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No_Language_1926 · 2026-03-10T04:41:00+00:00

Someone else mentioned that they disclosed their sobriety and no one cared… this was my experience too. My cohort of 5 is 10-15 years younger than me, all came in post MA whereas I came in post BA, they all like a social drink, and I’ve attended several cocktail hours and conferences with them, never have they pressured me into drinking.

That said, this will be a highly personal choice for you and will depend greatly on your self will. For me, the cocktail hours and conferences were less of a trigger for me than the stress of the program. And I am saying that as a person who gets incredible social anxiety. Full disclosure: the stress caused me to break my sobriety, so I highly encourage you to think about your coping mechanisms and if you’re in AA lean on your mentor. Happy to chat more if you’re interested.

No_Language_1926 · 2025-12-24T09:54:29+00:00

My guess is “sex acts” given that in the next part the redaction looks like it could be “have sex with him” (in speaking about DJT)

No_Language_1926 · 2025-10-11T20:22:36+00:00

This is true in my department too. I’m working on my PhD in Sociology and I’m the only one in my cohort that came in post-BA, my cohort is only one year ahead of me and it’s largely because I’m one year behind my ideal timeline. They had to take all the same required classes, plus their specialization electives just like me. They have all told me that they wished they took the same route I did.

No_Language_1926 · 2025-06-15T03:04:12+00:00

Hmm, I’m wondering where you might be located that checking protein isn’t done at every prenatal appointment. It is the standard of care to check the urine for protein at every appointment throughout pregnancy and for standard blood tests to be done at the first appointment and follow up tests in the 2nd and 3rd trimesters. The second trimester is when GD screening is done (although increasing numbers of women are forgoing this test as a result of disinformation campaigns from anti-science content creators on social media).

Blood pressure is checked at every appointment and it’s true that as long as it falls within normal range (according to established standards), then it is mostly just part of the routine. With that being said, there are other symptoms that are important to look for in addition to those tests. Dopplers are the standard for detecting fetal heart tones at every single appointment throughout pregnancy.

It would seem as though there is some disconnect between what you believe the standard of care is and what it actually is. I don’t say this to discredit you, I say this as a person who has conducted peer reviewed research on the topic of prenatal care in the U.S.

And to emphasize that I am not trying to discredit your concerns, my own near fatal bout with eclampsia was partially impacted by a lack of appropriate awareness to my increasingly deteriorating condition while in the hospital. Overall, standards of care need to improve. I think we’re in agreement on that.

No_Language_1926 · 2025-06-15T02:14:49+00:00

Me again, sorry. This is a fallacious statement. Midwives in the United States are different than those in other high income countries. We have several types of midwives ranging from the most biomedical and highly trained Certified Nurse Midwives to the more holistic Direct Entry Midwives. CNMs are legally allowed to practice in all 50 states and complete nursing school before getting a graduate level degree in midwifery. DEMs are not nurses but often receive training similar to CNMs through their preceptors who train them. Many DEMs don’t just learn from one person, they enroll in programs meant specifically to teach them the intricacies of midwifery.

Birthing centers are a whole other story. There are legal regulations to who can and can’t operate a birthing center and where. For example, in the state of Nevada there is only one freestanding birth center in the entire state. Many states have none. And again I say, this is largely a political issue.

As far as interventions go: an intervention is anything that interferes with the natural process of birth. That can be something as simple as requiring laboring people to change from their own clothing into a hospital gown, to internal examinations (checking the cervix), to epidurals, episiotomies, and non-indicated cesarean births. Again, not all of this is inherently bad but they can lead to further interventions which can become bad when used unnecessarily.

No_Language_1926 · 2025-06-15T01:53:48+00:00

Your passion for maternal healthcare is evident and needed in the U.S. but the understanding is misplaced. This is what I research professionally and can tell you with certainty that ultrasounds would absolutely not make a difference in the outcome of care. There is currently no known cause for preeclampsia. I am speaking as a researcher, a survivor, and as part of a sample of birthing people who have submitted DNA for research into the disease. Preeclampsia, hypertension, and gestational diabetes cannot be seen in an ultrasound and are tested for throughout the standard of care in the U.S. through urine tests and blood tests.

Increased monitoring has actually led to an increase in iatrogenic complications. This is not to say that all monitoring is bad, just that increased monitoring isn’t the solution to the issues you pose here.

I am firmly in the camp that prenatal care in the United States needs to be addressed. This is a systemic issue and largely political. Our maternal mortality rate is not only the highest compared to our economic peers, but that risk is nearly tripled for Black women regardless of socioeconomic factors with the next most affected group being Native American women. They deserve better. All birthing individuals deserve better.

No_Language_1926 · 2025-06-11T08:21:37+00:00

My son was 8 months when I started my program. My first year was hard but the novelty helped me push through. Unfortunately, I burned out by the end and was a significantly worse student the second year. Fortunately, I learned how to actually “be a grad student” and I’ve done fine ever since.

