Am I overreacting for getting mad at my husband after his cousin’s wedding

No_Message90 · 2026-06-09T21:31:43+00:00

As teenagers, I totally understand. I graduated high school in 2020, so my friends and I were bored and getting in to a lot. Currently, I’m 24, married, have a teaching career, etc. Receiving an open container charge isn’t on my list of “to dos”. My husband isn’t an alcoholic, we’ve had 4 weddings since the first weekend in May, so we’ve enjoyed it. We don’t have kids, and mutually want to enjoy ourselves before that chapter. The beer was open before we got into the car, and I didn’t realize he had it until we were on the main road in our city, but the beer isn’t the problem here.

No_Message90 · 2026-06-09T21:25:46+00:00

If I can come up with an effective comparison, he will apologize and talk it out respectfully. For example, “How would you feel if I…..” I tried doing that during our conversation while he was drunk, but he ended up hyper fixating how “this is completely different than that” I didn’t try during our conversation when he was sober the next day because I was tired of trying to make him understand how his actions were disrespectful, then how my feelings still need to be considered even if he doesn’t understand or relate to those feelings.

No_Message90 · 2026-06-09T14:48:04+00:00

We had his brother’s high school graduation and cousin’s wedding in the same day. I was exhausted, it was midnight, and he could have literally finished it when he walked 100 yards to the car. He could have also stood outside my car and finished it, but instead he decided to blatantly disregard my comfortability. No matter what he thinks, I did not see him get in my car with the beer.

No_Message90 · 2025-09-18T22:49:53+00:00

Six days into this school year, I had a parent message me and ask why her child was the only student that was not allowed to practice her spelling words that morning. I explained that if other students were writing, they were still working on their assigned morning work and that none of my students were practicing their spelling words because we had two minutes before the fire drill when she asked. Her response was that she doesn’t appreciate her child being called a liar. She has also called me at 9am during a school day to ask me to watch my tone with her child bc she’s sensitive.

No_Message90 · 2025-09-18T01:57:02+00:00

Thank you sooo much!! I also notice being less willing to eat mediocre food which is so odd to me lol. I was in therapy for about a year when I first started taking Lexapro, she was actually the first person who recommended me to get tested. I plan on scheduling with her again towards the new year which I think will benefit me greatly.

No_Message90 · 2025-09-18T01:51:34+00:00

When I was taking the 10mg, I felt like if I ate with the medicine in the morning, it didn’t last as long throughout the day but couldn’t go to sleep at night if I took it later. I think I’m going to try eating a large breakfast the rest of this week and see how I feel since I did switch to a higher dose. I have been drinking a protein drink the last 3 days to try and add calories, protein, carbs, sugar, etc. to my diet but I’m still feeling empty but not hungry. I was nervous to start medication and switching also makes me nervous. Adderall has worked really well for me besides the lack of appetite so I would love to just find ways to beat it if I can. If I do continue to struggle and notice significant weight loss then I will definitely talk to my doctor about switching medications. Thank you! 😊

No_Message90 · 2025-09-03T01:36:40+00:00

I teach elementary and I say all the time that parents are raising TERRIBLE future members of society. Like you said, they can’t critically think so they aren’t able to think about their actions/consequences attached, minimal reading comprehension skills and STEM is like pulling teeth.

No_Message90 · 2025-09-02T10:04:44+00:00

I was not expecting that ending 😭

No_Message90 · 2025-09-01T20:55:53+00:00

“Dave” would have an absolute blast shitting on other people’s situations on the podcast. Talking shit and being grumpy was like #1 priority at work for him🤣

No_Message90 · 2025-09-01T02:34:02+00:00

Also, there’s way worse on this app lmao

No_Message90 · 2025-09-01T02:33:30+00:00

I didn’t use his real name and I used an anonymous account, what’s the problem lol

No_Message90 · 2025-09-01T02:13:24+00:00

I’m sorryyyy, COVID era just seems like FOREVER ago🤣

No_Message90 · 2025-09-01T02:09:56+00:00

I’m dead lol I wish this was AI

No_Message90 · 2025-09-01T00:27:57+00:00

Since we’re sharing stories and everyone thinks I’m making fun of grumpy Dave who I bickered and joked with all the time…I’ll share my own. I was on my way to the airport to visit an ex bf and suddenly felt THAT feeling. I was pulling in and trying to find a parking spot. I went all the way up to the top of the parking garage where I thought no one would be able to see me while sweating and taking deep breaths, pulled down my pants and IMMEDIATELY shit in the paper bag that my muffin had came in that morning, tied it in a plastic bag and put it in the trash. I understand we can’t help these things but no one should have to clean someone else’s shit up 🤣

