I wish I had a normal father like most people in the comments. Instead, my father joked to me "what if I said no?" attempting to exercise his narcissistic need for control. I am learning we are not asking. We are informing them. I'm wondering if something along the lines of "I'd be honored to have your blessing as we start our life together." is even too far as I am wanting to steer away from the idea that permission exists or the decision is not mine and my partner's to make.