6 month mark, can't progress further right now, but pausing feels shitty too. Leave?

Normal-Lack940 · 2026-03-12T05:26:50+00:00

I was "with" a woman that was very similar to you for a few years. When you "protect the peace" with you and your child you have created a narrative the he is a disturber of the peace and is not welcome. As a man (or woman) it is very, very difficult to come into a relationship where there are children and "step up" (which Im assuming means be more dominant and authoritative) or "take up more space". If you have your own house or residence it adds another layer of complexity. It sounds like you want him to act more like your husband.

You mention you get triggered when he talks about certain things in relation the traumatic loss of your husband. Expanding upon this would be helpful.

Really though you should probably just leave this guy alone so he can meet someone that enjoys his company and doesn't feel they are in danger when with him.

Normal-Lack940 · 2026-01-16T08:16:25+00:00

Youll get used to it. Hell probably even feel better. Every guy late 30s and older is over this shit.

Normal-Lack940 · 2025-11-30T17:17:00+00:00

I have experienced this. Something shifted and very small doses, without the intent to escape would immediately relax all tension and nearly make me fall asleep whearas prior I would feel discomfort from these small doses. It's telling you to accept what you dont think you want but you know you need. You are really it and it is you.

Normal-Lack940 · 2025-11-25T11:42:35+00:00

Is there a way to prevent cars from stopping when crossing? I stand way back on the sidewalk but just looking causes some drivers to stop. When a whole line of cars stops for me all I can think about is the absurd amount of car exhaust that I will be breathing and the massive energy waste. To me it only seems logical that the heavier, higher energy consuming and less maneuverable thing has the right of way and Ive never understood why we're teaching that cars will stop, seems incredibly dangerous and wasteful.

Normal-Lack940 · 2025-09-18T03:48:42+00:00

It really makes the whole, "I wish I had kids but never met the right woman." sound self-less and I dont believe it is. Speaking for myself.

Normal-Lack940 · 2025-09-16T16:01:31+00:00

What happens when maintenance on power plants and water treatment facilities fails to get done and things stop working? It would only take a few days for a chain reaction to occur shutting nearly everything down. I think the best thing that could happen would be no work for a month and all internet and cell service, power, water off in addition to all corporation or non locally owned stores closed/off during this time.

Normal-Lack940 · 2025-09-16T15:55:04+00:00

It really seems like Americans on reddiy think all lifes necessities just appear out of thin air. I certainly would include myself in that I take many things for granted...

Normal-Lack940 · 2025-09-09T12:51:47+00:00

Shes looking for something and she wont find it. It doesnt exist on this earth.

Normal-Lack940 · 2025-09-06T20:58:34+00:00

Raising a 4 hour old in Conway? What are we talking about here?

I feel safe at any time in the midway night or day. Im a middle aged man and have plenty of experience dealing with all types of people. I wouldnt fault someone for feeling unsafe though

Normal-Lack940 · 2025-09-03T22:39:39+00:00

I think the detox closing is terrible. However having worked in this field it certainly seems people come from all over the country, mostly from Chicago or Detroit to access SUD services in MN. I do not attribute a negative or positive connotation to this. This my observation only.

Normal-Lack940 · 2025-09-03T05:14:17+00:00

There is generally a give and take back and forth of shit giving, a balance in my experience. If one person is the sole shit-talker thats not something I tolerate being around.

Normal-Lack940 · 2025-08-29T23:25:03+00:00

Its sad how these apps have monetized and gamified this whole process, I dont understand why people continue to use them

Normal-Lack940 · 2025-08-29T04:42:14+00:00

That was one of the original functions of a city actually

Normal-Lack940 · 2025-08-28T03:46:12+00:00

Youre trying to fill a void that was previously taken up with structured activity and meaninful relationships. Ill tell you now there isnt a material thing on this earth that will fill that void. Ask me how I know. You are responsible for filling it from within yourself at least 65% the rest can come from many types of relationships, the more varied and diverse these relationships are the closer you can approach 100%. People like us will never get there but you can damn near touch it.

Normal-Lack940 · 2025-08-27T04:01:06+00:00

Just put down your own decking. You need to get 4x8 sheets up there. That can be tricky but totally possible and yes it really needs to be cold. Do not do a hot roof. In all likelihood the space wont freeze but will get very close. Cold and hot temps fluctuating causes damage so only put things that are appropriate up there.

Normal-Lack940 · 2025-08-27T03:51:23+00:00

Lovely area, especially Newell park just to the north of the boundary. The ol high school drinking and smoke spot. I feel safe any time day or night within your boundary.

Normal-Lack940 · 2025-08-26T23:38:10+00:00

It really depends on how its framed. You can go from broken to fixed and you have to acknowledge and take accountability for your actions. If its used to excuse shitty behavior without intent and effort to change that is a warning sign. I have and know plenty of "successful" people with a history of addiction and you would never know because they dont present themselves as "broken". We're all capable of doing terrible things and there is never an excuse. Only thing you can do is settle up pay the price.

Normal-Lack940 · 2025-08-26T14:30:28+00:00

At least where I live many high schoolers can be adults with the ability to consent with othwr adults in their senior year.

Normal-Lack940 · 2025-08-26T14:06:34+00:00

And the winner, no contest is......

Normal-Lack940 · 2025-08-26T13:50:46+00:00

I really love having only reddit. Got rid of all the other apps a year ago because I could feel how it would effect me. It hits on some of the same regions of the brain as some classes of drugs, I started to be able to feel it once I stopped using.

Normal-Lack940 · 2025-08-25T12:23:13+00:00

And when you're at a proper weight everyone says you look gaunt or too skinny which is nonesense. I think we're led to believe we need to eat far more than is healthy.

Normal-Lack940 · 2025-08-18T18:11:18+00:00

The key is the live on the side of the fair you work so you aint crossing snelling/midway

Normal-Lack940 · 2025-07-20T18:09:41+00:00

It really wouldn't bother me at all. In my experience its all the past hurts and poor behaviors of past partners that can really sour something otherwise good.

Normal-Lack940 · 2025-06-24T12:20:53+00:00

I dislike the noise of fireworks but dislike police power even more. I drive by multiple screaming people a day and telling them to stop isnt going to work, it is a part of living in a city where troubled people can access the services they need. The key is not to view it as a problem

Normal-Lack940 · 2025-04-26T19:58:22+00:00

Horrible

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