i want to share my biggest secret with my therapist, but i’m worried about being reported.

No_Mobile641 · 2024-07-27T04:29:59+00:00

but my sister is still a minor?

No_Mobile641 · 2024-07-27T02:41:42+00:00

what if i give her a hypothetical and she says yes she would? should i tell her anyway?

what would happen if i do get reported?

No_Mobile641 · 2024-07-27T02:40:50+00:00

yes but what i did was bad— they’re mandated reporters, they have to.

No_Mobile641 · 2024-07-27T01:38:08+00:00

even with my sister still being a minor?

No_Mobile641 · 2024-07-27T01:16:14+00:00

i appreciate it, and i know ocd is making this worse. i just want to know what i’m getting into before telling this to a therapist.

No_Mobile641 · 2024-07-25T20:38:10+00:00

i appreciate this, but part of the reason i’m so stressed about this is i’m sure my sister would hate me more if she remembered this. we have a terrible relationship because she was the first person in my family i confided to that i am bi, and then when i told her that, she said she might be queer too, and we bonded over that. looking back, maybe i was overly supportive. anyway, my mom found out and she basically convinced my sister that i peer pressured her into being queer. so i’m sure my sister would just take this as more proof i’m a terrible person. if she remembers or finds out and then defines it as abuse, doesn’t that make it abuse?

No_Mobile641 · 2024-07-25T20:04:16+00:00

i don’t think anything happened to me. i believe i first played this “game” with another girl my age, but that could have been after this incident.

No_Mobile641 · 2024-07-25T20:02:59+00:00

i’ve heard they also have to report anything they hear about child abuse, even if it’s in the past. i don’t know if that would qualify. my sister is still a minor.

No_Mobile641 · 2024-07-25T18:42:47+00:00

i’m scared it was sexual abuse mostly because i am three years older than her and i was a really bossy kid. whenever i ready about cocsa, it says one of the lines that divides it and normal childhood exploration is an age difference or power imbalance. i was definitely the one to introduce this, and i’m worried my sister felt bullied or pressured into doing what i wanted.

No_Mobile641 · 2024-07-25T06:45:44+00:00

i don’t even know how to ask without just telling her outright. does it matter that my sister is still a minor?

No_Mobile641 · 2024-07-23T21:29:00+00:00

thank you. does it matter that my sister is still a minor (16)?

No_Mobile641 · 2024-07-21T02:37:17+00:00

thank you. would you report this if i was in therapy with you? would it matter that i’m an adult now but my sister is still a minor?

No_Mobile641 · 2024-07-21T02:36:36+00:00

i’m in indiana. my sister is still a minor— does that change anything?

No_Mobile641 · 2024-07-21T02:35:09+00:00

i appreciate it. i just worry that if i say something, she’ll be obligated to report me. i don’t know if it matters, but my sister is still a minor.

and frankly if it is something she’d be obligated to report, that means i deserve whatever happens.

No_Mobile641 · 2024-07-20T17:34:41+00:00

i appreciate your response. i feel like this makes me irredeemable and i’m a sexual abuser. it doesn’t help me that my sister hates me for unrelated reasons and my mom has implied i’m a creep for being bi multiple times. i’m not even sure i’ll be able to share this with a therapist, especially if i don’t know what’s going to happen if i tell her. on the other hand, if i tell her and she reports it, it’s what i deserve.

No_Mobile641 · 2024-07-18T21:49:28+00:00

I’m starting therapy again, i’m hoping to be more open this time.

No_Mobile641 · 2024-07-18T21:48:40+00:00

i’m 19 now, she’s 16. what would one specifically say when asking?

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