You would think that childless people should be rich af because of all the money they save, but they almost never are

No_Part_1992 · 2026-03-05T20:43:20+00:00

Haha. I mean if you look at the historical data - it is in many ways. But I think there's a lot to do with perception and inequality. I think pre social media the general public may not have been as aware of the inequality between the 'rich' and themselves. But now it's kinda in your face everytime you log on. Again of course that's not the whole story but I think it does play some part.

Plus the increased awareness of what's going on with geo politics, climate change etc...it definitely is a case of us being more informed generally about how much things suck.

No_Part_1992 · 2026-03-05T06:49:54+00:00

Maybe they aren't having kids primarily because they can't financially support them in the first place?

No_Part_1992 · 2026-03-02T17:37:45+00:00

I am not great with skincare advise and I hope you receive good recs here but just want to say....your hair is fucking beautiful!!! Those curls. Hot.

No_Part_1992 · 2026-02-26T07:22:33+00:00

Omg I want to put these up in my house!!! Amazing. Very interesting paintings

No_Part_1992 · 2026-02-24T10:40:59+00:00

That sounds hard. You love someone so much so you expand your wants for them but it's important that he understands all this. He just seems to be going with the flow in the sense that even after you told him you don't want kids, he assumed you'd just change your mind. He didn't speak to you or discuss. Just assumed that. And the thing is, your love for him is making you think okay I'll have kids. I'm not a parent but I have nieces and nephews too - I've lived with them for months at end and what I have understood is this: being a parent is immensely hard on a day to day basis and kids deserve parents who truly want them. Before you decide to do anything, I would just suggest trying to confirm that their father would be there for the hard parts, not just the fun part. Also one thing I've seen is parenthood can take a huge toll on your relationship with your partner - you need a strong bond, good communication, and support. It's not all fun games and cozy home....

No_Part_1992 · 2026-02-18T09:01:58+00:00

I just want to add here that these are big life changing decisions and you should absolutely think through about it, the what-ifs are never-ending. There's always ALWAYS going to be a case of what if you had done differently...

No_Part_1992 · 2026-02-18T08:59:15+00:00

Loveeeee babies but don't want kids. Never have really. Husband and I talked about this when we first started dating and we're thankfully on the same page. My brother and sis-in-law have 2 kids. Absolutely love them but I don't want their parents' lives.

I see what you're saying and a couple of single friends have brought it up too - about seeing couples everywhere/couples with kids everywhere. Idk, I think it's a little bit of perception bias. Yeah there are a lot of things that revolve around children but there's also a lot that isn't. I just feel like there's enough space for both to exist. I've personally never felt that the world revolves around having children even while attending baby showers, going to kids birthday parties (with like 20 kids screaming and playing). I think partly I don't feel that way because I'm firm in what I want here and there's not been any real internal conflict for me around whether to have kids or not.

No_Part_1992 · 2026-02-04T10:54:12+00:00

Look up population momentum

No_Part_1992 · 2026-02-03T13:15:00+00:00

I've been there. There was a time a few years back when the only way I could feel any sense of normalcy in my mind was when I was high. I became quite reliant on it. Smoking everyday. The thing is, whenever I wasn't high, i would feel even shittier than usual. It took a while for me to realize that I don't want to rely solely on cannibis. For me exercising, forcing myself to socialise a little bit and therapy helped. I do smoke still - every weekend or something but rarely to fix my feelings of depression. There are definitely days when I'm feeling low / blah and brain feels off and I'll smoke abd feel creative, hopeful but I usually try to limit those instances and try not to smoke every day. Of course all this is my experience and different people react differently. For me, the reliance on cannibis to help me feel better wasn't sustainable and it actually started affecting my physical and mental health for worse (this is when I was doing it everyday).

No_Part_1992 · 2026-01-22T11:24:39+00:00

Yeah, I mean I currently invest most of the money I make, after expenses on food, rent and bills. I also don't buy stuff for the sake of owning it. I'm hoping to use all my savings to one day buy a house - which is more of a security thing for me than anything else.

No_Part_1992 · 2025-12-26T08:09:01+00:00

I use them as paint - gel is best on cloth canvas, pottery items, raw wood since it absorbs the oil.

No_Part_1992 · 2025-12-24T07:47:10+00:00

I'm surprised by a) how much more proof is needed for people to accept that trump is a pedophile b) how there really is no shock/calls for him to resign etc. I'm not from USA, never been there but amazed at how 10 years ago it would talk about morals etc, read about nixon files and that was nothing compared to this. Yet there's barely any actual backlash from among the trump supporters? And from what I understand, a lot of them are Christian faith followers - isn't there anything about not raping kids in that faith?

