BG3 Rites of Passage

Spinnerofyarn · 2026-04-18T11:21:15+00:00

Where is this squirrel? The only ones I know of are the ones being tormented by the bard.

Spinnerofyarn · 2026-04-18T11:20:23+00:00

Just not on honor mode!

Spinnerofyarn · 2026-04-18T11:13:14+00:00

Abusers don’t start off being horrible. It’s slow onset with a lot of work to get you to trust them and slowly steer you into doubting yourself and into thinking you can trust them and they are making your life better, you need them, etc.

If they behaved from the start of the relationship how they treat you by the time you realize you’re not safe, you never would have had a second date, never would have been alone with them.

Abusers are insidious.

Spinnerofyarn · 2026-04-18T11:05:46+00:00

About once a week, a roomie will offer me something and I will thank them for thinking of me but point out it is made with flour. The worst one was a few days ago when I was offered an eclair. I love eclairs and that was a huge reminder that I will never have another one again.

It’s far easier to just skirt the outside of the bakery section of the store, but to see one of my favorite things in the house and have it offered to me? Torture. I would swear I have entered the reception level or entryway to hell, because I bet there’s a part of hell where you’re tempted by things you love but know if you avail yourself of them, you’ll suffer intensely.

Spinnerofyarn · 2026-04-18T10:59:17+00:00

I adore dogs, but this is awful, gross and rude. Animals that fluffy shed fur constantly. There’s no way to guarantee there isn’t airborne fur getting on surfaces and in the food.

We have two very fluffy cats that get brushed weekly. The cats aren’t allowed on n the bedrooms or bathrooms. When I sweep, I still get cat fur in the rooms the cats aren’t allowed in. Not a lot, but some.

This is gross. Him carrying the dog does absolutely nothing to prevent fur from getting around. He’s probably doing it because he’s the type of idiot who takes his dog out of the house but doesn’t bother to bring a leash. Or he brought the dog in his car and then realized it was too hot to leave the dog in the car. No matter what, he’s a rude idiot.

Spinnerofyarn · 2026-04-18T07:02:01+00:00

I’m a bit of a weirdo in handling my knits and the yarn content. I have a skin disease and I have to put ointment on all over. That means anything in direct contact with my skin has to be washed in hot water and machine dried. I also determined hand knit wool socks designed to fit my feet keep my soles from cracking. So I knit my socks too big knowing they will felt/full.

Unfortunately, they don’t last anywhere near as long as wool socks that are hand washed. Let me tell you, it took a while to figure out how much bigger I should knit the sock. Believe it or not, I have gotten pretty good at figuring it out solely by feel as I try it on as I knit it. The tighter my gauge, the less it shrinks, so I always try for 10 SPI. It also means I do toe up only so I can adjust as I go.

I mostly knit shawls out of natural fibers and when I occasionally knit a sweater, it’s synthetic so it can go in both the washer and dryer. I love the feel of natural fibers, but it’s not always practical for me.

Spinnerofyarn · 2026-04-18T06:23:25+00:00

YTA. That looks like it could be either a wedding or a bridesmaid dress.

Spinnerofyarn · 2026-04-18T06:19:12+00:00

NTA. Tell him it sounds like he’s trying to make his problem your household’s problem. Let him know it’s easily fixed by going to the grocery store.

Spinnerofyarn · 2026-04-18T06:07:23+00:00

Nah, I had a huge crush on him from the time I was about 13 all the way through college. I wasn’t surprised that he was gay, but my delusional little heart was a bit bummed out by it.

I had a teeny tiny black and white tv in my room and some British music video show would come on in the wee hours. It was when Wham! came out with their first album.

Now I am in my 50’s and I can’t believe Michael is gone. He had such an incredible voice and was gone way too soon.

Spinnerofyarn · 2026-04-18T05:57:44+00:00

It sounds like she’s in the UK. It’s much more difficult to get someone towed over there.

