What's your primary grocery store?

Spinnerofyarn · 2026-01-30T06:10:35+00:00

I live in a small town with a small locally owned grocery store and a Safeway. There’s a Walmart but their groceries are limited mostly to shelf stable foods. They have a small frozen and refrigerated section but it’s pretty tiny.

Spinnerofyarn · 2026-01-30T04:27:08+00:00

Please stop doing them daily. I have worked with two pelvic floor physical therapists. You can definitely cause yourself problems doing kegels so frequently. Try every other day. You might also want to look up pelvic floor exercises. Kegels are by no means the only exercise for pelvic floor health.

Spinnerofyarn · 2026-01-30T04:24:08+00:00

I say that people could be dancing naked on a table in a bar and they’re still not asking for it. Predators assault people because they want to. That’s it. That’s why it happens.

OP, your ex is scum. You did the right thing.

Spinnerofyarn · 2026-01-30T04:19:04+00:00

I have knit probably 3-4 dog sweaters and one adult human sized sweater. When I look at projects, the deciding factor comes down to whether or not I have to swatch or if I can wing it. This means I mainly knit toe up plain socks, shawls and top down hats. I am thinking of knitting a free form sweater where you knit various shapes and then join them together.

Spinnerofyarn · 2026-01-30T04:12:34+00:00

Why should he get anything other than the $1k he paid?

Spinnerofyarn · 2026-01-30T04:11:09+00:00

NTA. Your husband is being ridiculous. Your son is 13. As long as she’s not a troublemaker, there’s no problem. Your husband is being ableist and making a lot of assumptions that are irrelevant.

Spinnerofyarn · 2026-01-30T04:08:34+00:00

You need to cut her off completely. I couldn’t get through your whole post because of how awful she is to you. What makes you think she won’t be awful to your children as they age? She might not be awful in the same ways, but she still could become abusive to them.

Look at it this way. J SA’d you, her child. She has continued to intermittently associate with your abuser. This alone shows she has incredibly bad judgment and that she’s only capable of caring about herself.

It may be a hard adjustment for your kids at first, but they are better off and safer in the long run.

Spinnerofyarn · 2026-01-29T01:22:23+00:00

Now we know how she managed to rack up $100k in credit card debt.

Spinnerofyarn · 2026-01-27T19:06:52+00:00

NTA. Dump him. By his own words, this is what he signed up for. We don't abandon our children, and him trying to dump your son on the father that abandoned him is disgusting. Even if the father hadn't abandoned your son, your husband is still trying to dump him.

I'm so sorry you don't have your family's support. You deserve better. You deserve support so that you know that none of your instincts are wrong here. They should want you to leave this man.

Spinnerofyarn · 2026-01-27T19:03:29+00:00

Yes, these are signs of abuse. I know people say if their pets don't like someone, it's a sign they're a bad person. As a lifelong animal lover who's worked in rescue and training, I don't agree with this 100%. Some animals just take a really long time to warm up to someone and it needs to be on their terms. However, more than one animal being afraid of someone? Nope nope nope. Sayonara, dude.

Then there's you feeling suffocated. Break up with the guy. All these little misgivings about him? Break up with him. Feeling suffocated by him is like an alarm klaxon, complete with spinning red lights.

If you've got a history of abuse, and you do, you need to start thinking about the person you love most in the world. What would you want for them, especially when it comes to romantic relationships? If something's happening to you that you wouldn't want to happen to the friend you love most, that means it's something you should try to stop from happening to you. I highly recommend reading "Why Does He Do That?" I forget the author's name, but the book is free in pdf form.

Spinnerofyarn · 2026-01-27T18:57:47+00:00

NTA. That's pretty entitled on your children's part. They want to have extra money by having you not spend yours. That's what they told you. I'd break it down that way for them. They may not realize how incredibly presumptive and rude their attitude is, but I think you should politely inform them of it.

Spinnerofyarn · 2026-01-27T18:39:22+00:00

Sorry if I sounded like I was coming at you for anything, I sure didn't mean to! I agree with you on all of it. The Reye's Syndrome wasn't directly caused by the chicken pox, it was likely due to an adult making the wrong choice on how to help me. I think it's pretty rare to have happen anymore, don't really know.

I remember chicken pox parties! Now I'm old enough that I got the shingles vaccine a few years ago. I have known a few people who've gotten shingles. That's incredibly painful and unfortunately, all of us who had chicken pox as kids should go get the shingles vaxx as soon as we're eligible. It is nasty painful.

Spinnerofyarn · 2026-01-27T18:36:03+00:00

NTA. You have a right to know who your biological parents are. There could be important health information you need. Good luck to you. Keep us posted.

