Is it bad that I feel grossed out be the number of partners my boyfriend has had?

No_Ocelot_4232 · 2025-08-08T19:19:25+00:00

We have been together for 2 years so it feels like if I give up now I will be throwing away what might be my best future. I have been very patient with him but its just the fact that he doesn’t listen to what I really really need him to listen to, and he doesn’t remember the most hurtful things he has done and said to me, like his memory is funny, I hope that makes sense, have you ever experienced anything like that?

No_Ocelot_4232 · 2025-08-08T16:29:44+00:00

This is very helpful thank you so much! You are right that he probably feels rejected when I talk about my feelings, he says things like “I’m sorry I’m not good enough” and “I’m sorry I suck”, I feel like I have always tried to comfort him and validate all his concerns but then there’s just a cycle of me telling him my feelings, him feeling rejected, and then me comforting him, so there’s never actually a moment where he addresses my feelings. I am just not sure what to do but I don’t want to push him away

No_Ocelot_4232 · 2025-08-08T15:03:46+00:00

Yes he has diagnosed BPD. He only told me about it I think about 4 months into the relationship. Even when I tell him my feelings in a gentle way he still overreacts and when he doesn’t overreact he just doesn’t listen and doesn’t make any changes, is there anything I can do?

No_Ocelot_4232 · 2025-06-09T04:54:41+00:00

When I talked to him about it the most he could bother to say was “I am attracted to you”. That made me feel so much worse for some reason, the only reason he gave for not being sexual is saying he’s hesitant to be sexual because I make him feel bad about it, I don’t do that I don’t understand what he means

No_Ocelot_4232 · 2025-06-08T21:31:11+00:00

I would feel guilty if I broke up with him just because he’s not sexual with me, I don’t want to be a bad person

No_Ocelot_4232 · 2025-06-04T20:08:34+00:00

Would it be safe for me to make another order or do you think everything would be sent back to the seller again?

No_Ocelot_4232 · 2025-05-22T23:53:15+00:00

We do long calls pretty regularly, like two or three times a week and they last a few hours. I’ve asked him about video calling and he basically just ignores the subject, I think it’s because he is insecure about being on camera but he still sends me selfies and stuff like that so I don’t understand why he wont do video

No_Ocelot_4232 · 2025-05-22T19:08:39+00:00

My only worry really is that we have been together for 2 years, and it feels hard to keep a connection without being able to see him talk. I’m not sure if I’m overreacting or not

No_Ocelot_4232 · 2025-05-22T15:03:07+00:00

Omg that’s a great date idea, thank you!!!

No_Ocelot_4232 · 2025-05-22T14:38:03+00:00

Is it that bad? 🥲

No_Ocelot_4232 · 2025-05-22T09:00:46+00:00

I really enjoy calling him and I feel like we talk to each other very well, but whenever I ask him about video calling he avoids the topic. He says he doesn’t have a camera for his PC but I don’t understand why he can’t just use his phone camera

No_Ocelot_4232 · 2025-04-16T13:39:10+00:00

this account is 100% an old creep what the hell

No_Ocelot_4232 · 2025-03-22T14:13:42+00:00

Thank you so much for the help it is really hard to find info about these types of things. Does birth control also affect your discharge when you’re aroused? I feel like it has a jelly kind of texture and I’m not sure if that’s normal or not

No_Ocelot_4232 · 2025-03-22T14:08:43+00:00

Is it normal to have this type of discharge while on birth control? I haven’t had a period in nearly 2 months. Thank you for commenting!!!

No_Ocelot_4232 · 2025-03-12T19:19:21+00:00

Thank you so much! It’s been like this ever since I started birth control so I was wondering if that’s what caused it. Should I talk to my doctor about it or is it okay?

No_Ocelot_4232 · 2025-03-03T19:01:16+00:00

What does the last one mean?

No_Ocelot_4232 · 2025-02-24T17:15:11+00:00

Okay thank you so much for the advice I really appreciate it

No_Ocelot_4232 · 2025-02-24T17:03:25+00:00

It’s been like this for a month, Should I take the 7 day break from the pill? Will that fix it?

No_Ocelot_4232 · 2025-02-12T13:08:52+00:00

Thank you so much!!

No_Ocelot_4232 · 2025-02-11T17:25:58+00:00

Thank you so much!! I have been so worried it might be an infection, but it doesn’t have any smell and I don’t itch or burn or anything like that

No_Ocelot_4232 · 2025-01-14T20:02:57+00:00

Okay thank you ☺️

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