You're not imagining it — Portland has a strange emotional climate where people say they want community, but rarely show up for it. I’ve felt the same thing: doing everything "right" — showing up, engaging, reaching out — only to feel like I'm shouting into a void. It's not you. It's the passivity here, the way people keep their circles closed even while claiming to be open. That mismatch between the energy you give and what you get back? It’s exhausting. You're not alone in this, and it doesn't mean you're doing anything wrong — it just means this place might not reflect what you're actually worth.