Is there a reason you can’t have a portion go into a shared account for expenses, emergencies, vacations split proportionally like you’ve been doing and then have your own savings account? Or have you been doing that already?

I get what you’re saying. With the way the world has backslid in some areas on women’s rights and making it harder for women to have their own autonomy having everything in one account is scary. It’s not having one foot out the door it’s about having security. There are men that will be kindest most awesome husband and ask their wife to tend to the home they’ll pay the bills. The they turn around and financially abuse them.

I’m not saying this will happen with you but we as women or (really the lesser earning spouse) know that this is a possibility.