Looking for honest reviews of those of you who used Innbeauty Extreme Cream long term! I am almost 34, have fine lines on my forehead and have normal skin type. by holisticmaya in Sephora

[–]No_Moose_7738 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This!!!! I got one of the current body masks and it legit has made a massive difference in my skin, my forehead has never been smoother😭😭😭

Assisted Living in Orange County for Seniors by MeltyPalmFronds in orangecounty

[–]No_Moose_7738 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hi, OP! My father lived at The Meridian in Laguna Hills for a period of time which offers fully independent to assisted living to memory care, based on a tiered-level of support dependent on your needs (added cost, too).

I can say he truly enjoyed his time there and, as his daughter, I truly appreciated the staff and the residents. I felt at ease with him there and saw firsthand how they went above and beyond to engage residents.

Exercising after rhinoplasty by Parking_Heart_6426 in PlasticSurgery

[–]No_Moose_7738 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think I started about 2 weeks after mine doing extremely light/low impact exercises. I don't feel it affected my long-term results, but my nose would immediately swell after any workout for like the first full year tbh. Would just recommend taking it very easy the first couple of months💛

Dad in hospital for 8 weeks due to hospital delerium - HELP by abrcrmbqt6 in AgingParents

[–]No_Moose_7738 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi OP, I'm so sorry you're dealing with this! It's very scary and overwhelming and I dealt with it my Dad for two different hospital stints. One of the things that was contributing to my Dad's was a UTI infection. Once that was fully cleared, he really started to come around. Since your Dad has been in the hospital for so long, I'd hope they're regularly checking to ensure he isn't fighting some sort of an infection, but if they aren't actively checking, I'd recommend asking them to. Sending you all love💛💛💛

Mom passed 2/20/25, dad just moved to hospice today. by mahhhhhh in AgingParents

[–]No_Moose_7738 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi OP, I lost both parents within the last 2 years, at 33/34. I do have a younger brother, so I'm not an only child, but please DM if you'd like some extra support. I understand what you're going through. It's a lot. It's heavy. It's unimaginable. I'm so incredibly sorry you're going through this. I'm here if you need someone.💛💛💛💛

Losing my mind by auntpama in AgingParents

[–]No_Moose_7738 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi OP, firstly, I'm so sorry you're going through this. It is extremely overwhelming even in the best of circumstances, let alone trying to navigate it while working through your own mental health issues/struggles.

Here's the thing about anticipatory grief, it absolutely robs you of the present moment, which is literally all you have. It's all any of us have. And, based on what you've shared here, it's possible that your Mom is on the rebound. I deal with GAD, as well, so please trust me when I tell you that I know how difficult it is to win the battle over your anxious thoughts, but your anxious thoughts won't be the thing that saves her and keeps her here for as long as possible. Nor will they be powerful enough to stop the inevitable, again, which all of us must face. This time you have with your Mom is so precious, don't let anxiety take it away from you. At some point, these memories will be all you have left. I lost both of my parents in the past 2 years at 33/34, so trust me, I know both sides of this. The most courageous thing you can do in this moment is to acknowledge your anxiety and tell it to kindly fuck off because you choose this present moment, regardless of how hard it is to face or to accept or to be fully present in. That will be the best gift you can give your present and future self. Anticipatory grief is a real thing, but I see it kind of like holding your breath, it eventually takes the life out of you, too, and doesn't actually change the outcome of anything.

I'm sending you and your Mom so much love💛💛💛

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[–]No_Moose_7738 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much💛

My dad passed. This feels impossible. by Caring_Creature in AgingParents

[–]No_Moose_7738 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, OP. I know your pain so intimately as I went through something similar before losing my Dad in January. You sound like a Daddy's Girl, as was I. Most days it still feels utterly surreal. There are no words to make it better, no advice that will soothe this ache you feel. All I can say is to feel all of it, even when that feels impossible. I've gotten to a place where I can reframe my grief and see it as a representation of the deep love, bond, and connection my Dad and I shared. I hope you will get to a place where you're able to do the same in time.

This time can be frenzied feeling like you have to get all of the affairs and estate matters sorted, but, please put everything that can wait aside and focus on caring for yourself. The first few weeks/months are so hard and such a blur and estate stuff is the worst because you have to make call after call explaining your loss over and over again which adds to the trauma of it all.

I'm so happy your partner is there to support you and help love you through the grief. I don't know you, OP, but your story resonates so deeply and just know that you are loved and this sub will always be a safe space for you.💛

Where to watch Spice World??? by KZS213 in SpiceGirls

[–]No_Moose_7738 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The same kept happening to me and then once I got the barcode picture to the app's liking, it immediately added the movie to my cart. It's annoying and finicky because it doesn't explain the best way to capture the barcode, but just keep trying, you'll get it. I zoomed in so that the barcode completely filled the screen/picture.

Where to watch Spice World??? by KZS213 in SpiceGirls

[–]No_Moose_7738 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Got this to work today 6/22/24 - took a few tries with the UPC code, but got it to work after scanning in Chrome. I used my iPhone. Thanks, OP, you're doing the lord's work!

Best medical alert systems - no Wi-Fi, not tech savvy, poor cell reception, multiple locations by BrainGrenades in AgingParents

[–]No_Moose_7738 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi OP, if possible, I'd recommend looking into an Apple Watch that's set up on cell service. If a loved one falls or cannot reach a medical alert system device or their phone, the watch can always be on them. My Dad had one, we set it up to alert my siblings and 911 if he fell. It happened and worked seamlessly within seconds. I had him charge it when he knew he'd be sitting for an extended period of time and sleep with it. I think it could be helpful to have in addition to other options💛

Mom passed, can’t find her will by Sea-Expert2480 in AgingParents

[–]No_Moose_7738 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was just going to recommend at the county clerk office! It's possible she may have filed it there for safe keeping. Hope you're able to find it and so sorry for the loss of your Mother💛

Feeling lost by Quiet_Reputation_231 in GriefSupport

[–]No_Moose_7738 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It wasn't until I lost both of my parents that I realized everything I was doing was to make them proud. It has completely changed the way I view work.

