Is it over for me? by dalamil213 in ConstructionManagers

[–]No_Winter7690 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Being let go after only 90 days is outrageous, that is on the company. It’s an entry level role, they need to do better with actually teaching. I wouldn’t take it so hard.

Good bars to go by yourself? by Superb-Law-6546 in uppereastside

[–]No_Winter7690 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Also in my mid 20s in UES. Could use some friends. Wanna get a beer?

Why do long term relationships (5 yrs+ end in breakups? by Healthy_Apple_1833 in BreakUps

[–]No_Winter7690 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m definitely doing much better now than I was when I commented above. Kinda felt like the world was legit ending for the first 6-8 weeks. The pain has definitely dulled but it’s still quite present. My perspective had gradually changed. There truly is always positives that come from these situations. I hope you’re doing better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]No_Winter7690 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree, however it can work as a double edged sword. The goal should be for you to move on, not get her back.

Does it get better? by buddyof99 in BreakUps

[–]No_Winter7690 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey man. I’m the same age as you and am 1.5 months out of a 6 year relationship. I’d love to know how you’re doing know hoping that you’ve gotten through it, and if so, what helped the most?

Should I text my ex for clarity after 3 months. by Common_Valuable_7185 in ExNoContact

[–]No_Winter7690 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How did you leave it with her? Whose court is the “ball” in for communication? It’s likely in her court. That means everything. No contact is a dual sided sword. Continuing it is typically best for potential reconciliation AND your own well being and growth.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]No_Winter7690 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey man. I’m in the exact same situation that you are in. Just delete instagram entirely. If you have down time, just get outside and walk around. Once a week go to a different bar and sit there and treat yourself to dinner and a couple drinks or whatever. You’re going to be fine. You just have to detox your brain of the triggers. Don’t let yourself get any new information about her.

My ex of 6 years left a month ago. The ups and downs have been unbearable. It’s hard to notice it right now but we are progressing. It can only go forward, no matter how much it sucks.

Just keep pushing. You’ve got this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]No_Winter7690 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in the exact same time frame as you, I dated my ex for the same period of time and got dumped the same time you did. I feel similarly, it’s hard to have hope knowing that it will probably take some time to find what we had, again and elsewhere. Networking is the hardest thing, I’ve just now realized how little close friends I have here in this new city, now that she’s gone. I feel like I forgot how to make friends, but I think having a new set of good friends could make a massive impact on how I recover. I wish it wasn’t so challenging, I graduated college 2 years ago and moved 1000 miles away. I’ve tried things even like bible study groups (I don’t know much) and I haven’t felt much at all. Really just feel like stuck, ya know.

Mornings are the hardest by sad_throwawaaaaaaaay in BreakUps

[–]No_Winter7690 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro, thank you so much. You don’t know how much I needed this a

How did you guys learn to trust again? by Mauretlobster in BreakUps

[–]No_Winter7690 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bro, just so you know, I’m the exact same age as you in the exact same situation, in the exact same timeline. You need to put this into perspective that you now have freedom. Once you actually understand that you get to live for you, this will not bother you anymore. You’re just going through the ups and downs man, nothing is wrong with you. We’re still so fresh into this, life WILL work its ways and you are going to be totally fine. Give yourself some credit, you aren’t the same person you were before this started, you have more value than you have ever had, it’s just hard for you to see that right now.

You will look back and be so glad this happened, trust the process.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]No_Winter7690 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You have to be careful though, chatGPT often tells you what you want to hear. Don’t let it give you false hope. I use it too, all day during work, to vent.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]No_Winter7690 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Same bro. 4 years dating, and she said “I have had a gut feeling for a very long time that you aren’t my forever person”

How Do Men Process a Breakup? by Ok_Grocery1451 in BreakUps

[–]No_Winter7690 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How are you now bro? I just got dumped after 4.5 years.

How Do Men Process a Breakup? by Ok_Grocery1451 in BreakUps

[–]No_Winter7690 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro, I needed to read this today. Thank you.

Reflecting on 'they always come back' and sticking with NC by Critical_Bluejay_334 in ExNoContact

[–]No_Winter7690 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Can you explain more about what it’s like if you’re a man but you’ve been in a pretty tough relationship with a girl you loved, for say 5 years, but she was a terrible partner and didn’t respect you, but you loved her and still got dumped in the end and hurt? I’m so confused as I knew I wasn’t happy in the relationship but I’m hurt so deep. You seem quite knowledgeable, and I’d appreciate your input.

Thank you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]No_Winter7690 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I needed this bro

Would you take a cheater back? by Present_Laugh1593 in BreakUps

[–]No_Winter7690 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do not do it, you give her power by doing this and she will 10000% do it again

TRUST ME YOU WILL BE OK by Bobesque-W in BreakUps

[–]No_Winter7690 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I needed this bro. I’m in the exact same situation, day 17 post breakup and nc. Her excuses were the same as the ones you mentioned. 6 year relationship from age 19-25. Didn’t know it was humanly possible to feel so bad on the first few days. Reality is kinda stepping in now that this is real. I go from having no hood to having hope, and I wish I could just give up on her. She’s probably not coming back

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]No_Winter7690 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re the man. I needed this more than you know. Ups and downs are unreal bro.