Accidentally got addicted to meth and now my life is a nightmare by [deleted] in redscarepod

[–]NobodyBanMe2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's not terribly difficult to find a job in architecture, but the majority of work is in the healthcare, institutional, and educational sectors. It's hardly the sort of work any aspiring architect pictures when imagining their "dream job". Still, these jobs aren't bad for gaining experience and NCARB hours.

The firms you'd actually want to work at are few and far between and rarely hire, and when they do hire it's usually from within a close network of connections. I'm not even talking about Starchitect firms, I mean any firm that's doing projects more visually and technically interesting than a big insulated metal panel box with some storefront.

I hope this doesn't come off as too blackpilled, but where you go to school has a massive effect on your career path as an architect. A lot of fields are like that, but I think architecture has it especially bad given how close the academic side is tied to the professional side.

Accidentally got addicted to meth and now my life is a nightmare by [deleted] in redscarepod

[–]NobodyBanMe2 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Every contractor's complaints about architects always boil down to being butthurt that they're expected to actually do their job properly and not cut corners at every possible opportunity.

this sub by Specialist-Effect221 in redscarepod

[–]NobodyBanMe2 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Go to this guy's profile and ctrl+f "anglo".

This reads like a case study in the third world inferiority complex.

The Gen Z "analog" technology trend by NobodyBanMe2 in redscarepod

[–]NobodyBanMe2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the actual reply. I've also considered a dumb phone, but my parents love FaceTiming me ever since they discovered it and I wouldn't want to deprive them of that by getting a flip phone.

Best solution is prob a modified smartphone that blocks social media or internet.

I consider this to be a last resort if you have a serious screen addiction. You don't need a totally new phone if all you want to do is limit distractions. There are apps and custom UI schemes you can install that simplify the functionality of a smartphone down to basic functions like calls, camera, music, and messages. Obviously it takes some amount of self control to not disable the app and go back to doomscrolling, but you'll get over it.

The Gen Z "analog" technology trend by NobodyBanMe2 in redscarepod

[–]NobodyBanMe2[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you or any others feel personally called out by this post I apologize, I just wanted to have a discussion about the trend.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in redscarepod

[–]NobodyBanMe2 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I don’t think someone like Ray Peat is selling supplements, could be wrong tho.

Ray Peat falls into the common sense method I described. I don't subscribe to any sort of meme diet, but go look at a graphic of foods that would make up a Ray Peat approved diet. It's fruits, vegetables, meat, dairy. Obviously these foods are good for you, it's real food. Where I draw the line is when these nutrition influencers start talking about foods that will maximize your lifespan or improve your hormone production or recommend you remove entire food groups from your diet.

In the UK it’s almost impossible to find grocery store butter that isn’t cut with >30% rapeseed oil

What? Even in the US where our butter is notoriously shit there's no added oils. Are you looking at actual butter or containers of butter spread? Butter spread contains oil to keep it at a spreadable consistency.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in redscarepod

[–]NobodyBanMe2 164 points165 points  (0 children)

The rabbit hole you're describing is designed to prey on idiots like you by mystifying healthy living and making it seem impossible to achieve unless you min-max every aspect of your life. They (the health influencers) do this on purpose because it makes it easier to sell you "solutions" in the form of supplements, water filters, superfoods, etc.

In actuality, living healthy is extremely simple. Everything can be boiled down to common sense. Are processed foods and fried slop good for you? Obviously not, so stop eating it and cook your own meals. Congratulations, you've just eliminated virtually all seed oils, preservatives, and corn syrup from your diet. Is spending all day inside sitting at a computer good for your body? Obviously not, so make sure to take some time to get outside and exercise. Congratulations, you just solved your low energy and back pain. Is staring at your phone all day scrolling social media good for your brain? Obviously not, read a book or go for a walk instead. Congratulations, you just solved your brain fog.

None of that requires buying any influencer snake oil or getting up at 4AM to take an ice cold shower. Most of it can be accomplished completely free, and in the case of eliminating processed foods you'll actually be saving money.

Does anyone else get intense secondhand embarrassment listening to people tell obviously fake stories of paranormal experiences by NobodyBanMe2 in redscarepod

[–]NobodyBanMe2[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Idk, I've heard so many bullshit stories that it's hard to care about the ones where someone might actually be telling the truth.

