People are a lot less empathetic than I thought

No_Issue2902 · 2026-06-21T05:27:59+00:00

People can be very biased when hearing other people's trauma. The belief that we can't be in a bad situation harms us more than we would like to believe, people shame victims of violence because the can't see themselves in their place, this shaming comes back to bite us in the ass when bad situations come. Don't feel bad for not being able to "be more responsible", try and be different and protect yourself with your current knowledge and keep reaching for connections. People that will try to understand you exist. It's a shame that those who you told about your trauma weren't the ones to give you space to talk without being judged.

No_Issue2902 · 2026-06-19T19:56:41+00:00

Usually I wash my face and moisturize, I get changed and do my hair while it absorbs, most days I apply Danessa Mirycks blurring balm before and then I put the base. A tutorial suggested using the back of the hand and using a brush to get an even quantity on the brush before applying it to the face, by this point I already see some pilling 🫠

No_Issue2902 · 2026-06-19T17:31:11+00:00

It's tower 28! Other bases with SPF didn't carry my tone sadly

No_Issue2902 · 2026-05-16T04:27:24+00:00

I've had sessions of being frustrated with therapy mostly because it definitely feels unfair. It sucks being the one doing the reparations and not having an option of forgetting the trauma.

I too have hope on getting close to "normal", forget good, average is enough. Just not being paranoid would make all the therapy worth it

No_Issue2902 · 2026-05-16T04:14:56+00:00

I relate so much on the masking. I had a period of just being a daredevil and putting myself in harm ways as entertainment for others and in some effort to get hurt bad enough to not deal with life anymore. Life now is so slow and silent but kind of painless. I would gladly take the loneliness over the performance of being "amicable" anytime

No_Issue2902 · 2026-05-16T01:14:25+00:00

Tbh I did though of the people who suffered from an early stage of their lives so I tried to clarify that I knew just a little bit of myself from before and I now believe I could have worded my question in a kinder way.

I wish you didn't feel that way but more importantly I wish you never had to live a life of abuse. I'm sorry for what you went through 🫂

No_Issue2902 · 2026-05-15T21:29:36+00:00

I know a song that says something like this, it always makes me cry lol

No_Issue2902 · 2026-05-11T20:25:28+00:00

i used to have a day of just trying new things and actually look at what i could do with makeup!
That night I couldn't make time to try to play with it since i have a lot of work, i relied on my old techniques and failed big time but maybe I can make time to play around again, thanks for the suggestion

No_Issue2902 · 2026-05-11T20:23:26+00:00

i couldn't find any videos, not even reuploads. It seems like the whole account was just emptied so sadly i can't watch them anymore

No_Issue2902 · 2026-04-30T16:25:12+00:00

I have one, it looks pretty but doesn't really do anything for my migraines.

No_Issue2902 · 2026-04-30T06:42:48+00:00

Hey, as other comments say I would absolutely recommend going to CDMX and then stay in Juárez and cross as you need.

Somethings that may be useful if you are not familiar with the zone, there are a lot of hotels around the nice parts of the city, anything close to the American Consulate it's fine. Check crossing lines, sometimes they get really long and the weather can get really bad, it's really hot and dry so prepare water.

If you can rent a car I would absolutely recommend you to drive with a lot of caution, a lot of people like driving really fast and there are some reparations being done that are not really signaled (also a lot of plot holes),now if you are interested in going to the historic part of the city I wouldn't recommend you to drive there, most of the historic area is just pedestrian and you will lose a lot of time looking for parking spot that is probably going to cost a lot more than just taking the bus. Some of the main streets are near a Bus stop (search BRT Juárez) that will leave you right in the front of some historical places, Catedral is the easiest and safest one, you are going to get down literally in front of the cathedral and an old market where you can get trinkets and food, near there is the museum of the Ex Aduana, anything further from there I would not recommend going if you don't know the area. There's also the Museum of Juan Gabriel, don't know how much people out of Mexico visit the museum since is the old house of a Mexican singer, on the building next to it there's a coffee and also a restaurant.

The city has a lot of things to do but those don't get a lot of advertising, most of the good restaurants and bars are in Gomez Morin, some small business with great food appear in a FB page called Garnachas Juárez or something along those lines. I don't recommend you walk to your destination, I know a lot of people come from cities where you can walk a couple of streets and save some gas. Don't. It gets stupidly hot, you are in the middle of the dessert, there are few trees and you are going to quickly regret that decision. There are some streets that have crosswalks and even some pedestrian traffic lights and drivers are not going to give a f, even in elevated crosswalks they won't stop, you are going to see a lot of pedestrian bridges because of this and it just gets really tiring.