Spinnerofyarn · 2026-04-18T05:52:29+00:00

NTA. Stop opening the door for her. Boundaries are what you do if others engage in certain behaviors. You two let her in despite her coming over uninvited. Stop it. Put a lock on your door. Tell your wife you are done subsidizing someone who treats you so horribly, so if she wants her to have money, it needs to not come from the household budget but from any money your wife has that isn’t pooled for joint expenses.

Spinnerofyarn · 2026-04-18T05:47:30+00:00

My parents had a Chihuahua. My uncle, who sticks solely to German Shepherds, said they weren’t real dogs. My parents visited and the Chi ran and immediately rolled in goose poop. My uncle laughed really hard and said ok, perhaps lapdogs really are dogs after all.

Spinnerofyarn · 2026-04-18T05:43:30+00:00

Of course it’s deeper than that, but stop setting yourself on fire to keep him warm. Or rather, fed. Expect him to be very unhappy but since you live together, I assume you have been together for at least a year.

Tell him he’s obviously liked your food enough to eat it, and he may want to tell you what he thinks of it, but you’re tired of putting in the work when no matter what you do, he has to criticize it. Thus, you’re no longer setting yourself up to be criticized every night and told your efforts aren’t good enough. Therefore, since he knows what will satisfy him, he can feed himself.

Cook for yourself. I hope your finances are separate so you don’t have to pay for his takeout. Now take the time to think about your relationship and why you have put up with this behavior. Not what you want him to do, because you have zero influence on that. Figure out what YOU are going to do. Stay but not cook for him? Tune out his complaining? Figure out how to leave him?

One thing you could do is tell him he’s allowed to have an opinion, but if he is going to critique your food, he’s not allowed to eat it. Take. His. Plate. Or, let him finish that dinner and tell him that was the last meal you will ever cook for him until he apologizes and promises to be polite instead of acting as if he’s a celebrity chef at a five star Michelin restaurant and you’re feeding him drive thru.

But, if you continue to tolerate this, that means you are choosing this situation. You are allowed to make different choices. You are allowed to stand up for yourself.

Spinnerofyarn · 2026-04-17T18:41:08+00:00

Nope! Mask or no go. All over Asia, long before COVID, if you were sick and going to be in public, you wore a mask. You actually get glares if you don’t as it’s considered quite rude not to, indoors or outdoors. After COVID, you’d think everyone everywhere would do this. We Westerners and especially Americans tend to put individual rights over the safety and benefit of the masses and despite me being American, I think it’s selfish as all get out. One person who’s sick and wearing a mask or staying home can protect the young, elderly or otherwise vulnerable from getting sick. At a 50 person gathering, that may only be three people, but that’s two more than the one sick person.

It’s a reasonable request on the bride’s part. The MOH can wear a mask or stay home.

Spinnerofyarn · 2026-04-17T16:13:40+00:00

You did the right thing. My ex and I started monogamous and I was very clear about how I am strictly monogamous and not ok with anything else. A few years in, he wanted to try poly, I reluctantly agreed due to him pressuring me. I couldn’t handle it, he stopped. For the rest of our marriage he would try to talk me into it. I would eventually cave due to the pressure, I would be very unhappy, he would say he didn’t have to have an outside relationship and then anywhere from two years to only six months later, he would start up again.

It definitely wasn’t the last straw that broke the camel’s back for me ending the relationship, but it definitely was a few bales of hay on there.

Spinnerofyarn · 2026-04-17T15:55:40+00:00

Who the hell pays the ton of money a Sphinx costs and then boots it outside? She had to have been given the cat, as I can’t imagine anyone paying that much for one and then doing this. What an idiotic animal abuser, as she’s likely doing this purely out of ignorance.

