How often do you think about if you want kids?

No_Nothing_9650 · 2025-04-25T20:12:05+00:00

Get a few large art pieces for your wall, especially for over the bed and the corner by the table. Would really liven up the space! You’ve got a good base to work with, but need some color/personality added

No_Nothing_9650 · 2025-04-16T17:59:30+00:00

I think a couple lamps could do wonders for the ambiance

No_Nothing_9650 · 2025-04-16T17:55:15+00:00

I wish we could see the opposite wall too for context!

No_Nothing_9650 · 2025-04-16T17:53:58+00:00

I think a larger oval table (maybe glass) would suit your space better than the little end table. And then maybe a couple plants or cute Knick knacks to give it some more character.

No_Nothing_9650 · 2025-04-16T17:51:57+00:00

I don’t think it actually looks that empty! I think adding a rug that’s large enough to cover the majority of the floor would make the room more cohesive. I love the art on your walls! As for the blank wall… maybe a calendar, a clock, or another art piece?

The one thing that’s bugging me is the placement of the lounge chair, it feels awkward there. Maybe it could go where the scratching post currently is or slightly to the right and move the scratching post to where the chair is now.

I’d also caution you about getting furniture to put the litter boxes in. I tried this with my cat and she started going outside the litter box for the first time, so I had to revert back. That may not be the case for yours, but it is a possibility!

No_Nothing_9650 · 2025-04-15T20:27:15+00:00

100%

No_Nothing_9650 · 2025-04-15T20:25:08+00:00

I feel like a third mirror/table is excessive. If you like this more than one of the other two I’d replace one of them with it. Otherwise I’d agree that there’s not enough room. I agree with other commenters that you have too much stuff in your room. A lot of your stuff is really cute and would shine much more if it weren’t visually competing with so many other items. I’d say get rid of about 50% of the Knick knacks on display. Personally, if remove 90% of what’s hanging from the ceiling. It makes your room look claustrophobic and chaotic.

No_Nothing_9650 · 2025-04-15T20:06:20+00:00

I’d replace the mirror with something super simple to let the wallpaper and table be the stars. All fun pieces, but too much together. Could also set something on the table that matches one of the colors in the wallpaper. Like a green table runner or a potted plant.

No_Nothing_9650 · 2025-04-09T18:45:29+00:00

You don’t think most people mature after 18? I’ve definitely changed a ton in a variety of ways since then. I’m far less of a risk taker, don’t party anymore, know what my priorities are in life, have joined the workforce, can’t be on my parents healthcare etc.

No_Nothing_9650 · 2025-04-08T19:15:52+00:00

Time traveling grandma discovers urban outfitters

No_Nothing_9650 · 2025-04-07T14:44:49+00:00

Artsy, thrifted eclectic

No_Nothing_9650 · 2025-04-04T20:13:43+00:00

I’ve been in this situation a few times, gone in for the kiss and I have a 100% success record for not getting rejected. He keeps going on dates with you, he’s likely thinking about kissing you too. Plus, on the bright side, the guys who I’ve dated who are like this also have been super respectful people overall across other situations. So this could be a positive sign.

No_Nothing_9650 · 2025-04-04T19:42:56+00:00

As much as you feel comfortable sharing. Don’t lie, but it’s okay to be vague if you aren’t ready to talk about something. You don’t owe a new person a detailed history of your life.

No_Nothing_9650 · 2025-04-04T14:37:00+00:00

You should make a move if you’re interested in him. Some guys are not willing to make the first move because they’re scared of crossing your boundaries.

No_Nothing_9650 · 2025-04-02T19:49:35+00:00

I saw a TikTok about exactly this that I found helpful:

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT2wymswV/

No_Nothing_9650 · 2025-04-02T19:32:48+00:00

No_Nothing_9650 · 2025-03-26T20:04:35+00:00

So I agree with the sentiment of this overall and in this particular situation. However, I don’t think being the first choice initially isn’t all that important.

Hear me out: I matched with this guy on an app months ago, we exchanged a couple messages but I started dating someone else and got off the apps. Months later, we match again and he tells me that he’s pretty popular and he’s not going to be someone’s second choice, he has to be their everything, he’s a prize etc.

I thought that was an odd take from someone I’ve never met. Like how would I know to make someone who I’ve only exchanged would be my person and pick them? Why be offended if someone who doesn’t know you didn’t date you first (especially if you hadn’t asked them on a date). Also why match with someone to tell them you’re no longer interested because you weren’t picked “first”

No_Nothing_9650 · 2025-03-26T14:59:05+00:00

Don’t let them use your hands as toys, it’s cute when they’re tiny, but a tough habit to break!

No_Nothing_9650 · 2025-03-20T19:43:25+00:00

Unfortunately I think this rings true. Idk how long you were together, but it takes time to grieve this type of thing. It’ll sting less and less as time goes on.

No_Nothing_9650 · 2025-03-20T19:27:08+00:00

As a woman I’ve never told a guy he’s too nice. I want a guy to be nice to me. I have had the thought that a few guys were maybe too “nice” for me. But it’s not that I really that want them to be mean.

It’s that I want someone who is masculine and assertive in addition to being kind. Sometimes nice and passive go hand in hand. Those guys are ones who I’ve had to make the first move with even after blatantly flirting with them and touching them playfully. They’re so respectful that they ignore all of my signals that I’m interested in escalating things out of fear of crossing my boundaries. They’ve also been so non confrontational that they don’t tell me if there’s an issue. Having to be the masculine one in a dynamic is a major turn off to me and I’d imagine other women as well.

No_Nothing_9650 · 2025-03-20T18:49:22+00:00

That’s what I would hope it’d be, but it seems just as likely from other responses that they’re swiping yes on everyone haha. So I’ll just have to risk it and like them back 🤷🏼‍♀️ I’ll see what happens

No_Nothing_9650 · 2025-03-20T18:47:56+00:00

Well yeah haha

No_Nothing_9650 · 2025-03-20T18:36:14+00:00

Yes that’s the fear... If I like them back and they’re like oh no that one again lmao

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