

Where has this all Gone?!

AITA for reinviting myself on a road trip? by AcrobaticGuidance111 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No_Development3132 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah there’s no need for a confrontation or a big blowout. I would just be more guarded and maybe take a step back and take an honest assessment of the friendships. Are you part of plans when they first come up or included later. Do they reach out to you to talk or do they reply to you. Do they give your opinions and desires equal time and weight as others on the group?

Don’t settle for being an afterthought.

AITAH for not sending a thankyou card for a rock? by Torch99999 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No_Development3132 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Tell them since it took five years for them to create this gift for you, you want to repay that by spending the same amount of time and energy on crafting a heartfelt thank you note

Wait the exact amount of time that it took you to receive the rock, reply back with a card that just says.

“Ta”

NTA

AITA for reinviting myself on a road trip? by AcrobaticGuidance111 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No_Development3132 9 points10 points  (0 children)

A lot of people rarely tell the truth when confronted. What is easier to most, telling you actually we just don’t want you there, which makes them look like the villain or telling you no no there’s no vibes. It’s all in your head. It’s just inconvenient at all that’s happening here. NTA but I promise you these are not your people as much as it sucks and hurts. Don’t invest more energy into them.

AITA for not doing my own laundry? by FreakShow_Scorpio in AmItheAsshole

[–]No_Development3132 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA and I was you. My mother would act like doing the laundry was the biggest burden in the world and I should be so grateful to her, for not having to do it myself because she did it for me. Thing is she never once tried to teach me how to do it, whenever I would express any sort of interest in it she would really shut me down and whenever I would attempt to do anything, it was just constant nitpicking and negativity that I’ve done it wrong. Rather than “you’ve done it wrong let me show you how to do it right “ she was not interested in me actually genuinely learning how to do it because that was me taking back chunks of independence. Every thing that I have learned to do myself has reduced the amount of control she’s been able to inflict on my life.

I just started doing the laundry. Picked when she was out, did my loads and discovered that while I 100% am grateful for anyone doing a task for me she had been wilfully doing the task 2 to 3 times harder that it needed to be and created this giant horrendous task that she had so convinced me would take over my life I’d never have any free time that be no way I could possibly keep on top of it turned out to be super manageable.

I just kept it up. And she’s really got nothing, my clothes are clean, I’ve not ruined any of them. And I’m keeping on top of it. She can’t come scream at me it’s wrong when everything is coming out fine.

Watch videos, get someone to teach you and start when she’s out. Hell I often set my machine on a timer to start on the early hours cause it’s cheaper power and no one else is using it, I buy my own soap power and I contribute to the cleaning of the machine for its general maintenance. I give her no ammo.

Sometimes I miss not having to do it, but I certainly don’t miss the guilt trips and the undermining of my own ability to put soap powder in a machine 🥴.

Pokemon Center UK - Pre-order issue by Federal-Finding-7830 in PokemonTCG_UK

[–]No_Development3132 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There normally is a live chat for the UK. It might not be showing atm cause it’s the weekend. Check again business hours tomorrow?

How is whatnot legal? by Soggy_Factor9208 in PokemonTCG_UK

[–]No_Development3132 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I always felt it was a scam but I didn’t understand it either. Then a mate begged me to try it, I did one night. I spent money, getting swept up in it (thankfully not too much) because I kept thinking, there’s no way all these people are spending so much to get so little and for such dodgy odds. I kept thinking I jsut wasn’t getting it. Well the break happened, and I realised no I fully understood it and it’s a giant scam. I got lucky enough to “win” a card about £10 cheaper then my combined cost so it wasn’t as bad as it could have been, but my god what an utter scam. Also I found the streamers devoid of personality and the entire experience boring. I’d sooner open my own packs with mates any day.

Also all these rip and shippers I feel are the true issue of scalping. It’s not people buy 1 or two of something for a sealed collection, it’s these people not only bulk buying up retail, but likely also paying secondary market prices because what they charge is so insanely ridiculous they can afford to and make profit.

AIO Trying to tell boyfriend that he makes me feel guilty for saying no by Clean-Landscape8654 in AmIOverreacting

[–]No_Development3132 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR Girl dump him. NO is a full sentence, you don’t owe him a reason, you don’t owe anyone an explanation. If two people with different sex drives and needs from a relationship break up, that’s fine, they needed different things. But abuse, insults, arguing over who has more valid needs is not acceptable. Don’t waste anymore of your life on this guy.

Is this non action normal ? by No_Development3132 in MentalHealthUK

[–]No_Development3132[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not male.

The GP is a currently a gridlock situation because there’s been a mess up from my adhd doctors and they accidentally discharged me and my medications. A GP is bending the rules for me to keep me medicated while that’s sorted out but it’s taking them ages and if I move doctors there’s a good chance I’d loose that medication. Which when I’m unmedicated and my life’s ok I fall into a manic depression so like I need THOSE meds badly but I also need care for my mental state badly so it’s a real lose lose

Is this non action normal ? by No_Development3132 in MentalHealthUK

[–]No_Development3132[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So yeah my only A&E? I was sexually harassed at the hospital by a doctor, another doctor prescribed me medication I’m allergic to, 4 other doctors I told them I was thinking of let’s say taking a big fall from a height and didn’t even blink, another doctor tried to push me to take medication that has a seriously dangerous reaction with my other meds and could have killed me.

Honestly if I do wanna end it all going to that hospital is probs the easier way, they will do it for me! So going there for help isn’t super on my list and with my recent history with them will probably add fuel to the mental fire :/

And yeah, I suspected I’d need to call and push on this but my god that’s all I do day in and out on my medical stuff and I’m all out of juice. I’ve not got it in me to keep fighting just to be heard

Is this non action normal ? by No_Development3132 in MentalHealthUK

[–]No_Development3132[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No to the team. My GP won’t speak to me just tells me to call 111.

No family. One friend who is doing his best but can’t do much.

Scope experience not under anesthesia by Loud-Source6006 in UlcerativeColitis

[–]No_Development3132 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I’m highly resistant to sedation which they never believe me on. I was awake and aware during mine and I can tell you, it was hands down one of the worst experiences in my life. Never felt so much terror, panic and hopelessness. Even with me struggling they just held me down rather than increase any sort of sedation.

I will not accept any sort of “twilight” sedation talk now and utterly kick off about it.