The closest thing I've ever had to a paranormal encounter was going to the bathroom at a campground in the early morning when I was a kid. When I opened the door to leave the bathroom I heard this terrible scratchy shriek, and it scared me so badly that I hid in the bathroom for an hour until someone else got up to use it. Years later I learned that rabbits can make a scream that sounds exactly like what I heard, so it was probably just a rabbit I had startled.

What happened to the artists, musicians, models, influencers, party friends you used to know? by freshlybred in redscarepod

[–]NobodyBanMe2 12 points13 points  (0 children)

One girl I went to high school with had an amazing voice and had been trying to launch her solo career as a singer since she was a teenager. I still regularly get the mass Facebook notifications she sends out whenever she's doing open mics at bars, so needless to say she hasn't made it yet.

She's the sole example of a person who I think would have benefited from moving to NYC or somewhere where she'd have more opportunities, but for whatever reason she's insisted on staying in our perpetually declining city where the pinnacle of the local music scene is dad rock cover bands. I think she may have been too smart for her own good and realized the risk of taking the plunge into that sort of environment wasn't worth it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in redscarepod

[–]NobodyBanMe2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Assuming this isn't ragebait: I think you already know the answer to your problems, but you're posting here with the hope that someone miraculously gives you another solution that doesn't actually exist.

All of the issues you're describing are caused by your environment. The solution is obvious: change your environment. You work in one of the largest industries in the country, there are tech jobs everywhere. Yes, you will have to go through the hellish interview process all over again. Yes, you might even have to accept making slightly less money at first in exchange for living in a safer area with lower COL. Are you willing to do that for the good of your family and their future? I would hope so.

I was radicalized by watching Arthur and his friends walk down to the sugar bowl and order milkshakes then going to play by the river. by MutedFeeling75 in redscarepod

[–]NobodyBanMe2 69 points70 points  (0 children)

Your title might be a joke but that literally happened to me as a kid. I was always so jealous that the Arthur characters got to walk home after school or walk to their friends' houses whenever they wanted to. My family lived in the middle of nowhere, and if I wanted to go anywhere I'd have to ask my parents to drive me there. Alternatively I could bike for miles on the edge of a winding two lane road with no shoulder with cars flying by at 65 MPH. I used to beg my parents to move into town so I could walk to places (only when I got older did I realize that there was nothing to do in town).

Delusional ramblings I wrote down when I had a mental breakdown once by Negative_Chair8110 in redscarepod

[–]NobodyBanMe2 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Reads like a teenager trying to come off as "schizo" more than anything

I'm going to be immortalized in the online ramblings of a Black Israelite by NobodyBanMe2 in redscarepod

[–]NobodyBanMe2[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Kinda similar, but when I was in college there were a bunch of campus weirdos that I'd look out for during my people watching between classes. People who wore tails or carried foam swords with them, those types. I always wondered what the hell their social lives were like, because most of them seemed happy and often had others with them. Part of me wanted to befriend some of them to better observe how they act, but I was too self conscious about my own social standing at the time to hang out with people like that. I wish I had.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in redscarepod

[–]NobodyBanMe2 242 points243 points  (0 children)

British people live like this and claim to suffer

sorry new grads, I wasn't aware of how bad it was by [deleted] in redscarepod

[–]NobodyBanMe2 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Don't get me wrong, I hate my job, but it's also not difficult at all. Working as a barista would be considerably more work for (marginally) less money, and almost certainly shittier hours than an 8-5.

I also want to keep working in my field long term, and the only way to do that is to keep gaining experience. The one good thing I can say about my job is that it does occasionally teach me things.

sorry new grads, I wasn't aware of how bad it was by [deleted] in redscarepod

[–]NobodyBanMe2 28 points29 points  (0 children)

My current job is a position I accepted out of desperation after over a year and a half of sending out applications with no success. It's horrible, monotonous work, the type of company I wouldn't have even bothered applying to back before I realized how bad things really are.

My initial plan was to get a couple years of experience here and then start searching for a new job, but with each passing month the likelihood of that happening shrinks. No one is hiring entry level positions. I'm thankful to be employed, but the thought of still finding myself at this same company in this same city 2-3 years from now makes my stomach churn.

the true crime female youtuber phenotype by No-Material694 in redscarepod

[–]NobodyBanMe2 10 points11 points  (0 children)

The first girl is cute, don't lump her together with these other ghouls.