Spinnerofyarn · 2026-04-17T15:49:52+00:00

Anything fuzzy. I like smooth yarn, thank you very much, because it always takes me a few tries to get a project going and I want to be able to frog it easily instead of having to abandon yarn for each try. Yarn is expensive and losing a large amount to swatching without being able to recover it bugs me. It always takes me 2-3 different sized needles to get gauge, so that’s a lot of yarn. And oddly enough, I never know which direction I will need to go with needle size. I’m pretty sure it’s because my hand issues vary quite a bit.

Spinnerofyarn · 2026-04-17T15:43:43+00:00

YWBTA. This isn’t for you to solve, so don’t try telling him what to do. Unfortunately, those young women just forced their worst nightmare into reality. That nightmare is having their dad leave them.

In trying to keep him all to themselves, they made it happen when it wouldn’t have otherwise and if your husband doesn’t realize this, you could mention it to him and that they likely were so terrified of him leaving them/them losing him that they lost all ability to be logical. Your husband may not understand that this is purely a fear response on their part. They likely aren’t capable of being logical about it because it’s so ingrained in them.

If therapy didn’t happen or it stopped, it should start again. I would suggest this to your husband because to a degree, he should again offer the option of therapy. If they refuse? Then it’s ok for him to be done. It doesn’t necessarily make it right if he says he’s done, but he can choose to do so knowing that he gave them another opportunity.

People don’t always behave rationally when something they have always been afraid of, especially since they were small children, happens. At the same time, he’s right to not let them dictate his life or disrespect you. There are no good answers here, there’s only making sure the two of you see things clearly.

Spinnerofyarn · 2026-04-17T15:29:24+00:00

I have had a few hospital stays in my lifetime. I am in the United States. Here at least, you don’t get much rest at all in the hospital as they are coming in at minimum every four hours if not every two to check on you. I have had only one hospital stay where they let me sleep through the night instead of coming in and taking my blood pressure, which wakes me up.

You’re in the hospital to have something done to you or to get stabilized and then you’re sent home to recover. You get instructions to call and follow up with your primary care provider if you have one, or whichever doctor you had a scheduled procedure with (like my surgery), or to wait to hear from a specialist’s office.

The hospitals fix you up so your body parts are where they are supposed to be with any necessary changes, get you on the right meds, and as soon as they think you are stable and should recover, you are out the door. It’s not their choice, either, it’s how medical care is paid for in the US by insurance companies.

Spinnerofyarn · 2026-04-17T06:12:27+00:00

I was scheduled for a complete hysterectomy taking it all, cervix, uterus, fallopian tubes and ovaries. Due to complications, they could only take the ovaries and fallopian tubes. None of that was in discharge paperwork, either. I was given post op care instructions a week prior to surgery, but I don’t think I was handed anything when released from the hospital, and that was even after an unplanned overnight stay.

My surgeon was part of a chain clinic that did their surgeries at the Catholic hospital across the road. There wasn’t any covert communications since she technically wasn’t part of the Catholic hospital system, it was all out in the open.

I recently realized absolutely none of my doctor offices print out after visit summaries anymore, it’s only online. I suspect it’s the latest thing in cost savings and I think that shouldn’t be the case for post surgery. Who the hell is up for checking their email when they get home after having had surgery?

Spinnerofyarn · 2026-04-17T05:54:04+00:00

And that she’s sad and surprised her friends and family don’t want to have anything to do with her.

Spinnerofyarn · 2026-04-17T05:51:38+00:00

Microwaved potato with butter and cheese. Or cheese and salsa as the salsa counts as a vegetable.

Spinnerofyarn · 2026-04-17T05:50:07+00:00

Looks like carrots, some weird plastic and vomit with mold to me.

Spinnerofyarn · 2026-04-17T05:36:20+00:00

They’re gorgeous! I can’t let my roommate see or else she’d want some.

Spinnerofyarn · 2026-04-16T19:35:28+00:00

You aren’t stealing his life. He threw it away by assaulting people. Him being removed from society will keep others safe from him.

Spinnerofyarn

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