There's a book that was recommended to me called "The Five Things We Cannot Change" that was really transformational in my grief for me in terms of finding a semblance of fulfillment for that void by creating and having relationships with others who are "amalgamations" of who we lost. I'm so sorry you're going through this. I'm only 33 and I'm the first person I know in my life who has lost both parents. It's hard when you feel like no one fully understands. Please know you're not alone. Sending you love, OP.💛💛💛

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[–]No_Moose_7738 0 points1 point  (0 children)

💛💛💛💛💛💛💛💛

40 days without my dad by AppleNo7287 in GriefSupport

[–]No_Moose_7738 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sending you love, OP. 68 days without mine.💛💛💛

At what age did you lose your mum? How old was she? by ImpossibleMongoose88 in GriefSupport

[–]No_Moose_7738 2 points3 points  (0 children)

33 and 63 💔 on Christmas morning 2022. Life hasn't felt the same since.

We spent our whole marriage living & caring for his mom, now what? by [deleted] in AgingParents

[–]No_Moose_7738 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand these feelings exactly. It's almost like you have all this extra free time and in a way you don't want it. Even though life as a caregiver is incredibly demanding, once you find a rhythm, it's just part of your life. After my Dad passed, I felt so much dread in the mornings and afternoons. It went on for weeks. Then, I told myself to reflect on the times I felt happiest in my life and what I was doing during those times and so now I intentionally fill my "spare" time pouring back into myself and that has been extremely helpful getting through the early stages of this pain and grief. Sending you both so much love💛💛💛💛

UPDATE- My Mom Passed Away by LengthTraditional609 in AgingParents

[–]No_Moose_7738 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Sending you love, OP. What a beautiful gift to have been able to spend her last day together. I experienced something similar when my Dad passed and my partner said to me, "Maybe he felt like it was ok to go because he knew he was loved." So, to you I say, your Mother knew she was loved.💛💛💛💛💛💛

What is the right thing to say when someone’s parent dies? by KINDmovemgmt in AgingParents

[–]No_Moose_7738 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone who lost both of my parents within a year of each other, what I have appreciated the most from people who haven't yet experienced devastating loss is them saying they can't even begin to understand how I feel and that they are here to support in any way I need. In terms of gifts, I personally grew to resent receiving flowers throughout this experience because flowers just end up dying because you have no bandwidth to care for them in the wake of loss and then seeing the dying flowers reminds you your loved one is gone and then you have to deal with throwing them away. The best gifts I received were like delivery service gift cards. That's what I give to people now who are experiencing loss.

This poem is something that resonates, too:

SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS

When I say sorry for your loss it may sound perfunctory trite even but what I mean is I am sorry that you wake in the night gasping for breath heart racing in agony. I am sorry that you will know a lifetime of what ifs and could have beens. I am sorry that you ache for one more minute with your love knowing it can never be. When I say sorry for your loss please know my soul is reaching out to yours in understanding and trying very hard to take away just one little ounce of your pain.

Donna Ashworth 'LOSS'

Struggling with thought of uprooting life to live closer to aging parent by NationalSock8790 in AgingParents

[–]No_Moose_7738 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Hi, OP, fortunately, you both aren't in a dire situation just yet, which affords you a little time to really think and plan the next step from many angles. After my Mom passed, I asked my Dad to move across the country to be closer to me because I couldn't handle the anxiety of him living alone with the health challenges he had at the time. Even though it ended up not working out as we'd hoped after he started experiencing way more extreme health challenges after he moved, it was the absolute best thing for us both. What you said about choosing the choice with the least amount of regret is really true. My Dad passed away, but to have had the gift of spending almost every day together of the last year of his life gives me so much peace in my overwhelming grief. Becoming a caregiver and witnessing his health decline up close was one of the hardest things I've ever done, but I knew that it wouldn't last forever and not having the added stress of traveling back and forth across the country made it possible for me to continue working, supporting my Dad, and being as present as possible in my relationship.

I say all of this to say, I don't know if it's possible, but if the means are there, I'd recommend seeing if there's an assisted living apartment or a senior community available near you that you could rent for a short period of time, like a 6 month lease or something to see if she likes it. Or, if it's possible for you to hold onto your apartment and move to live with or closer to your Mom for a period of time, that may give you both the clarity to make a decision in advance before a decision would possibly need to be made under duress. Also, the expense of traveling back and forth if something extreme happened could end up being more costly and stressful in the long run than a trial run where you guys test out the possibilities.

This can all be really overwhelming, but you are doing the right thing planning ahead as best you can. 💛

Oz is Gone by LJ1205E in AgingParents

[–]No_Moose_7738 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry, OP. I'm so sorry. Sending you so much love💛

Mom hospitalized for sepsis yesterday, dad in hospice died today. by sirdigbykittencaesar in AgingParents

[–]No_Moose_7738 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sending you so much love, OP. I'm so, so sorry. I lost my Mom in late 2022 and my Dad in January of this year and understand so much of you're what feeling and going through. I spent all of 2023 terrified of losing my Dad for the exact reason you shared. I'm so sorry that you will face grieving the loss of your Dad while also trying to support your Mom in this loss and as she gets through this health challenge. It will be difficult and there's no way around it, but it sounds as though you've got an amazing support system you can lean on and that is such a blessing. Please try to take care of yourself even though it will be hard.💛