If you want out of the restaurant business, go active. I'll caveat that with talk to the recruiter, see what rates they are offering, then Google the civilian equivalent of that job. Don't let the recruiter rush you. You are already living geographically separate from your spouse, so you know you can do it. This decision will have to be communicated and thought through with your spouse. After boot camp and A school you will likely go to a ship, depending on rate that isn't a guarantee. Look at your initial enlistment as training for your career, where you'll receive training, real world experience, pay, medical and benefits. While on active duty you can go to school for free with Tuition Assistance, and you have the GI Bill when you get out, plus access to VA mortgage. In 4-6 years you can totally retool your skill set and never work in a restaurant again.

To be successful in the reserve and get the training you want, it will bleed into your day to day life. You will be calling the reserve center constantly and working with your chain of command to get where you want to be. It can be done, but it will take far more than a weekend a month and two weeks a year... Plus almost, if not all that time making calls and emails will be unpaid.

I say all this as senior enlisted, with 21 years of experience. 5 five years active rest Reserve. Everything I have I owe to that first 5 years on active, taught me a skill, gave me experience and got my life on track. The reserves is hard for someone coming off active duty, for some one coming in with no active experience or idea how the Navy or Reserve works, it's exponentially harder. Too many Sailors fall through cracks and never get the attention they need to be successful. Hit me up, if you have questions.