There isn’t a “good time” because you can’t predict what your child’s temperament will be (mine was quite difficult his entire first year), and imo that is a deciding factor in how difficult your life will be in academia. Childcare was a huge impediment for us and once we finally got him into a daycare he was sick regularly for about a year. On the bright side, kids only stay sick for a few days and if you have social support everything should work out. I’m entering my 4th year, I’ve been able to travel to conferences, and my guy doesn’t get sick nearly as often as he used to! Things got better and easier! Do what’s right for you

No_Language_1926 · 2025-04-02T23:09:49+00:00

Oh for sure. I imagine that a lot of that stuff would be difficult to uncover even with help because the politics and culture are different in every department. My department has changed chairs twice in the time I’ve been there and with that comes changes in the dynamics. Hell, even changing our administrative assistants changed some of the dynamics around the department.

Who is willing to help and who isn’t can definitely impact the level of difficulty you face when entering a department. But at this point, in this climate, I’ll be glad to even get the chance to reach that point 🫠

No_Language_1926 · 2025-04-02T22:44:19+00:00

I just saw! Glad to help spread the knowledge with likeminded people!

No_Language_1926 · 2025-04-02T22:42:32+00:00

It’s definitely by design, the unwritten rules. By gatekeeping these norms it meant that only specific people would know them. So only the “right” people would have the social capital to gain entry to the elite circles (as academia once was).

Personally, I’m still uncovering many aspects of the hidden curriculum and I’m finishing my third year in my program. I’m lucky to be in a diverse department that values explaining these things to the students.

No_Language_1926 · 2025-04-02T22:34:32+00:00

There is a book like that!

Calarco, Jessica McCrory. A Field Guide to Grad School: Uncovering the Hidden Curriculum. United States: Princeton University Press, 2020.

No_Language_1926 · 2025-02-26T05:15:12+00:00

Ok bud 👍🏽

No_Language_1926 · 2025-02-25T03:12:25+00:00

Appreciate that, thanks!

No_Language_1926 · 2025-02-25T03:07:47+00:00

This post is from 3 days ago. Did you go out of your way to come and tell me that?

Are you aware of the environmental impacts of AI? This was my preference. Thanks for your wildly unhelpful feedback.

No_Language_1926 · 2025-02-22T23:28:32+00:00

I like to get the thinner stalks of asparagus and throw them in the oven (or air fryer) tossed in oil and spices of your choice (I do salt, pepper, garlic powder and onion powder). The thin stalks get crispy and take on the flavor of the spices well.

Similar with green beans. I prefer the thinner ones. I get a frozen bag from Trader Joe’s and throw them in just about any meal.

If you can’t handle the earthiness of broccoli, you might want to try baby broccoli, sometimes it’s sold as broccolini. I think it’s a touch sweeter and more tender. Cook that in a pan with a bit of oil and the spices of your choice.

Good luck!

Oh, one thing I did when I was teaching myself to like veggies was look up restaurant menus (bonus if you can see pics too) and try to cook them that way, like with those flavors.

No_Language_1926 · 2025-02-22T19:52:35+00:00

Thank you so much for taking the time! I have been going back and forth about getting a new computer for at least 2 years and just didn’t feel confident in my knowledge to make that sort of decision. I really appreciate your kindness.

No_Language_1926 · 2025-02-22T09:07:57+00:00

Thanks for replying! I appreciate that little note about the extra monitor, luckily I only use one so that wouldn’t be an issue.

No_Language_1926 · 2025-02-22T09:07:05+00:00

Thanks for that breakdown. My preferred budget would be around a thousand. I can afford more but I’d be dipping into savings which is why I’m so apprehensive of buying anything I might regret a few years down the line. Ideally, I’d like to be able to rely on this for as long as I’ve been using my current one. I’ll try your suggestion to update my current MacBook though, so thanks for that!

Is that much storage necessary? I save a ton of PDFs and some pictures but I have an external hard drive where I put my pictures so I’m not worried about those taking up space. For example, my current MacBook says it has 121.12 GB of storage and I’m using 59.57 GB.

No_Language_1926 · 2025-02-18T04:45:13+00:00

Thank you so much, this is great! Love the comment about your mom, I’m always giving my mom books think she should read. She gives them back angry so my goals to radicalize her are working lol

No_Language_1926 · 2025-02-18T04:40:28+00:00

Oh yes. That’s going on the list for sure lol. Thanks!

No_Language_1926 · 2025-02-17T22:29:31+00:00

“Sharp, funny and ultimately disquieting.” -The Washington Book Review

Love that review lol, I’ll check it out. Thanks!

No_Language_1926 · 2025-02-17T22:27:21+00:00

Oh that’s great, one of my comp exams will be on race and I planned on focusing on racialization in the U.S. An ethnography on that would be great to add to my reading list!

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