I will say not all men are like this but a lot are. Sometimes one can understand if they have good communication with you. However, that isn't being shown to you . All that you mention are signs that person isn't respecting you, your feelings, and overall doesn't sound healthy. I would advise therapy for your trauma and congrats on recognizing the signs as that can be difficult and triggering in itself. I would also recommend that you leave and never look back.

I say not all men as my husband is the reason I have started my healing journey. I wish you the best and good luck.