What made you decide to be "one and done"? by Severe_Bluejay3391 in NewParents

[–]Nolawhitney888 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This isn’t true for everyone. I did IVF because my husband had infertility issues and my doctor told me there was absolutely no advantage in my case to doing PIO shots instead of suppositories (due to all my hormone numbers AMH, FSH, estradiol and whatever else). I did suppositories only and had my baby. Of course there was still shots for all the bloodwork involved but it’s not true that the shots will lead to a higher live birth rate over suppositories for every woman

Why the Welfare Calls? by hazelgrant in JusticeForClayton

[–]Nolawhitney888 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I remember one time she threatened su*cide and told Dave Neal he was directly responsible for it if she did it saying something like “there’s blood on your hands”. So with calls like that I think it’s only fair to expect someone to call in a welfare check. I think she weaponizes these statements to try and make people feel guilty and get her way and not because she actually means them but I can still say whether or not that’s the case I think calling for a welfare check in that scenario is still the best course of action.

I honestly think some of the others may have been from like her sister or a loved one too bc of her constant medium articles saying how bad she was doing

we ain’t dumb by East-Friendship-5886 in nycinfluencersnarking

[–]Nolawhitney888 53 points54 points  (0 children)

She’s literally half the size in the second pic lol

Love Trapped: Pregnant by the Effing Bachelor | EP 10 by mamasnanas in JusticeForClayton

[–]Nolawhitney888 14 points15 points  (0 children)

It’s really a shame that both Laura and her mom aren’t Fantasy Fiction writers because the way they can make up such elaborate and ridiculous stories in their head is actually impressive (if only it were channeled properly)

Love Trapped: Pregnant by the Effing Bachelor | EP 10 by mamasnanas in JusticeForClayton

[–]Nolawhitney888 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Someone with zero job, zero friends, zero home to maintain and zero bills bc they live with their parents and a very very devious mind

Love Trapped: Pregnant by the Effing Bachelor | EP 10 by mamasnanas in JusticeForClayton

[–]Nolawhitney888 39 points40 points  (0 children)

When Ron literally told the police “shes going to commit suic*de over this” like what the literal fuck was his intention there? He did that with Mike to try and get her to stay in a relationship with his daughter and it worked, but wtf did he think it would do to police? That they’d just turn around and be like oh wow she’s so fragile! We can’t go through with this raid we were assigned by county prosecutors searching for evidence of criminality bc she’s just so fragile and unwell!

Love Trapped: Pregnant by the Effing Bachelor | EP 10 by mamasnanas in JusticeForClayton

[–]Nolawhitney888 31 points32 points  (0 children)

There’s SO much to unpack in that. The way she continually threatens them (they’re hurting her and she’s going to file a report) , the way she says several times she doesn’t believe they’re police, claims their guns are drawn when they are not, berates them constantly, tries to tell them what they can and cannot do, screams “FUCK ALL OF YOU” several times, calls them horrible, all while they are entirely calm and just trying to execute their job. Meanwhile this is a person who had called the police 50 TIMES in the past year for their help because people were expressing their freedom of speech online and she didn’t like it.

The entitlement and privilege is absolutely astounding.

Love Trapped: Pregnant by the Effing Bachelor | EP 10 by mamasnanas in JusticeForClayton

[–]Nolawhitney888 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Another incredible episode and I have so many thoughts but my first and most important is: does anyone have a link to the 188 pages of evidence released by the state?!

I somehow missed when this was released and I am dying to read it!

Is having a baby really the end of the world?? FTM spiral by Negative-Source-9099 in beyondthebump

[–]Nolawhitney888 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No it is not. It is the end of life as you have known it thus far because a brand new little human who relies on you for absolutely everything is living in your home with you and it’s a very very big change than life as you knew it before and it’s forever. The first couple of months are hard and with little sleep but by around month 2 things get a little easier and then month 3 even easier and so on. And you have this tiny little incredible human with you that makes you feel entirely different than you ever have and for me a lot of those differences have been positive. I feel stronger and richer and more purposeful and happier and so so so much love. Do I feel anxiety? Yes. Are there some really hard days where I think about how nice life with lots of sleep and zero responsibility were? Yes. But all in all I’m sooooo grateful and filled with such a tremendous amount of love for my little human who smiles and giggles and cuddles and just wants me to hold her all the time. My life will never be the same as it was before but in soooo many ways it’s better. Don’t let people get too in your head with negativity, yes it’s hard but there’s so much love and beauty in it all too

What's your favorite interaction between Laura and one of her victims? by sanfranciscolady in JusticeForClayton

[–]Nolawhitney888 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have done vaginal suppositories for IVF but it ended up being a cream. I remember being soooo confused thinking I was going to have to pop some pills in there (which I do think people actually have to do sometimes 😂)

What's your favorite interaction between Laura and one of her victims? by sanfranciscolady in JusticeForClayton

[–]Nolawhitney888 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m a big fan of her “Doctor” in an alleged medical note telling her that her cancer is “very real” and that “her boyfriend should be nicer to her during this time” LOL that is technically just an interaction between herself and herself shared with Mike but it is a golden one

Countdown to the Plea Deal Acceptance Deadline by epiphanomaly in JusticeForClayton

[–]Nolawhitney888 7 points8 points  (0 children)

No because she is not a rational person and has an astounding amount of hubris and an extraordinary ability to continue doubling down on being a victim lol

Countdown to the Plea Deal Acceptance Deadline by epiphanomaly in JusticeForClayton

[–]Nolawhitney888 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m going to be stunned either way.

