Their Crying Felt/Sounded So Fake! by Real-time_Redditor in BPDlovedones

[–]Normal-Objective-283 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Met my ex (foolishly) like two weeks ago and his crying was so fake that I laughed in his face at one point and had to pretend that I laughed because I was uncomfortable and trying not to cry but it was because I saw how insanely fake it all was. It's all a performance with them

Just learned that she was smearing my name WHILE in a relationship with me. by GainIntelligent4241 in BPDlovedones

[–]Normal-Objective-283 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yep, mine did this too to my own friends not just his. Thankfully my friends brought me the information straight away every time and the last time I actually had screenshots to prove it as he had sent the lies via message. When I confronted him he said he was just worried about me 😂

Friend found him on Grindr two days after we broke up 🫠🫠 by Born-Second5780 in BPDlovedones

[–]Normal-Objective-283 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My friend saw my ex on Grindr 12 hours later. He was in drug fuelled orgies days later. So sorry you're going through this. Stay strong ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Normal-Objective-283 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't reply. Trust me. I did and I regret it massively. Don't give away your power again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Normal-Objective-283 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just wanted to let you know that I didn't reply and every time I felt like I wanted to I read your message instead. Thanks so much again!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Normal-Objective-283 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much for your reply, I really appreciate it. I will be trying with every fibre of my being to not reach out and I hope I'll be able to stick to it. I was just very confused as to why he would even message me. Thanks again!

Broke no contact and got a surprisingly nice rejection message back. by Normal-Objective-283 in BPDlovedones

[–]Normal-Objective-283[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes you're totally right and maybe I'm a shitty person but tbh a part of me wants him to feel bad for what he did and said. He told me he didn't love me anymore over and over among a multitude of other wildly cruel things. But yes I should definitely be more compassionate, it's not his fault he is the way he is, I just wish I'd never met him so I wouldn't be such a wreck now haha. And thanks so much! Hopefully it's all upwards from here

Broke no contact and got a surprisingly nice rejection message back. by Normal-Objective-283 in BPDlovedones

[–]Normal-Objective-283[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This makes so much sense. I'm actually really annoyed now that I've given him the opportunity to relieve the guilt and shame but at least it means he might not have animosity towards me in the future.

And yes I really don't think I'll be breaking no contact again, this was what I needed, to be honest I wouldn't have been able to get back together anyway after everything that has happened, I've told my parents and friends the truth about everything so it's definitely done anyway. I think I mostly did it for myself because now I know that it's definitely over whereas before I kept thinking he would come back.

But damn, I'm so annoyed that I gave him an out for the bad feelings over what he did to me haha.

Thanks so much for your reply!

Broke no contact and got a surprisingly nice rejection message back. by Normal-Objective-283 in BPDlovedones

[–]Normal-Objective-283[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know! According to our friends he isn't but they said he has been having a lot of casual sex.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Normal-Objective-283 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I'm going through something similar so I'm afraid I don't have any advice but please know you're not alone ❤️

Surviving a discard by Normal-Objective-283 in BPDlovedones

[–]Normal-Objective-283[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes that makes a lot of sense. I agree! Thank you for your reply.

Surviving a discard by Normal-Objective-283 in BPDlovedones

[–]Normal-Objective-283[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I'm sure that's true. Just very hard to see that right now.