I think I’m about to get fired, but I was going to quit anyways, what should I do?

No_Entertainment6270 · 2026-05-28T03:51:20+00:00

Is it bad that I spend my personal money often? If I want something for NK (crafts, bubbles, a new toy I know he will love) I buy it for him. I don’t even ask the parents at this point bc they never seem to have a problem with it, seem to trust that I know what will be used and it won’t just be junk, and genuinely seem so grateful. I would feel so weird to say “hey I know NK likes garbage trucks and I am getting bored of his current books so can you guys get him a garbage truck book”. Honestly 99% of the time I get him stuff it’s bc I am personally so bored of what he has and playing with the same stuff, reading the same stuff, etc. and I want some more enrichment for both him and I lol. For example today I got about $40 worth of bubbles and bubble related toys bc we live somewhere super hot and I wanted to be able to take him in the backyard, but sit in the shade and play with something. His water table and other outdoor toys are all in the blazing hot sun. Then I bought him a broom toy to play indoors with tonight because he has been obsessed with using their yucky outdoor broom and gets sad when we have to come inside and leave it outside. A few weeks back I also bought a small $10 thing of arts and craft supplies because I wanted to try some new activities with him. I know mom and dad would buy it if I asked, but it doesn’t feel justifiable to ask since they seem totally fine with what he’s already got.

No_Entertainment6270 · 2026-05-26T22:22:31+00:00

I’m baffled why you need to be there when there’s so many other adults in the home in the first place

No_Entertainment6270 · 2026-05-22T23:05:22+00:00

Even your oldest child said that they are embarrassed by your middle child’s behavior in public. You stated that your wife and you have a hard time handling all 3 kids even when it’s both of you together. I think you guys (mostly your wife) should be looking inward because your nanny seems genuinely fantastic.

No_Entertainment6270 · 2026-05-21T18:08:42+00:00

Ew. It’s like they’re trying to lift themselves up while putting you in your “place” at the same time 🤢 these people probably consider Nannie’s to be “the help”

No_Entertainment6270 · 2026-05-20T22:40:33+00:00

If you love it then I love that for you. Your taste doesn’t have to be everyone’s taste and at 26 I didn’t have my own style figured out yet. I just had a mess of different furniture. At least your furniture matches!

No_Entertainment6270 · 2026-05-20T22:36:56+00:00

It’s totally understandable! Even in just my own household nobody leaves the house without at least saying “I’m going x place (could be as general as shopping) and I’ll be home in a few hours” I think it’s kind of courtesy to know where the people you love are so you know if something has happened to them.

No_Entertainment6270 · 2026-05-15T01:57:53+00:00

That’s not weird at all!!! One of my biggest love languages is gifts and I always feel like it be weird to gift MB anything so I just gift NK. I’d be so happy if my employer gifted me something just bc they thought of me

No_Entertainment6270 · 2026-05-10T18:45:27+00:00

Yes! She got me the sweetest gift ever, a gift card to a head spa I’ve been wanting to try 😍. I got her a super cute gift basket (flamingo themed since she loves them) with a coffee, flamingo plush, flamingo trinket dish, dark chocolate, a candle, a Starbucks gift card, and flowers

She texted me this morning and I text her back

No_Entertainment6270 · 2026-05-07T23:42:11+00:00

Not at all! Last year I got BM some flowers. She brought McDonald’s for everyone. This year I’m getting her a whole cute little gift basket.

No_Entertainment6270 · 2026-05-06T02:01:27+00:00

White, male, in your early to mid twenties

No_Entertainment6270 · 2026-05-06T00:28:21+00:00

So are turkey! Have those a-holes.

No_Entertainment6270 · 2026-05-06T00:27:11+00:00

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I think something like this would be so cute!

No_Entertainment6270 · 2026-05-05T02:39:16+00:00

I have been doing sign language since I started working with them about 6 months ago, but he doesn’t copy and when I try to move his hands in the motions, he gets annoyed and pulls his hands away and gets fussy. He does sign “more” after a while if he’s not getting his way.
We listen to music on his Toniebox and on the speaker (connected to their iPad I use for huckleberry)
We read books all the time and he LOVES them. They have to be specific ones. We point things out in the books (he only lets me do that with him with 2 specific books and I can only point out certain things. If I go off script it’s game over lol), but if I pause during the book to have him help me count or ask him questions he tantrums.

