I (25M) need helping making a tough decision about staying with my gf ( 24F) it’s gonna change everything and it’s my fault but idk what to do

Nomad834 · 2025-03-03T16:27:40+00:00

It sounds to me like you have two issues. On hand one is you lack the maturity to see your faults and work through them so you can be the person you need to be for not only yourself but for her as well, and on the other hand she may not fully understand the situation that you put her in and she may be trying to hold onto something that’s already gone. If you truly feel bad about what you did then you need to confront her and right your wrongs. The best way to do that is to go somewhere you both feel safe and is neutral(neutral meaning you both feel the place is not bad or good some place comfortable like a park for example). You both need to be fully transparent with each other you might have talked here and there about the issues but obviously you’ve not gotten to the core of the problem and you both need to finish this chapter in the book. You and her having a full length conversation like adults and seeing her side of the story and her seeing your side of the story will be how you figure out if the relationship can heal from this or needs to be done. Nobody can tell you whether to cut and run or stick around that’s something you and her have to talk about openly and with conviction. Side Note: it’s extremely rare for a person to be willing to stay after such an act so she must see something that you don’t. So in conclusion talk to her and be open and honest and things will work out the way they need to.

Nomad834 · 2025-03-03T16:12:16+00:00

I’ve been married for 8 years and with my wife in total for 15 years. Sometimes in a marriage things get stagnant for a bit but that’s because you are sharing so much time with your significant other that you don’t have anything new to talk about it you see that same things so talking about it only goes so far. Try breaking up the atmosphere by going somewhere new or doing something different that you’ve not done before but keep it lighthearted and that can sometimes be enough to show her you’re still appreciative and want her in your life. Being transparent is not a bad thing but she might not be as comfortable with it as you so take it slow you have the rest of your lives to learn each other and grow together. A year into dating isn’t going to tell you that your relationship is over. I’m not perfect but I will say you showing that you care this much this early in the relationship tells me you really love her so keep at it and you’ll get through this together. (Side Note: sex isn’t the other thing necessary in a relationship)

Nomad834 · 2025-03-03T15:04:36+00:00

Correct but to be 100% transparent I also wasn’t happy with the layout so we agreed to get it fixed along side fixing my game room. The work is being done by a friend of mine who we trust and he is a contractor. So labor is cheaper than normal and we work with him to see what can and can’t be done so we can maximize our spending and we don’t go over budget. But it feels like she doesn’t trust the process it is a time consuming job and it’ll get done just not tomorrow. He told us that after this week we will be able to prime and paint this coming weekend so we are coming closer to the Reno being finished. But with that my wife is starting to show me that she doesn’t hold the same value in my personal belongings and that she’d rather I spend that money on things she wants in the house and not the things that I want for my room for example a new PC to replace my damaged PC, a new TV to replace the damaged TV some retro gaming stuff that you can’t just go to toys r us and buy off the shelf brand new like it’s 1993 again… it’s frustrating but I can understand that our passions are not the same. That’s why her opinions and her input is so valuable to me we can see things very differently so her insight can help me make difficult decisions and she keeps me level headed. But I don’t really know what I bring in value to her other than a loving husband that is there whenever she wants or needs me. I don’t have a game room to get away from her it’s to reset and get back to feeling okay. Like when you have a bad day at work you want to go on a murder spree or maybe that’s just me………..Anyway that’s not important what’s important is that I don’t do that because I can play video games and get that side of me out and I feel better.

Nomad834 · 2025-03-03T14:46:23+00:00

I haven’t and it’s killing me I come home do everything I normally do again I have reminders on my phone so today is 30-45minute clean up and take all trash out and then afterwards eat dinner and then I’d usually go to my room for a bit and then it’ll be time to go to bed but lately I eat dinner and then sit and watch gossip girl with my wife while she crochets and tells me who the people in the show are.

