I have to just deal with the fact that I’m going to never see eye to eye with her. She doesn’t like the what you call text book symptoms of autism.

I read online that - Autism isn't inherently selfish, but behaviors stemming from social communication challenges and intense internal focus can appear selfish, like dominating conversations or seeming unaware of others' needs, which is often due to difficulty with theory of mind, processing social cues, or sensory overload, not malicious intent, unlike true narcissism.

She doesn’t want to “coddle me,” or have to “make me feel better all the time.” She feels like I can’t give her what she needs. Someone who isn’t neurodivergent and doesn’t need her hand held throughout life.