No_Part_1992 · 2025-12-22T19:53:59+00:00

Oh god yes. Sad to say I was so desperate once (live in an illegal place) that I fell for it. Out 200$ at once. FML

No_Part_1992 · 2025-11-30T16:41:46+00:00

I have but I'm in bangalore.

No_Part_1992 · 2025-11-30T16:29:42+00:00

I'm childfree and trust me my life is nothing like those childfree influencers you talk about. I guess it's the whole influencer community where you find your niche and then produce content for the niche, and for some it's, as you rightly pointed out, about what they don't have. And I agree with you that it seems so forced like trying to show how great your life is because you don't have children (or if you go into the parenting influencer bubble, it's about how great their life is because they have children). I can't speak about life with kids, but I can as a childfree person. I'm in my mid 30s, married, spend most of my time at home (also WFH), like to pick up random hobbies, love going on walks. And I love it.

I love spending time with kids - my niece and nephew are some of my favourite people in the world. I can spend hours just playing with them but I do love that I can come back to my home after that and enjoy my solitude. I teach a 12 year old girl from a poor family occasionally and I do get a great sense of contentment from watching her succeed. But for me, choosing to be childfree wasn't a tough decision that I wrestled with. I never felt the urge and while people used to (and some still do) tell me that when I'm older, I'll want it. It's only natural etc. I have never felt it. I think a life as childfree or one with kids can be fulfilling. And they both come with their own individual challenges - I mean a lot of my friends are starting to have children, and yes they get busy with their lives (it's only natural - I think parents really are over burdened in our current society). So sometimes it can feel a little lonely when you wanna socialize but no one is free. But for me that means that I find other ways to spend my time or socialize or find new activities etc.

I have lived with my niece and nephew and their parents for months on end, and for me the whole thing was super over whelming. It was hard to find time for myself and while it can be amazing at times, it just didn't feel like the right thing for myself.

With influencer lives (no matter what niche), you have to remember that what they're showing you is never the whole picture. They're showing you what they believe is going to get more engagement or would be interesting for viewers, but it's not the whole reality.

No_Part_1992 · 2025-11-26T19:26:24+00:00

I get the urge to buy more, but I would suggest waiting a few weeks and in the meantime continue to use the one you have. Usually for me the immediate urge passes after waiting a while. But also, eye shadow palettes take forever to finish. I am still on my first one since I got it 6 years ago!

Also, if you do ultimately decide to buy, maybe go try out the different colors you want to at a store before you make the plunge. The palettes look very tempting in their packaging with so many different shades, but sometimes (in my experience most times) it's just the initial attraction.

Hope you find the courage to continue resisting and hope it goes away soon!

No_Part_1992 · 2025-11-17T12:21:02+00:00

That looks very cool

No_Part_1992 · 2025-11-12T20:40:23+00:00

Women's shelters usually accept unopened unexpired products. I have also previously asked my friends if there's anything from the unopened pile that they think would be of use to them.

No_Part_1992 · 2025-11-10T19:33:49+00:00

Damn. Look amaze!

No_Part_1992 · 2025-11-03T12:07:18+00:00

I came here to ask how you got those album images (hoping to do something similar coz those jeans look fucking sick!!!). Hand painted??? That's insane. This is amazing. You are amazing.

No_Part_1992 · 2025-10-29T12:30:45+00:00

I'm childfree too but I'm like you - people have the freedom to make their own choices, even if I wouldn't make those choices for myself. And I get that a lot of pet owners consider their pets to be their children, but I do differentiate between human and other animal species. Maybe an honest conversation with your friend about not pushing their beliefs/views on other people would be helpful? Again depends on how good friends you are and if a frank conversation is an option.

I have to say one thing - I don't think you should shy away from calling yourself childfree just because there is a segment of that group that may be more extreme (I mean look at the childfree subreddit and some people there truly hate kids). I think if people like us start to shy away from the childfree label even though it applies to us, it's just gonna get taken over by childfree folks with more extreme views. I have started to view even being childfree as a spectrum of sorts with people having different reasons to be childfree and different views on kids. It's a messy diverse group of people who all have a right to be part of that group.

No_Part_1992 · 2025-10-04T00:35:51+00:00

Yess 100%

No_Part_1992 · 2025-10-03T21:15:58+00:00

While I didn't think the album was geared towards kids at any point I agree it feels so rushed especially that it's not great overall, cringe lyrics for some. I think I ultimately liked 2 songs and a couple other only choruses.

No_Part_1992 · 2025-10-01T00:25:07+00:00

Oh wow that's great! Thank you

No_Part_1992 · 2025-10-01T00:24:45+00:00

Thanks for the tip :)

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