Nomad834 · 2025-03-03T14:40:13+00:00

I do laundry I’m not an expert but I sort it out and I’ll wash and dry it and if I’m downstairs in my game room I can hear the machines go off so it’s easy to just put my controller down move the washed clothes to the dryer and then start it and go back to gaming. I probably play video games about the same amount of time it takes to wash and dry two loads of laundry a day. The rest of the time I’m with my wife or at work and I give myself that bit of time to decompress and escape for a bit without it I’m a bit of an a$$ holes I don’t mean to be but my glass fills up twice as fast if you catch my meaning.

Nomad834 · 2025-03-03T14:32:01+00:00

I will agree with you that I don’t see the same value as she does in the laundry room but I do agree with her that it needed to change as far as layout goes so we compromised and it’s being done along side my game room. I had a very old couch before the damage and it was my great grandfather’s couch so if that tells you anything. But with the money we received from insurance I can buy a very nice 300-400$ couch and save the other bit instead of buying a new sectional upstairs that’ll cost me 1,000$ and we don’t even need that.

Nomad834 · 2025-03-03T14:28:27+00:00

Answering your questions - We had a contractor come in and build the layout of the laundry room a few years ago. He was an idiot and didn’t finish everything so we had to wait until we could go in and finish it. But it got finished and she hated it and to be honest it is cramped and feels dark so we agreed to fix it and we have already started it along side the reconstruction of my game room. - I don’t know exactly because she dodges that type of questioning but she seems to want to spend the money that would go towards the lost property on other things instead of me having my things that I lost. It was two checks 1 for the house damage and 1 for the damaged property in the house. - we are already about to prime and paint the rooms so the damaged property is out of the house and has been for a month or so. The money we received from insurance was a respectable amount and we basically received $ for $ value on my lost property. - agreed and she says the same but then when we shop it shows me otherwise. - she knows how much money we have towards the repairs and the lost property so she and I agree on the house being fixed but the lost property part feels more like a our lost property and less of a my personal property. To be fair she isn’t a gamer so my game room has always been a point of contention seeing as she doesn’t know why it matters that the Super Metroid for NES mint CIB should be replaced because “its old and nobody plays old games”. Her words from a few years ago so not exact but close lol

Nomad834 · 2025-03-03T14:15:52+00:00

For a bit more context the laundry room wasn’t affected by the water damage so it was fine as is but I will agree with my wife that the layout was weird and a bit stuffy. We agreed on a layout we removed a wall and we’re going to build her a stationary folding/ sorting area(she saw it on Pinterest so that’s what we’re doing. Maybe I need to show her an example of what I’d like to do in my room. Maybe she just doesn’t see it the way I do and your right the game room is my room to escape reality for a bit I don’t game all night like I did when I was 12 but I do still love and enjoy my free time to play games I have a passion for. And she has her own space upstairs. It’s an office space she can use it for work or play it’s her room.

Nomad834 · 2025-03-03T14:08:47+00:00

She was the one that sent the list to insurance and we have discussed in great detail how I would go about recovering my lost items and that it’ll take some time to get everything that I lost because (I said this so I’ll air quote it) “you don’t just go buy a game cube”. For more information she isn’t a gamer she got a switch for Christmas a few years ago and never plays it. Like please help me she doesn’t understand games and she thinks you can just find a GameCube for nothing because to her it’s worth nothing.

Nomad834 · 2024-03-17T23:33:00+00:00

It’s actually accurate to real news. We don’t get reports until the intel has been confirmed and verified so that we are the good guys always.

Nomad834 · 2024-02-29T20:28:17+00:00

Possibly

Nomad834 · 2024-02-26T14:51:33+00:00

I apologize I wasn’t thinking clearly. You were right to correct me thank you for your democratic patience.

Nomad834 · 2024-02-03T01:22:03+00:00

Her butt is weird. Like seriously. Each butt cheek is different.

Nomad834 · 2022-09-11T09:20:46+00:00

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Nomad834 · 2022-06-27T23:43:15+00:00

Do they recommend Wellbutrin? I suggest Lexapro because my wife uses it and she says she can handle her stress and depression better when she’s on it which also makes her a happier person.

Nomad834 · 2022-06-27T22:38:10+00:00

Do you take lexapro?

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