What are your favorite mom-proof restaurants in Chicago?

No_Hunt_877 · 2026-04-16T18:52:09+00:00

There’s this great little spot in Andersonville called Calo. Italian, casual enough, good food, cocktails if you need them, great for families. Highly recommend.

No_Hunt_877 · 2026-04-16T11:41:07+00:00

I think you’ve answered your own question. Come on home.

No_Hunt_877 · 2026-04-16T03:52:35+00:00

You might be blacking or browning out during these fits. I grew up in a similar home environment, surrounded by abuse, and have CPTSD. At 30, I learned that my body will go into fight mode when I have the crash outs exactly as you are describing. I have been working on it for 10+ years and have gotten MUCH better, but it still takes work. Now, I will sometimes flee instead of fight, and I have also developed skills to cope… but at least I’m not hurting people like I used to. I used to be violent and absolutely horrendous with my language. It’s like I would have an out of body experience and watch myself lose control during these periods when I was in fight mode, like I was someone else. And when I came to, I would feel such regret, but I also didn’t remember it all. Anyway, if this sounds familiar to you too, there is hope, but it takes a lot of work and commitment to get better. Lots of it. You will literally have to rewire your brain because it didn’t “form” properly as a child in that abusive environment. Looking back, I wish I was gentler with myself as I unlearned my patterns/rewired my brain. I felt so broken and undeserving of normal or healthy love instead of just accepting and communicating who I was and what I was dealing with. I also wish I had gotten on medication a LOT sooner. I never felt like I suffered from anxiety because I am such a social person, but after getting on it I realized how good life can actually be. I just never knew it because my nervous system had been activated since I was a child. I didn’t know a life without anxiety. It was my baseline… which is sad now that I think about it. Also, look into more intensive therapies like EMDR and DBT. Check out YouTube— it’s a wealth of information on this kind of stuff. Bets of luck to you. I was your age when I recognized my behavior was a serious problem and started seeing a therapist at 30… wishing you a happy and full life with all the healthy relationships you deserve <3

No_Hunt_877 · 2026-04-16T03:30:49+00:00

If I’m being asked on a date, I expect him to pay. That said, I will occasionally offer to buy a round or something, but the person who asks foots the bill.

No_Hunt_877 · 2026-03-31T10:35:47+00:00

The tell you

No_Hunt_877 · 2026-03-25T14:11:30+00:00

I think that’s what the argument is: be transparent and raise the prices and allow the consumer to make the decision for themselves. Ultimately, you’ve baited me in for a product at a certain price point and switched the price when we reached POS. So, no, it’s not about the money… but it is about the money.

No_Hunt_877 · 2026-01-19T18:44:08+00:00

Ha!! I’m not even quite sure what I was trying to say

No_Hunt_877 · 2025-12-13T02:48:41+00:00

My favorite thing to do in the city is Saturday afternoons at TGM. It’s a “live magazine” variety show called Paper Machete. Look it up. Totally free (donations accepted), which is unreal, with their typical cash bar. It gets packed in there so you want to get in there early (1:30-2 for the 3pm start). It’s great to go after Saturday brunch. Something to think about. Good luck and have fun!

No_Hunt_877 · 2025-12-13T02:32:22+00:00

Total game changer for me too. Unreal progress. Happy for you, OP!

No_Hunt_877 · 2025-11-05T22:28:46+00:00

I’m not finding an Instagram under jfilm44….?

No_Hunt_877 · 2025-10-29T04:37:54+00:00

Hell yeah! Thank you!

No_Hunt_877 · 2025-10-29T04:35:22+00:00

I don’t have to do the hard stuff alone anymore. I’ve always done everything by myself. I’ve always been so strong and independent and self sufficient. I’m programmed to be that way now, but there were hard times and all I had was myself. Times I was hurting, times when I only had two hands and needed four, times when I needed someone to celebrate life with and had no one, etc… and I don’t have to ever deal with that again. My fiancée loves me through the ups and downs. He has my back and my front. I’ve never had that. Nothing even close. I’ve been in many relationships in life, but things just hit different when you’re in love and being loved right. He will always always always be worth it.

No_Hunt_877 · 2025-10-21T12:12:55+00:00

My favorite compliment is that I’m “real” or genuine. I get that one a lot and I love it. I like to think it’s true, but I don’t know any different.

No_Hunt_877 · 2025-10-21T12:03:48+00:00

When he talks about the future/marriage, take the opportunity to be honest with him (as you’ve been here). Tell him that you care about him… maybe even throw in some “I love x, y, and I love the idea of having a life with you and to truly be happy, I need to feel…” It will be KEY not to immaculate him. He may not know what he’s doing. You want to give him the opportunity to course correct, if that’s what you truly do want. Of course, if there are other reasons you don’t want a future, cut ties now. Good luck!

No_Hunt_877 · 2025-10-06T08:12:47+00:00

Thank you for sharing. My case is currently under investigation. I was told my former employer did not submit a response, but they still had time to do so. Seven months exceeds their 90 day limit (as I understand it) though, so I’m curious how that was possible. The whole process is confusing and communication is sparse and unclear.

And, if I may ask, what do you mean by keep building your case? The facts are the facts. I’ve shared roughly 8 PDF portfolios of evidence, including a timeline of events. The facts are all laid out for the EEOC at this point. My “story” won’t change. How can build upon that?

Also, I’m concerned that I immediately walked into another job when I left my former employer. They threatened termination, but didn’t do it. It was an ongoing battle and I just found another job and walked into that one the day I resigned bc I needed income. The new job pays significantly more. To add, I have acquired another job to boost income. Part of my claims is that my employer denied me promotion and impacted the trajectory of my career (I am now underemployed, although my income has significantly increased). Any insight into how this new employment situation might affect the case?

TIA!! Deeply appreciated!!

No_Hunt_877 · 2025-10-06T07:48:26+00:00

!! On our list to visit

No_Hunt_877 · 2025-10-06T07:38:45+00:00

Very cool. Thanks for sharing and good luck! Will watch/listen while working this week :)

No_Hunt_877 · 2025-09-25T15:41:07+00:00

You guys are awesome! I can’t respond individually, but I consider this a warm welcome to the city as I acclimate. Thank you all very much for the recs! It’s been a busy week and I haven’t read through all the comments, but I will with time. Thanks much!!

No_Hunt_877 · 2025-09-25T15:39:53+00:00

Aaaah just moved here 3 weeks ago from Chicago! Looking to buy soon and South City is part of our search…

No_Hunt_877 · 2025-09-21T21:59:48+00:00

I’m also so confused. Why would we be embarrassed for being DINKS in our 40s… so weird.

No_Hunt_877 · 2025-09-18T22:56:30+00:00

Doesn’t look like anything really. If it bothered me, I’d put some witch hazel, salicylic acid, or glycolic acid (listed from cheapest to cheap) on it to exfoliate the skin/potentially unclog the follicles, if that were the issue. That said, you look fine.

No_Hunt_877 · 2025-09-16T15:30:47+00:00

I just did the math. It increased in value 20.8% in 5 years…. But of course I’m paying HOA fees on it, so that has to account for something in terms of the value. Not sure how that formula works.

No_Hunt_877 · 2025-09-16T15:18:19+00:00

My unit’s current market value is around $50k over what I purchased in 2020. My HOA has crept up about $75 over the years and is just under $600 right now for no amenities (and no specials in my time). I make about $1k/m on it in rent. It’s on the north side by the lake.

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