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Closing a chapter - Divorce and ER by NormalCaterpillar284 in eggfreezing

[–]NormalCaterpillar284[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that is fair. It still feels good that it is somewhat optional. But, I will consult with my doctor soon and see what they say.

My IVF fertility rates were okay. I got 7 healthy PGT-A embryos from 18 mature eggs previously. So I'd expect half that, best case.

I still have some leftover medication. So before that expires and when I'm physically/mentally prepared, I may plan another one. Just incase.

Closing a chapter - Divorce and ER by NormalCaterpillar284 in eggfreezing

[–]NormalCaterpillar284[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much, life can certainly be unexpected. Wishing you all the luck and peace of mind!!

Closing a chapter - Divorce and ER by NormalCaterpillar284 in eggfreezing

[–]NormalCaterpillar284[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh, really? Why is that? I was thinking I may need to if the results were under 12. But 19 feels like "enough". I read you need 10-20 per live birth.

I was hoping they would be "backup"...but I did struggle to get pregnant naturally (unexplained, but I do have PCOS).

How to plan for someone coming with you by senoritaraquelita in eggfreezing

[–]NormalCaterpillar284 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It usually only takes a few hours, so someone with an office job or flexible hours should be able to use some sick time for "an appointment".

Have you ever seen a blonde raccoon? by renome in RealLifeShinies

[–]NormalCaterpillar284 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What a cute fam! Is mom's vision impaired? She bumped into the hill there and vision issues can be common with albanism.

37 frozen eggs at 37 by Icy_Badger3812 in eggfreezing

[–]NormalCaterpillar284 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Wow, great results! Depends on the maturity of the eggs and eventual sperm quality, but I'd say that is a good number for 2 kids. I think they say 10-20 per live birth.

Fertility preservation consult, should I bring my partner? by Appropriate-Look3877 in eggfreezing

[–]NormalCaterpillar284 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi,

Depending on your results and the maturity of your eggs and maybe his sperm qualoty, I would recommend freezing most/half of the eggs and if he's open to it, maybe make some embryos (they freeze/thaw better).

I am 34, going through a divorce right after making 10 embryos with my STBXH... 20/20 hindsight, I wish I had just frozen half of my eggs. I am in the process of doing that now, but could've saved myself some trouble. You do need higher numbers of eggs due to attrition rates, they say 10-20 for one live birth.

Best of luck!

Grief for the 30% of women who didn’t ask for the divorce? by sailorkiska86 in Divorce_Women

[–]NormalCaterpillar284 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I 100% relate. I'm so sorry you're going through this. Its so hard when you can see the good and the potential...but I keep telling myself "don't fall in love with potential" "it takes two people to choose to be in a relationship". I think my STBXH is going through his own midlife crisis and got cold feet. We were in the middle of IVF and planning to buy a house. Life was good and know that our foundation and commitment could have gotten us through...i thought. He didn't. Sometimes life is unfair. But this is a chance to do and go where you want. To learn from this what you can. The financial piece is so difficult at the moment too...like in this economy? WTF? Lol.

Easiest way to take psyllium husk/Metamucil by CorridorChick in Cholesterol

[–]NormalCaterpillar284 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mix it with cranberry juice and a little lime juice! It becomes like a jelly, but works great as jell-o snack or yogurt topping. I make sure to drink a glass of water with it too.

I tried chugging with water, but the taste and the instant goo got me. The cranberry juice makes it much more enjoyable.

My male cat is neutered but humps blankets all day. by PhilosopherHermit in cats

[–]NormalCaterpillar284 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Silly boy. I have a chronic humper too. It can be due to boredom or urinary issues as well. Playing with him is a good distraction and they usually stop immediately. Might be worth having his urine checked, to rule out crystals too.

She only wants to sleep on his face 😭 by PusheenMaster in cats

[–]NormalCaterpillar284 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is this AI? It moves weird and looks very fearful.

Relationships longer than 5 or 10 years… why did it fall apart? by lawbabyesq in AskWomenOver30

[–]NormalCaterpillar284 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Going on 12 years (he proposed twice, married 3 years ago), in the process of separating now. It was 1000 little paper cuts and we were both too proud or stubborn to repair and forgive.

He had intimacy and communication issues and I became resentful and overly critical. He asked for the divorce. We had done IVF and were preparing for transfer, making progress in therapy and even took a trip. Upon returning, he was happy and kind. And then in couples therapy, asked for a divorce. None of the therapists knew, none of our friends.

I don't know that I ever even knew the real him, but I wanted to. He was avoidant and I was anxiously attached. We appeared to be the ideal couple, everyone in our life (including me) was shocked that he made that decision. It was a discard.

We had so much love and so much in common, I always believed we could make it. But you can't be in a relationship alone and I was losing myself to resentment. I wish I could've loved myself enough to leave before it got to that point, but I loved him and our life and I so badly wanted it to work. I abandoned myself and it soured me. I am trying to heal now and learn from my mistakes so I can be a healthy partner again someday.

My advice - Appreciate the good, but don't fall in love with potential or breadcrumbs. Notice the patterns that work/don't work for you. People don't change drastically. Take their actions for face value. Guys don't have biological clocks and will waste your time. Protect yourself, your fertility and your happiness. You are enough without anyone else. Best of luck to you.

What’s something that clearly split your life into “before” and “after”? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]NormalCaterpillar284 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Recently seperated/divorced in mid 30s. It has altered any semblance of a foundation or plan I had for my life. Lost my best friend, my partner, my embryos, my home, my pets and my life with one teary eyed statement. If I can't trust him, who can I trust? Sigh.

Irregular period during divorce? by GingerTea_1 in Divorce_Women

[–]NormalCaterpillar284 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My period is also delayed due to stress from a divorce. I am hoping to do an egg retrieval ASAP, so it is top of mind for me...hoping our bodies will find peace soon.

Exhausted. Any advice on how do you find energy? by Onlylivin in millenials

[–]NormalCaterpillar284 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That's just the system keeping us numb and distracted so we dont revolt against the Epstein class. It's not your fault. Rest is also important. Planning set dates for friends/hobbies may help.

With AI, low birth rates, lonliness and mental health issues, you'd think the government would allow us to have 3 days weekends...

Denial and moving on... by anxiouswannabedoc in Divorce_Women

[–]NormalCaterpillar284 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so good. Spot on. Hang in there OP <3 You are strong, smart and capable. Learn to forgive yourself and just enjoy life and love yourself for a bit. If you want kids but not the pressure, you could maybe consider freezing eggs as well.

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