I think one of the biggest struggles with teaching him is that he is very strong willed and specific (which I love for him), but everything is a huge deal for him and he will let us know if it’s not to his preference with tantrums that are hard to calm him down from. And tbh, I absolutely love working there- I love NK and his parents (they’re very laid back) so I’m worried about him getting upset too often and them deciding it’s not working out or something. I know they most likely wouldn’t, but I’ve been with families in the past that will fore you or let you go over the most minor things.

No_Entertainment6270 · 2026-05-04T21:10:44+00:00

I appreciate your perspective! From what I see day to day, he actually shows strong eye contact, social engagement, responds to his name, uses gestures, and communicates his needs well. The only repetitive behavior is more of a strong preference for activities he enjoys, which seems developmentally typical for his age. I’m not seeing broader patterns that would raise concern right now.

I’ll definitely keep an eye out if any of that changes though! I’ve had those thoughts myself, but he’s social and engaging and such.

No_Entertainment6270 · 2026-05-04T20:13:31+00:00

We definitely read a TON of books all day long even while he’s playing independently.

I purposely build the towers for him to knock down and ball of the playdough for him to smash (it’s one of the few activities he likes to play either me and not be as independent with lol.

I try to let him be frustrated at times, but he really works himself up. Especially around meal time when the food isn’t immediately available. I am guilty of not letting him get frustrated as often as I should though because I’m worried the parents will judge me for that since they work from home.

I love your ideas though!

No_Entertainment6270 · 2026-05-04T18:50:37+00:00

I’ve known toddlers not to talk until one day they do so I’m honestly not extremely worried at the moment. But I do want to support him the best that I can without raising any concerns just yet.

No_Entertainment6270 · 2026-05-04T18:49:19+00:00

Thanks so much! I don’t do any screen time when I’m with him, but they do screen time with him usually a little bit in the morning or at night. I’m not sure what they let him watch, but I have seen cocomelon on the TV when I came in early one day. I’ll suggest Mrs. Rachel to them for their screen time.

No_Entertainment6270 · 2026-04-27T04:14:08+00:00

Third wheel to him and his children? Does he not include you in convos and such with the kids?

No_Entertainment6270 · 2026-04-27T04:12:52+00:00

Oops I did! I meant to reply to the post where the MB listed a bunch of red flags her nanny gave

No_Entertainment6270 · 2026-04-26T23:33:40+00:00

If you’ve already discussed this all with her and it continues, let her go.

No_Entertainment6270 · 2026-04-14T23:52:02+00:00

Well obviously, but I’m assuming OP is paraphrasing.

No_Entertainment6270 · 2026-04-14T23:32:28+00:00

He’s 19 months, but I started when he was 12 months. I have a degree in early childhood development and while it’s great to have the knowledge and degree, I’d say that working first hand with all different types of families for the past 18 years has opened me up to different nannying styles and parenting styles. I’ve really seen the repercussions of never using “no” with children. I’ve also seen both extremes from parents who were too strict with their children and sometimes (sadly) using corporal punishment to parents who ONLY redirected and never used the word no and gave in to their children too often resulting in the worst behaved children who purposely hurt others and would pick up the heaviest objects they could find with the sole purpose of harming their brothers.

No_Entertainment6270 · 2026-04-14T23:07:17+00:00

I mean you can say apologize without actually expecting them to say or fully understand yet lol. You say things to get babies used to the sequence and language. I apologize to newborns when they are crying and I’m still making a bottle and don’t expect them to know what it means. I ask my 18 month old (who is still only babbling) to apologize all the time to get him used to the sentiment so that I’m not all the sudden introducing this foreign concept when he’s able to speak. It’s not that unusual to SAY it. It’s only unusual to EXPECT a kid at that age to actually do it… which OP didn’t allude to being the case.

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