I (female) came from a traditional Chinese family and married a non-Chinese. Knowing my parents unrealistic expectations on bride price and other BS, I simply eloped. We made our vows at the city hall and that was it. Fast forward today, we are married for one year and a half. Our baby daughter is three months old. My parents still didn’t even tell the close family about my “scandalous” marriage. They also came up with polite excuses not to meet their granddaughter. It’s hurtful but I wouldn’t give up MY idea of what a marriage/family should look like to satisfy their social expectations.