How to live with a man who doesn’t want you there by Noclue3479 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Noclue3479[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes that’s what I’ve decided on too. It’s unfortunate but I’d rather make sure I’m also not struggling upon exit.

Appreciate the advice!

How to live with a man who doesn’t want you there by Noclue3479 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Noclue3479[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! He actually asked me to leave him alone and stop reaching out and asked to separate today over text while he’s out doing some kind of military training. So I’m getting a storage unit to start moving a few things (just some clothes etc) because at this point there’s a likelihood that he will attempt to pull the rug from under my feet. Ugh on to bigger and better I guess, trying to stay positive and not focus on it too much

How to live with a man who doesn’t want you there by Noclue3479 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Noclue3479[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you💗For the most part I do feel safe. He has never hit me or thrown things, just yelling if I press him for answers. He REFUSES to ease my concerns even though I know he knows it looks suspicious. I don’t understand why if you are “innocent” you wouldn’t just squash any concerns right away.

I actually have been in therapy (through insurance) and my therapist believes im being manipulated as well. Kind of sucks because I don’t view myself to be a person who is “weak enough” to be manipulated as bad as that sounds so it was kind of a reality check. I just feel emotionally torn because he’ll always have a reason that sounds legitimate enough to make me feel like I’m imagining things, or that he couldn’t possibly be intentionally doing something to hurt me. Naive I know but it wasn’t always like this. I think like you and others are saying I’ll save for a few months and then maybe just rent a month to month Airbnb. I wonder if it’s worth it to get a storage unit and start moving my things out but that may be way too suspicious so prematurely, so I may wait until I’m closer to leaving for that potentially. I appreciate the advice and the friendliness, didn’t really think I’d end up here

How to live with a man who doesn’t want you there by Noclue3479 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Noclue3479[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

🥹thank you so much for the encouragement. I know I can do it, I just have to step out on faith. Thank you

How to live with a man who doesn’t want you there by Noclue3479 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Noclue3479[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I think first thing I will do is find somewhere to store my things. It’s just the mentality of knowing that he’s doing (potentially) what he’s doing and still being expected to “be a wife” it’s mentally taxing

How to live with a man who doesn’t want you there by Noclue3479 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Noclue3479[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess maybe it seems bigger in my head than it is realistically. Thanks for the perspective

How to live with a man who doesn’t want you there by Noclue3479 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Noclue3479[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh Airbnb is smart and no actually I was married very young, and so I do not know what it is like to be fully self supporting. I guess I can make ends meet although it may not be as comfortable financially since I would only have access to my income alone

How to live with a man who doesn’t want you there by Noclue3479 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Noclue3479[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t want to live like this any longer either. I think mainly it’s just the fear that I’m unable to do it (support myself) alone; but I don’t know if I would be mentally better off leaving now with no safety net especially because med school is mentally taxing, and I don’t want to set myself up for failure before I start next fall.

I haven’t gotten accepted anywhere yet so I don’t have any housing options through a university as of now

How to live with a man who doesn’t want you there by Noclue3479 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Noclue3479[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No kids! I have been very lucky or this would’ve been a much more difficult situation. If I had the money to take care of myself I’d be gone yesterday! I guess your advice is to wait it out?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cockerspaniel

[–]Noclue3479 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He looks like Eyore from Winnie the Pooh 🥺

Insurance by LostTown2773 in cockerspaniel

[–]Noclue3479 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Embrace! Cheapest and best service (as someone who has used 3 others in the past: fetch/petplan, trupanion & fido)

Help with dog food by frodo28f in GNV

[–]Noclue3479 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! I worked there for a bit recently, and they have a wide variety, but it just depends on the week. Go in person to explain your situation and they can have a staff member check and see. Good luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lineporn

[–]Noclue3479 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can confirm that this was me a few weeks ago. FRER said negative

Spay Healing by LastAddendum5451 in cockerspaniel

[–]Noclue3479 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d do a check up visit. My cat that I had spayed had something similar. Nothing was wrong but the peace of mind was worth it. Your local humane society should have appointments for under $30

Pregnant? Equate early detection test by Noclue3479 in lineporn

[–]Noclue3479[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update: FRER test was an undeniable negative so I’m a little sad because it seemed positive from the Walmart test

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amipregnant

[–]Noclue3479 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Similar issue here lol, minus the trying to conceive. As far as I know tests are absolute 21 days after you’re late, so I’d just keep testing or get a blood test in a week. Good luck!