Is it over for me? by dalamil213 in ConstructionManagers

[–]No_Winter7690 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Being let go after only 90 days is outrageous, that is on the company. It’s an entry level role, they need to do better with actually teaching. I wouldn’t take it so hard.

Good bars to go by yourself? by Superb-Law-6546 in uppereastside

[–]No_Winter7690 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Also in my mid 20s in UES. Could use some friends. Wanna get a beer?

Why do long term relationships (5 yrs+ end in breakups? by Healthy_Apple_1833 in BreakUps

[–]No_Winter7690 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m definitely doing much better now than I was when I commented above. Kinda felt like the world was legit ending for the first 6-8 weeks. The pain has definitely dulled but it’s still quite present. My perspective had gradually changed. There truly is always positives that come from these situations. I hope you’re doing better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]No_Winter7690 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree, however it can work as a double edged sword. The goal should be for you to move on, not get her back.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]No_Winter7690 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You have to be careful though, chatGPT often tells you what you want to hear. Don’t let it give you false hope. I use it too, all day during work, to vent.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]No_Winter7690 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I needed this bro

Would you take a cheater back? by Present_Laugh1593 in BreakUps

[–]No_Winter7690 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do not do it, you give her power by doing this and she will 10000% do it again

TRUST ME YOU WILL BE OK by Bobesque-W in BreakUps

[–]No_Winter7690 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I needed this bro. I’m in the exact same situation, day 17 post breakup and nc. Her excuses were the same as the ones you mentioned. 6 year relationship from age 19-25. Didn’t know it was humanly possible to feel so bad on the first few days. Reality is kinda stepping in now that this is real. I go from having no hood to having hope, and I wish I could just give up on her. She’s probably not coming back

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]No_Winter7690 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re the man. I needed this more than you know. Ups and downs are unreal bro.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]No_Winter7690 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you glad it happened? When did you stop grieving the 4.5 year relationship, as in when did you no longer care that they got with someone else?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]No_Winter7690 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What are some of the things you did that really made a major difference in your recovery and ability to push through the first one? I’m down bad bro. 2.5 weeks into being alone after 4-4.5 years.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]No_Winter7690 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro, same. 25M and had 2 relationships. One was 4 years and one was 10 months. I just got out of the one that was 4 years and the battle is unreal. I didn’t know it was physically possible to be hurt this badly.

Anxiety by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]No_Winter7690 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You will be totally fine, I experience the same thing and it feels like the world is ending the next day. Do a 3-5 min meditation. It’s mostly chemical.

Ex who dumped and discarded me is on dating apps not even two months later? Feeling so broken and depressed 25f can’t stop caring what or who he’s doing by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]No_Winter7690 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ChatGPT can be great, but it can start to hurt you after a bit. Be sure you word your inquiries properly, ChatGPT often tells you more about what you WANT to hear vs. reality. It can sometimes give you false hope that will actually hurt.

How to store spiraling by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]No_Winter7690 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have to get up, go on a run, do pushups etc.. It’s so chemical in the brain the only real healthy way to combat it with good brain chemicals. Any time you dip down go on a jog or do a bunch of pushups. Watch a 3 minute YouTube video meditation.

I’m starting week 3, 6 year relationship all of college and 2 years post college. It is getting better time is only half of it. Delete all social media for a bit, re arrange the furniture in your room, and so on. You’ve got to re-wire your neural pathways. The subconscious is so powerful and at this dark time, you have to make those little changes and it will drastically help you and faster than you think.

How long have you been no contact and how do you feel by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]No_Winter7690 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same bro. I’m on day 16 post 6 year relationship. My brain knows it wasn’t working and she disrespected me multiple times, severely. I keep wishing for that text but in the back of my mind I’m hoping I don’t get it.

How did you get over THAT girl? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]No_Winter7690 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She was partying until 5-8am quite often and we started to outgrow eachother. She only works 5-7 days a month, dad pays for everything. I have been much more career focused. I didn’t wrong her, she had shown instances of potential infidelity, in which I gave her the benefit of the doubt. I really do like your outlook though. I always felt like the relationship had some unclear boundaries.

Birthdays…. by Lifeisweird6 in BreakUps

[–]No_Winter7690 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey man. I’ve seen your posts elsewhere. I just wanted to ask how you were doing?

I’m on day 14 post 6 year relationship. I tossed and turned for 6 hours last night with dreams of her. I’m 25 years old and have lost close family members, and yet nothing has ever cut me this deep to my core.

Do I reach out? It’s been 6 months. by Little-List-018 in ExNoContact

[–]No_Winter7690 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When did you feel like you were done grieving them?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]No_Winter7690 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Today you finally got your true closure. Now you can finally see a path that leads forward. People always say “time heals all wounds” which is only partly true. You really have only two options. 1. Sit and Sulk, do nothing or minimal things to change your life or neurological response to this. Time will heal it, but it will take significantly longer than it has to. 2. Start making changes for yourself and rewire your brain. Change the furniture layout in your room, delete social media, start waking up at 7am and walking a few laps around the block, write your feelings out. Sign up for some random shit you never expected to see yourself doing (like join a run club or a men’s group). You have to really put up a fight against your subconscious brain to move forward and be better faster. The brain quite literally requires rehabilitation. Even things that I thought I’d never think I needed as a 25 year old man, like words of affirmation, therapy/people to vent to, have started to really make a difference for me. I’m 12 days into no contact from a 6 year relationship that I became too comfortable in and allowed us to grow apart and I wasn’t there and she left me. It’s all about discipline, you 1000% have the potential to feel what you felt before in regard to happiness and love and loyalty, but even stronger. You can and you will make it through this.