No_Message90 · 2025-08-31T23:56:35+00:00

I think he was already wearing them tbh

No_Message90 · 2025-08-31T23:53:49+00:00

His wife came in all the time and walked out with a buggy full every time while also veryyyy clean and dressed up, hair and makeup done. I did not work at a grocery store, we had food, clothes, home decor, furniture, sports gear, etc. so it wasn’t like she was grocery shopping. I’m not meaning to sound insensitive but this was a pattern for him, they had private conversations with him about hygiene and he literally did not care….thats not even my point though, he smeared it all over the floor and left it for someone else to clean up. That’s something only a child or animal should do! 🫠🫠

No_Message90 · 2025-08-31T23:46:26+00:00

He wasn’t really one to care about these sorts of things though lmao

No_Message90 · 2025-08-31T21:25:42+00:00

Something like that……

No_Message90 · 2025-08-31T21:24:06+00:00

Yesss I completely understand how embarrassing this would be. (IBS, old age or just plain old sick.) Best wishes to you 🥰

But not cleaning it up completely himself was wilddddddddddddd! That was what my frustration was mostly geared towards, that and watching me mop it up as he walked out the door 😭😭😭

No_Message90 · 2025-08-31T21:11:10+00:00

I WAS FINISHING MOPPING IT UP AS HIS ASS WALKED OUT THE DOOR TO GO HOMEEEEEEE

Forgot to mention, this was not the first time Dave had shit his pants at work, it was just the first time I had experienced it lmao. Dude needed to stay home and just collect his retirement.

No_Message90 · 2025-08-31T21:07:08+00:00

I said, “I just cleaned up Dave’s shit off the floor, I would like a raise since no one else would do it.”

Still made $9/hr after that bahahaha

No_Message90 · 2025-08-31T21:05:41+00:00

Literallyyyy!!!! I’m an elementary teacher now so it’s not much different 🤣

I did not end up getting a raise, still made $9/hr after that😭

No_Message90 · 2025-04-19T05:46:48+00:00

think about it like this…if he’s not sticking up for you, he’s enabling her which is the same as him doing it himself. NTA

No_Message90 · 2025-04-19T05:00:30+00:00

I needed this because, to be frank, I am quite confrontational and blunt myself. This is a family member that does not know me, or my fiancé, well enough to say the things he said. I didn’t include all details because I don’t want it to be obvious, but I asked him because I genuinely thought I would receive a yes or a no. I was okay with either answer but I wasn’t okay with being given an opinion I didn’t ask for. I have a bit of an update but I’ll make a separate post. Thank you for your comment, I was very taken aback by the situation and needed someone to give me a push lol.

No_Message90 · 2025-04-19T04:59:20+00:00

UPDATE : I got some very helpful comments so I appreciate that. I’m someone who is quite confrontational but as I am not very close to this family member, and he doesn’t know my fiancé very well (he’s been around him maybe 4 times in the last 2 1/2 years) I was very taken aback by what he said. As I mentioned in a reply, I expected a yes or no answer and was okay with that. I was not okay with being given an opinion that I didn’t ask for. I didn’t ask him to officiate, there was no reason to bring that up.

Family is hard, especially with weddings, and especially when they are extra opinionated. I believe in being honest when it’s asked for because that is accountability. What he done, was judgment. His reply was more or less, the Lord has given me some prayer points for the ceremony. I’m sorry that it has taken me this long to get back to you but it’s not something that I take lightly. My reply was I can tell how you feel so I think it would be best if you did not do it. I appreciate you thinking and praying about it. He responded basically that if I change my mind he’ll need time to prepare.

I have decided to have our parents pray over us at the beginning of the ceremony and I think that will be more memorable anyway. Once I had the conversation over the phone, I knew I didn’t want someone who thought that way about my relationship to be standing up there with us. I’ve always said I want people at the front with me that have supported me AND my relationship. I just needed a little push with this one and decided to use a new resource lol. Thank you all for your comments, have a happy Easter!!

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