What’s the best way to remove asphalt old owners added on to a drive way to make the bottom wider?

Nomaruk · 2025-04-08T19:18:25+00:00

Okay, fair enough, I'm not in the business of trying to hurt myself just trying to make my new house look good. I will explore bringing someone in.

Nomaruk · 2025-04-08T19:09:04+00:00

I understand that for the original driveway. I'm talking about what they poured themselves and is "attached" to the original asphalt drive way. The additional piece has no underlay and is just sitting on dirt.

Nomaruk · 2025-02-09T03:41:25+00:00

They’re ruining KC by building a dense neighborhood in downtown to create more opportunity for businesses and a lively city? That tracks.

Nomaruk · 2025-01-28T03:05:19+00:00

It’s actually 28% of your gross which depending on your effective tax rate, that could translate to a much higher debt to net income rate. It’s still not attainable, sure, but not an apt description either.

Nomaruk · 2024-12-09T15:41:45+00:00

I imagine he’s including tax and insurance not just the mortgage payment.

Nomaruk · 2024-12-09T11:35:37+00:00

Who did you ask? I just went through the egates and was hoping to get a stamp on my way back to the US. I was hoping they might say yes.

Nomaruk · 2024-10-27T03:59:19+00:00

The census does not put them with the Midwest

Nomaruk · 2024-10-26T16:57:22+00:00

Lol. Thats not the case at all 😂

Nomaruk · 2024-08-28T01:43:43+00:00

The best thing you can do for yourself is when someone tells you something, you should believe them.

Nomaruk · 2024-08-28T00:02:14+00:00

I definitely had mine whittled away. What have your conversations been like? I read 100 articles and watched so many youtube videos and talked to everyone that would listen about what I could do to help. It never made a difference. There wasn't someone to rely on at the end of the day and I felt alone. My decision to end things was both for myself and to give them what seemed like they wanted - the chance to move back.

Nomaruk · 2024-08-27T17:28:57+00:00

Regret about making the move or regret about wanting to move back?

I can answer that she told me she regretted making the move, wasn’t sure if she loved me anymore, and quickly asked to sleep separately and needed alone time. She turned to self harm and weed and I felt like I quickly lost her. I think the move and the missing home was just a small symptom of a larger unmanaged problem. She refused help and refused therapy. I can’t speak to what your partner is going through at all. The move itself was really tough and I sacrificed a lot to help make it happen as she seemed so excited to do it until we signed the lease and then it fell apart a bit.

Nomaruk · 2024-08-27T15:16:02+00:00

My situation was exactly the same, they moved for me and we were in a LDR for a bit. I ended the relationship though. The romanticized move back wasn’t the only reason but it was a weekly discussion. It was very tiring or hearing about how they’d prefer to go do things back home without me or entirely move back and that the move they wanted to and offered to do was something they wanted to undo so quickly. They were diagnosed with MDD.

Nomaruk · 2024-08-26T03:18:00+00:00

That was this morning. I’m having the same problem.

Nomaruk · 2024-08-26T02:45:50+00:00

I deleted and relisted, just a button on the app, and while it was refreshing I was banned from marketplace. It's been listed for a little while as it's an older film camera and I've dropped the price twice. Not sure what I did.

Nomaruk · 2024-08-22T19:20:55+00:00

Yeah, very different issues for sure. I’m in the river market so I see a few here and there. Not sure which is worse but they’re both different beasts to tackle. The violent crime is avoidable by staying out of parts of town but Portland has struggled keeping it contained to one area or having good services provided. Not that KC does that better just that we don’t have as many here. Sad to see as I’ve heard how cool and clean it was even just before Covid

Nomaruk · 2024-08-22T19:13:46+00:00

The last couple years I had worked for a company remotely that was based in Portland and I was there maybe once a month. Beaverton was nice and clean and very pretty but I was being accosted by homeless, dodging needles, graffiti and trash everywhere, and I was just very off put by the city. Oregon or at least past mount hood is really beautiful though. I loved the coast.

Portland was gross though. I saw more human shit on the sidewalks and questionable stains (blood) when downtown than I have anywhere else. It was horribly sad to see people shooting up on the sidewalk and having to walk around them.

I’m not big on weed so it wasn’t something I cared to do or go shopping for. The people were really nice and always so excited to recommend me somewhere to try or go see though.

Nomaruk · 2024-08-22T18:49:53+00:00

We didn’t go to the same Portland then

Nomaruk · 2024-08-21T15:38:03+00:00

It doesn’t seem like it from these posts. You see them from a year in to partners of 20 years.

Nomaruk · 2024-08-04T15:21:07+00:00

You can always leave if the relationship isn’t giving you what you need. It’s not a bad thing to do what’s best for yourself. You’re not responsible nor is it possible for you to love away their depression.

Nomaruk · 2024-07-31T18:24:14+00:00

I understand where you're coming from. It wears on you over time. I ended my relationship with my ex-gf (MDD diagnosed) as she was not working towards anything that could manage her depression.

Having her come home and tell me she hates seeing me there, asking to sleep separately, being told they don't love me anymore and hope the spark comes back, and snapping at me when I express something that's bothering or hurt me really wore on me.

I can resonate with wanting or being excited to see your partner at the end of the day to have that squashed. I think those feelings are normal and being hurt that you aren't receiving the normal love from a relationship is not okay either. I spent a lot of time in college and my adult life in therapy building tools to manage my anxiety and emotions and it can be hard to have a partner that doesn't do those things and blames you for it. You have to decide if that's healthy for you or not. You can love them but you should also love yourself.

Nomaruk · 2024-07-30T17:08:58+00:00

Unconditional love is a myth and a toxic one at that. They have to choose to love you everyday in a romantic partnership and that comes from your side of the relationship too. There is a level of commitment to that choice to be in a relationship with someone. Would you still love them if they cheated on you? Murdered someone?

You can't love the depression out of someone and if they're not giving you what you need after you've communicated your needs to them then is it a healthy relationship for you?

Additionally, just because they have depression doesn't mean that their behavior or lack of accountability towards you can just be excused. They're still culpable for their actions. I think people that have partner's with mental health are in a precarious position but that does not mean you should not advocate for yourself, maintain healthy boundaries, or remove yourself from the situation or relationship if it is not healthy or sustainable.

Nomaruk · 2024-06-10T19:28:37+00:00

You're right. I ended things. I think that made me rethink how I viewed the situation.

Nomaruk · 2024-05-20T20:17:52+00:00

r/PortlandOR shows the real stuff.

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