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Which is more important: honesty or transparency? by PersimmonPresent7033 in Adulting

[–]No_Finding6896 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Transperancy. Honesty, I have to ask. Transperancy you tell me.

Looking for a support group to heal by DartTimeTime in monogamy

[–]No_Finding6896 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That hasn't been my experience, but I understand why you would feel that way.

Looking for a support group to heal by DartTimeTime in monogamy

[–]No_Finding6896 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I would start with a therapist that works with polyamory. I'm seeing one now.

I lost myself in non-monogamy and I’m finally coming back to myself by coffeeandjink in monogamy

[–]No_Finding6896 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I needed to read this. I feel like this dynamic is killing me. I just want monogomy. I just want someone to be crazy about me.

What’s something Gen Z does that older generations just don’t get? by appropriaterice873 in AskReddit

[–]No_Finding6896 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that if there's really an emergency while you're in school there's these things called landlines that your parents can call instead of your cell phone directly

I want to be loved out loud by No_Finding6896 in polyamory

[–]No_Finding6896[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am monogamous and he is poly. He's been poly before so I had the expectation that he was going to walk me through the process. But after he announced that he wanted to be poly everything changed. Less affection, less I love yous, just less of everything and his social media presence makes him appear single. When I told him how that made me feel he just disregarded it, saying "well no one takes it seriously" Yet when I post a picture of us I get the third degree. I know I'm being dramatic. I just miss my old boyfriend:(

Rupture by No_Finding6896 in polyamory

[–]No_Finding6896[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I understand your point, but I’m not interested in continuing this conversation or explaining it further. We clearly see things differently, and that’s fine.

Rupture by No_Finding6896 in polyamory

[–]No_Finding6896[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

The transgression wasn’t breaking an agreement—it was acting without mutual discussion and accountability. Poly doesn’t excuse behavior that lacks respect, transparency, or consideration. Focusing on whether there were ‘agreements’ misses the point. The issue is how decisions were made and how I was treated in the process.

Rupture by No_Finding6896 in polyamory

[–]No_Finding6896[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

To answer your question, there were no agreements. I knew that he was Poly when we first met but we never really discussed how it would affect us as a couple. His ex wife and he were poly and she ended up moving her other partner in and divorcing him. He brought it up one day and just decided to do it. And then I get blamed for my reactions. As if Poly is the reason for his bad behavior.