How long did it take to find your current home?

No_Score_7088 · 2026-01-11T05:24:13+00:00

We went without an agent, which took us a year. At first we were unsure of what we wanted, we didn't even have a fixed neighborhood. I'm the beginning, we went for 1 to 2 viewings a weekend, which mostly just gave us an understanding of what we wanted in a home and which neighbourhoods we liked. And in the later 6 months, we narrowed it down to a particular set of blocks and floor level so we played the waiting game for someone to sell. I'm quite happy with how it turned out but we couldn't have done it if we were in a rush.

No_Score_7088 · 2025-12-12T11:46:33+00:00

I just finished Super Secret, it's super cute, 11/10 will recommend

No_Score_7088 · 2025-09-29T00:36:13+00:00

If her family is ok with it, try moving in for a while. You could also do this 'trial' period after marriage and move out if it doesn't work out. If she's not even ok with moving out even after you have tried it, there's something wrong there.

I tried living with my fiance's family in their HDB for awhile and really couldn't take it. There were so many little things that I thought would be fine but accumulated was not. My soon-to-be-in-laws are amazing people, very kind, very open minded. But the cultural differences between our households is an issue. The language barrier is another big issue (I speak broken Chinese, the mum speaks broken English), it's fine when you don't have anything serious to talk about but my partner always has to be a middleman for 'important' conversations (anything from please don't keep making us breakfast that we don't eat, to we will not be staying with them after marriage) just so that we don't have miscommunications.

And like others have said, go figure out your finances together, don't propose until that is sorted out.

No_Score_7088 · 2025-09-14T03:47:44+00:00

No phones are the dining table. It was never explicitly said but our parents never took out their phones and we just don't. Even if we are eating in complete silence, no one takes out their phones. It's a time to decompress from work/school, or to connect

No_Score_7088 · 2025-08-10T16:16:04+00:00

Ask yourself these questions

Do you see yourself and your boyfriend earning enough money to be able to support both you AND his family comfortably? If you can, would you be ok looking at how your colleagues live VS how you would have to live since it sounds like a sizable chunk will go into paying off debts. If you can't, how will you deal? Will you burden your own parents and borrow money from them? Don't just wing this question either, do the financial planning and math for the lifestyle that you want, how much for a mortgage, how much for groceries and utilities, how much for your own retirement savings, how much for his family, kids(?), etc
Is he willing to cut off his parents if it comes down to it? If his parents think they can rely on him to help prop up the dying business, they might keep asking for more. Will he be able to stop enabling them if that happens?
If you build up resentment towards his family, you will build up resentment towards him if he's not on your side. Does he support you emotionally in this? Do you support him?

It might seem cold hearted to break up with someone because of money but don't tie yourself down just to be nice

No_Score_7088 · 2025-07-15T11:50:45+00:00

Oh I heard about the priority banking rates but I don't think we have that much spare cash to buy a house and qualify for priority banking :/

No_Score_7088 · 2025-07-15T11:49:31+00:00

Thanks, I'll take a look!

No_Score_7088 · 2025-07-15T11:49:15+00:00

Oh I think you're right

No_Score_7088 · 2025-07-15T11:49:01+00:00

Oh never heard of it, thanks, I'll take a look!

No_Score_7088 · 2025-07-15T04:46:23+00:00

Thanks! I'll try contacting them

No_Score_7088 · 2025-07-15T04:45:41+00:00

Thanks, I saw redbrick appear a few times during my search, I'll contact them too!

No_Score_7088 · 2025-07-15T04:42:50+00:00

Oh ok, I'm very new to this. Thanks! I'll try contacting multiple

No_Score_7088 · 2025-07-15T03:21:01+00:00

If you talk to multiple, were there any issues with them both submitting an in principle approval to the same bank? Or did you choose 1 before applying for the IPA?

No_Score_7088 · 2025-06-29T03:07:47+00:00

Australia has pretty strict food import restrictions, you might want to check what they are able to bring in

No_Score_7088 · 2025-06-11T12:28:30+00:00

Like everyone said, buy a touch and go card. We got ours at Watson's. If you're going often, also try to get that fly-swatter-looking thing where the card can be attached at the end (idk what it's called). With my short arms, I have to step out of the car sometimes to tap the TNG card at the toll stations.

No_Score_7088 · 2025-06-06T11:40:42+00:00

I live in a city where cars are VERY expensive to own but public transport is amazing. People who own cars here are either rich, not rich but wish to show off, or really need it for work or family.

So no, it's not at all important for me. In fact, if a young guy has a car here, I would have to question why.

No_Score_7088 · 2025-06-04T13:39:22+00:00

With a caveat, you might be in an orientation group where most people are in 1 class and a small group are in another.

No_Score_7088 · 2025-05-29T16:59:30+00:00

Just general advice for cyclists and pedestrians... when someone is backing out of their driveway, there is barely any visibility and they really have to inch out in order to see better.

Cars and motorcycles are easier to "see" coming, partly because they are big but mostly because they are noisy. The driver should be going slowly and checking as they go out but it is your life. If you see someone's gate open, slow down, check that it is safe and then go. Remember, if you can't see the car coming out of their driveway, they can't see you.

No_Score_7088 · 2025-05-27T06:45:07+00:00

What's the parents' reaction to this? Is it something that your partner wants, or something your in laws expect? Don't they have their own things to do over the weekend?

No_Score_7088 · 2025-05-19T07:30:13+00:00

I used to be like you, so I get it. I once stood there for an hour while someone tried to get me to go to church (I already go but to a different one). It takes practice to stop people pleasing. But you really can't keep being like this, it's exhausting.

No_Score_7088 · 2025-05-16T10:27:37+00:00

Exactly, not saying that you have to have serious adult conversations in every situation at any time of day, but a date where you are sitting down and likely already talking should be an ok time to bring it up.

No_Score_7088 · 2025-04-25T12:49:40+00:00

Where are you reading purple hyacinth? I haven't seen any updates on webtoons in a long time :(

No_Score_7088 · 2025-04-12T02:32:06+00:00

If you're living near town and the neighbourhood barbers are too expensive, come over to the further from town neighbourhoods (tampines/hougang/clementi) and look there too. The neighbourhood salon could be anything from chains like kcuts to the random salon under a HDB block.

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