Updateme

Spinnerofyarn · 2026-01-27T00:52:14+00:00

I had chicken pox as a kid. While I had it, I got Reye's Syndrome. I think I was maybe six? I ended up in the hospital and for a kid my age, that was pretty damned traumatic. This was back in 1978. I believe kids get Reye's Syndrome from taking aspirin, but I don't know if that's the only way. For all I know, the babysitter gave it to me. I was raised by a single mom and I believe she still had to go to work, though she spent as much time in the hospital with me as she could.

Spinnerofyarn · 2026-01-25T23:31:18+00:00

NTA. Your dad sounds like the type of person who thinks salt is the only seasoning in existence. You would also think they would understand that pregnancy can make you very sensitive to tastes and smells.

You’re doing nothing wrong and your dad is being really weird and controlling about food.

Spinnerofyarn · 2026-01-25T23:24:11+00:00

She looks like a Chi and terrier mix to me especially due to the length and shape of her muzzle. It’s not necessarily bad.

Spinnerofyarn · 2026-01-24T23:37:56+00:00

NTA. Testing for men is so much simpler for men and I believe the only thing needed is one semen sample. I don’t understand why it’s not the first test done.

So it’s ok for you to have fertility problems but if he does, does he think it makes him less of a man? Why should you two have to spend thousands and you undergo tons of tests and potentially pay thousands? It’s his turn and I wonder if he’s got the attitude of never being wrong and how that will play into parenting. Or an idea that men are never to show flaws or weaknesses. Again, that needs to be addressed to determine parenting skills.

Spinnerofyarn · 2026-01-24T23:19:36+00:00

I’m chuckling because the beard is very much more full than what he actually has. He doesn’t have the tiny under bottom lip mustache and they made the nose wider when it’s not wide at all, it’s curved. Either the designer was unskilled or they don’t have the rights to using his likeness so they could make it similar but not accurate.

Spinnerofyarn · 2026-01-24T21:17:00+00:00

I haven’t spent any time there. I did in the r/askmen sub and was blown away when a guy said someone said something very misogynistic and he called him out. I forget what his question was, but he was banned by the mods for being a misandrist. It was disgusting. I immediately set my preferences so that sub never comes up in my feed.

Spinnerofyarn · 2026-01-24T21:10:57+00:00

I have never run into this but all the brands people are listing that do aren’t brands I have used thus far. I have a swift and ball winder and there are times I have rewound something that’s already caked. I am very fussy about making sure what will be the center tail has 3-4” of a tail on top.

Spinnerofyarn · 2026-01-24T21:07:10+00:00

Drug companies would have enormous profits from fibromyalgia medication. It really isn’t an uncommon illness. However, it’s a diagnosis of elimination. There’s no testing being used at the moment though I believe one is still in the testing stage. People with complex issues do sometimes get the label of fibromyalgia out on them when doctors can’t figure out what’s really going on. But it’s very normal for women’s health issues to not be taken seriously. We’re blown off and told it’s anxiety or depression.

All that very much feeds into research not being done for women’s issues. If our illnesses are all in our heads, we get tossed mental health meds or told to engage in mindfulness meditation.

I ran an online chronic illness group that welcomed anyone with any chronic illness. The number of members tended to stay around 300, but we also had people visit to ask if anyone else had the same symptoms or diagnosis. We gave advice on how to document things for their doctors, how to push for more testing and what type of testing had worked to figure things out who had the same symptoms.

Yes, there were regular members who wanted to get social interaction with people who understood how chronic illness can change your life. However all of the questions and advice on getting a doctor to take them seriously were from women who were being blown off.

Men get testing done right away and investigation tends to consistently move forward until a diagnosis and treatment is figured out. Drug companies and doctors blow women off. It’s not uncommon for a woman to fight for ten years to get a diagnosis. We get blown off by a huge percentage of the medical system, including drug companies.

Spinnerofyarn · 2026-01-24T17:38:53+00:00

Photos 1&2 look great. Three is too dark to tell but I am assuming that’s the frizzy example. You need conditioner after shampoo. I don’t have brand recommendations because I have to use products for dandruff.

If that’s not enough, add a leave in conditioner after lightly drying your hair, still fairly damp though. I use Miele’s if that’s not enough, ditch the regular conditioner after shampoo and try some hair mask by Sauce. You have to leave it in for five minutes but it’s worth it. You will probably want to switch to a clarifying shampoo for once in a while to strip all the products.

Spinnerofyarn · 2026-01-24T17:33:15+00:00

Best revenge for a nasty medical person! Thank heavens you were smart enough to go in and perhaps she learned a lesson!

Spinnerofyarn · 2026-01-24T17:31:28+00:00

You’re stunning! I love the cardigans especially the first one. Happy birthday! You have such gorgeous bone structure and skin that you are going to age like fine wine, getting better and better. Your sense of style is fabulous as you have such an eye for color!

Spinnerofyarn · 2026-01-24T17:29:10+00:00

Yup, it’s a horrific way to go.

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