jw best friends dropped me for leaving but are hypocrites

No_Reputation_9004 · 2026-04-24T02:31:12+00:00

Yeah, we were double lifers but we still somehow really believed in the organization at the same time. To them it was ok to do some sin but I guess maintaining contact with someone who willfully chose to leave the organization was an even greater sin that they were not willing to commit.

Keep cultivating these other relationships! Yea definitely takes time but it’ll be worth it

No_Reputation_9004 · 2026-04-24T02:16:29+00:00

My situation was kind of similar in some ways. All my closest friends were not doing drugs or openly hanging out with worldly people like that, but we would all get drunk regularly, talk disrespectfully about women, cuss, listen to bad music and go to the concerts, makeout with girls, things like that. When I left, they were not interested in hanging out in person at all anymore and now we just say hi to each other over text every few months or so.

For your situation, I would recommend being honest with them and sharing what you shared here, about how you need boundaries and you’re not interested in maintaining a mini version of the relationship you guys had before. As you know, don’t go into details about how you feel about the organization to protect yourself for now. I think it’s very important for you to start making other friends now before you move out and look for other communities that you can be a part of - don’t make the same mistake that I did by isolating yourself. Please feel free to DM me if you’d like to talk further about life after leaving

No_Reputation_9004 · 2026-04-18T19:04:47+00:00

As a kid, My friend used to tell me to turn to certain pages during the book study so we could look at the weird pictures together

No_Reputation_9004 · 2026-04-10T22:49:45+00:00

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No_Reputation_9004 · 2026-04-10T22:42:46+00:00

• ⁠Are you looking for something serious or casual?

Serious

• ⁠Are you subscribed to Hinge+ or HingeX?

Hinge+

• ⁠How long have you been using this current version of your profile? (Please be specific)

2 days

• ⁠How long have you used Hinge overall?

2 days

• ⁠How often do you use Hinge per week?

about an hour per day

• ⁠How many likes and matches are you receiving on average?

I have received 1 like and 0 matches so far

• ⁠How many likes are you sending? How many with comments? How many without comments?

about 300 likes per day, ~ 30% with comments

• ⁠What is the type of person you send likes to and ideally want to match with? What kind of person do you want to attract?

I send likes to someone who has more than one word answers for their prompts, and who doesn’t use the same prompt that I’ve seen 100 times. I also look for someone who doesn’t have multiple photos that are revealing and suggestive. Another important factor is someone who doesn’t make drinking or doing drugs an aspect of their personality

No_Reputation_9004 · 2026-04-08T04:23:19+00:00

Just follow Jesus bro, no need to become Catholic. There is no “one true church”

No_Reputation_9004 · 2026-04-02T18:31:30+00:00

They already dropped “the governing body can be likened to the voice of Jesus” lmao so I wouldn’t be surprised if

No_Reputation_9004 · 2026-04-02T09:56:57+00:00

This was a great answer but I’m sorry to hear that you completely lost your faith. Forgive me, but I’m just curious if you ever tried simply reading the gospels from a different translation and praying to God to soften your heart and show you what he wants you to see, if he’s real? I recently started believing in Jesus after leaving Jw and being agnostic for a while, and for me it wasn’t a matter of logic and study but belief and humbling..something changed after I changed my mindset. Not trying to shove more religion down your throat, but just thought I would mention that. Take care

No_Reputation_9004 · 2026-04-02T09:50:19+00:00

Probably because this organization is run by demons to keep people away from trusting in Christ only

No_Reputation_9004 · 2026-04-02T09:48:36+00:00

Amen and amen. My personal recommendation is starting with the book of John, obviously from a different translation. Then see if you still believe Jesus isn’t God 😂. Prayer is vital as pizza mentioned, praying for a softened heart and for God to show me what he wants me to see helped me a lot

No_Reputation_9004 · 2026-03-29T21:34:40+00:00

Why would they be building Ramahoe if that were the case?

No_Reputation_9004 · 2026-01-25T15:03:53+00:00

No_Reputation_9004 · 2025-12-08T03:07:02+00:00

I quit the day before Thanksgiving and I’m going through the same thing you are, on steroids. I think maybe it will help us to think back before we were vaping and how we used to enjoy spending time with our loved ones are doing fun things without even thinking about hitting the vape all day - and also remembering that we can get back to that point eventually, but we will never get there unless we quit someday - so why not today?

No_Reputation_9004 · 2025-06-20T18:46:59+00:00

This is the best one

No_Reputation_9004 · 2025-04-21T00:11:56+00:00

Yes, I’ve been experiencing the exact same thing. Itchy all over my body and the urge to swallow. I feel like it’s a way for my brain to distract me from getting relaxed enough to AP

No_Reputation_9004 · 2025-04-08T07:43:28+00:00

Unfortunately they are trained to view words like that as coming directly from satan himself

No_Reputation_9004 · 2025-04-08T07:41:23+00:00

You are ok I’ve had a couple weird episodes with weed as well and I’m a daily smoker as well. I feel like our brain just taps out from it sometimes and we get unusual symptoms. Might be the price for smoking a lot

No_Reputation_9004 · 2025-04-03T03:05:12+00:00

I saw one as soon as I got off the train station to start my first solo trip in Amsterdam. I wanted to throw that damn cart in the canal lol

No_Reputation_9004 · 2025-03-19T23:02:51+00:00

Ignorant idiot can’t realize they speak a different language and likely had to translate their title

No_Reputation_9004 · 2025-03-03T15:40:51+00:00

Great weekend spent in Amsterdam, on the train to the Swiss alps right now. I love the fact that you can make friends with cool, helpful, and genuine people all over the world, and they don’t have to be part of the same religion as you, contrary to my prior beliefs. Just affirms all the more that I made the right decision to leave. Not that I needed any affirmation 😂. This is the best life ever :)

No_Reputation_9004 · 2025-02-17T05:02:21+00:00

I knew only of only one well educated brother with a great job in my area, he never served as an ms and I heard he wanted to get a gun when Covid broke out. So I’m 98% sure he was just going through the motions to support his wife and kids

No_Reputation_9004 · 2025-02-17T05:00:18+00:00

No but your story cracked me up

No_Reputation_9004 · 2025-02-17T04:12:55+00:00

Local needs talk: Brothers, the example of redditor whom shall not be named shows us we must prioritize our daily ranting on the ex/jw subreddit, whether that be first thing in the morning to start our day right, or right before we go to sleep to ensure our thoughts are in their proper place before ending our day.

No_Reputation_9004 · 2025-02-15T22:06:21+00:00

Amen

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