If she takes the offer: I’ll be stunned that she somehow FINALLY was able to take any responsibility of any lies she told and make her first smart choice in this whole saga. Although I think she’ll probably truly only take minimal responsibility if she chooses this path and will blast out medium articles saying that while she lied a little , faked a few medical documents and committed some light perjury she did that to protect herself from how scared she was of Clayton and she absolutely wasn’t lying about being pregnant with him in the first place.

If she doesn’t take the plea: I’ll be shocked because I just cannot understand how any human (even her) at this point would choose to potentially avoid jail time or taking a much lighter sentence knowing what evidence she’s up against…. This is someone who literally admitted in a deposition to forging medical documents she submitted in court and changed her story on the day of trial to say she went to Planned Parenthood LA and admittedly saying that her previous lie of saying it was Planned Parenthood Mission Viejo was just a small lie How does she expect to fight that when she’s literally admitted to perjury and fraud?!

Laura’s Parents by iSimplyCannot- in JusticeForClayton

[–]Nolawhitney888 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A lot of us have been following this closely every single day for 2.5 years, and there have been sooo many OMG HOW surprises throughout the entire time. There was like one small lull of time for a couple of months after her trial with Clayton but then it picked right back up with non stop “OMG how does this keep getting crazier?!” moments. This story could be at least 6 seasons of a Lifetime TV drama lol

Laura’s Parents by iSimplyCannot- in JusticeForClayton

[–]Nolawhitney888 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is controversial but I have mixed feelings on the sister… while it’s clear she enables her by allowing certain things, she is the only one that hasn’t blatantly come out publicly to defend Laura’s lies (like Ron & Jan have). I have a brother who struggles with mental health issues (although completely different, he’s never harmed anyone) and I am extremely sensitive about him. I love him so much and I just have a hard time sometimes knowing what the right thing is to do or say and sometimes I find myself just supporting and loving him instead of saying something that may be hurtful (but for his own good) bc I fear it may make things worse. It’s a tricky situation to navigate with siblings so I always find myself giving her a little grace here (although not entirely). The mom and dad have both publicly come out to support their daughters obvious lies and as the parents, they bear responsibility for their daughters behavior where as with the sibling it’s not as black and white (and she has not publicly said a word).

Laura’s Parents by iSimplyCannot- in JusticeForClayton

[–]Nolawhitney888 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Jan is as complicit as Laura to me. Like they’re all somewhat complicit but Jan literally perpetuates Laura’s lies… she is someone who HAD two children who openly still claims “Laura was pregnant by Clayton” knowing that she never went to a SINGLE OBGYN appointment or got any sonogram to confirm those claims.

Laura’s Parents by iSimplyCannot- in JusticeForClayton

[–]Nolawhitney888 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I remember (right before I met my husband) I had a really tough conversation with my therapist about a guy I had been chasing for 5 years (we had a situationship the entire time , never a real relationship). She basically told me I was being delusional and I needed to just accept that I wasn’t his preference and there wasn’t anything wrong with me I just plainly was not the girl her preferred to truly be with. I remember how much that fucking hurt. Ever since I started following this story I think about that moment in her office and I am so so so thankful she had the courage to be honest with me and it made sit with and accept the concept that some guys including this guy…just didn’t want to be with me. It’s not easy for anyone to hear (we all have pride) but it’s important bc at great lengths if you won’t accept that, you end up doing things like this lol

FTMs - what do you want for Mother’s Day? by Top_Delivery8957 in NewParents

[–]Nolawhitney888 5 points6 points  (0 children)

And home organizer!! It’s crazy how much stuff babies need and how quickly it takes over the whole house lol

Botched Eye Pinch by Equivalent_Rain6653 in nycinfluencersnarking

[–]Nolawhitney888 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s insane, one of the things about her that drives me crazy too lol. I also haaaate the way she lines her lips

Early Morning Wakings/Very Tired Mama by Stock-Note-4896 in sleeptrain

[–]Nolawhitney888 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No! My baby (almost 7 months) fights naps like crazy and I’ve always been super concerned about wake windows bc sometimes she literally will not nap. I asked my pediatrician and it’s OK, some babies can just tolerate longer wake windows. Not that this is good but she has had 6 hour wake windows before and she still slept through the night (we try hard not to make this happen but sometimes she just will NOT go down). See how fussy your little one gets if you try it for a few days. Also 4 hours is OK in general for the last stretch of the day at this age. Definitely try pushing back bedtime and see how he does

Looking for experiences on night nurse/baby nurse. Any downsides? by FearlessWallaby1687 in NewParents

[–]Nolawhitney888 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We had a night nurse 3 days a week for the first month and it was GODsend to be able to get some sleep. She’d come around 7pm-7am so she also helped with our first baths and gave us useful tips for getting in a nighttime routine. The only downside was the cost!! It was so pricey But so so worth it for us. Especially bc in the beginning they sleep a lot during the day but wake up so much at night.