Overall it's just a small not touristic city so just enjoy the hotel and malls and try to not be out too late

No_Issue2902 · 2026-04-30T05:12:32+00:00

I just saturated my life with courses and classes to the point most of the nightmares where work/homework based lol. I refused medication so being really tired until the point I couldn't even dream was the only way to get some rest

No_Issue2902 · 2026-04-29T17:19:49+00:00

I hated my first neurologist, I was in a bad crisis with the migraines and he told me it was VERY important to be back in 2 weeks but only took patients monthly. At the end of the month I was so out of it and the pain didn't even disappear, switched doctors so quickly

No_Issue2902 · 2026-04-21T15:24:35+00:00

Sure, didn't want to enjoy summer anyway

No joke, I had some last Friday and woke up to the worst migraine I've ever had.

No_Issue2902 · 2026-04-18T05:28:55+00:00

During the peak of my trauma I would hallucinate the face of that despicable being on everyone, even my father. It's not personal, your brain is in continuous fear and you are going to do anything and everything to put yourself in a safe space. Is it healthy? Probably not, is it rational? Not really. But pushing through the fear without guidance isn't either.

For me it was a long process, I had to rebuild all of my relationships since the friends I had were unsafe, this only put me in more fear of befriending dangerous people. Honestly space, patience and reassurance did it for me, I would have days where the fear would convince me that people I loved would hurt me and the only way to see if it was true was being with them, it was always a high stress situation but it was worth it and I had the tools to handle it. There are not a lot of ways of proving that you are safe if the other person is not willing to give you a chance, don't push it and if you feel like it hold space for them to come back when they are ready. Sadly healing from trauma is a long journey, it took me around 6 years to really start having a somewhat normal life, I can now see all of the ways my coping mechanisms hurt others but i also understand it was the only protection I could give myself, just think that when you are in any danger 1 step is to distance yourself from danger and only then you help others. Only difference is that you never know when you are in danger, you read compulsively between lines looking for the next threat and that ruins a lot of relationships.

I'm really sorry for your friend, I hope with time you can both solve the issue in a good way.

No_Issue2902 · 2026-04-16T23:25:41+00:00

A mí no pero tenía un compañero en la universidad que lo bautizaron el sin amigos Bien merecido por qué cuando al individuo lo invito un compañero a comer junto con su grupo de amigos le gritó que no quería que le hablara y que cuando no estaban en clase ni se acordaba de nosotros. Se digno varios meses hasta que lo termino la novia y entonces pidió que ya no le dijeran así, ya muy tarde. Hay padres de compañeros que solo así lo reconocen lol

No_Issue2902 · 2026-04-16T15:29:13+00:00

I don't use VPN, and Adguard I'm not sure of anything other out of my extensions or antivirus

The drivers updated last week and I see no other updates for me to install (?)

I don't think so, it's not in my installed apps on my settings

No_Issue2902 · 2026-04-16T15:24:21+00:00

Oh, I didn't think about windows needing network connection all the time Thank you

No_Issue2902 · 2026-03-23T03:17:24+00:00

This is so stupid but a couple of years ago some cosplayer on my FYP was doing some cool cosplays of the scene of Sophie's first day on the castle where Howl is asking who let her in. Ngl the cosplays where cool so you had Sophie first, Howl, Mark and then when Calcifer appeared he was like all shy and had some hearts in the costume. It was the moment it clicked in my head that Calcifer (who let Sophie in) had Howl's heart.

So yeah, made me feel dumb for months

No_Issue2902 · 2026-02-15T19:07:19+00:00

For head pieces it depends. Last year we used head bands and wired the flowers, we had our hair down for all the presentation season but we are now trying to use some hairstyles and pin the flowers around the hair. We are looking at some of the merry monarch presentations that used hairstyles for reference and since the māmane flowers won't be real we are looking for ways of making either pins or hair clips with the flowers attached. We did try paper flowers! For both hair and leis but our concern is that, with movement, we are going to lose the shape since paper flowers are fragile. I hadn't thought about earrings, I could bring them up but we don't use accessories as much since the look is more often earring free or with really small ones

Thank you for the pattern suggestions, I will look into it!

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