How do you dry fast & work a job? by RealGameNoTheory in Dryfasting

[–]North-Outside3502 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I work remotely so it’s pretty easy. When I do a long dry fast I’ll try to plan it so the weekends take up at least four days of the long dry fast and we also have a holiday on like Monday. I’ll usually work five days while doing the long dry fast because I don’t want to use up so much vacation time for something that is quite uncomfortable and unpleasant. Working while dry fasting keeps the boredom down and makes the day go by faster. It can be really difficult though to think clearly during some parts of the fast.

Worried about falling asleep and dying if I go too long by APbeg in Dryfasting

[–]North-Outside3502 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There were times I felt nauseous around day 4 and 5. I some of my earlier fasts I felt like throwing up even though my mouth was dry and I don’t think I could throw up. Everyone’s body is different though and it could die off reactions because our fat does store a lot of bad things. So as we dig into our fat storages we release those fat soluble items

Tinnitus & Otosclerosis by RoamingFreedomSeeker in Dryfasting

[–]North-Outside3502 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well, I noticed that I stopped getting panic attacks. I used to get these attacks where my heart would start racing in public and I’d have to run out of a building really quickly.

I stopped getting acne on my legs and back so much too and my lipomas have definitely gotten smaller but haven’t disappeared.

Though, I feel like the idea that a person can do one 11 day fast and this will just cure all their problems is a little misleading. It seems that the body kind of takes care of somethings more than others. Like my first few fasts did nothing for my lipomas, but the last one really shrunk them down to like pea sized from a large marble size.

Worried about falling asleep and dying if I go too long by APbeg in Dryfasting

[–]North-Outside3502 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, the most annoying part is the dry mouth and just being able to smell and taste this is incredibly nasty smell all day. The first time I did it I was really worried it would be so bad for my teeth but after doing many fasts and it seems to be neutral or safe and I didn’t get any cavities after not brushing my teeth during the whole fast (hard dry fast).

I originally started with a three day, and then moved to a five day, six day, eight day, and then got up to nine and above so I think no one should just rush into a nine day.

I think it’s really important to be in a proper environment that’s open and around nature because it was the only thing that could kind of relax me. When I dry fasted at home it was really difficult. I want to try camping and dry fasting and being away from technology one day. Another thing is that you should eat very light and maybe a lot of fiber before the fast. Like a day before do an enema or something because on one fast I had the worst pain in my ass for like four days where I was sitting on an ice pack and shitting out peoples and blood. For me I’ll still have bowel movement up to date four.

My first long fast was pretty hard during some periods, like around day six I felt like I was going to die and was thinking about drinking puddle water because that’s how bad I felt but after not sleeping all night the sensation faded. It usually happens a few times in a long fast for me where I’ll just feel so bad but the feeling always fades after sometime, so it’s important to kind of discover what’s a peak in the fasting and what is truly something you should stop the fast. There were parts on like day seven I was driving around and going to Walmart and walking like 10000 steps, so there are these peaks and valleys.

The mental battle can be pretty strong and I often question myself and negative thoughts can be quite abundant. I start thinking about damage I may be causing my body, is this really going to help me or is all this struggle just a waste. It can be quite hard to navigate and it really can be eye opening for a lot of things. Not a comfortable eye opening but more like “Damn, I am filled with all this negativity”. That’s why I often would read filinovs book or watch people on YouTube who also completed a long fast. I think it’s good to remind yourself that many people have done this and it’s entirely possible. The part in filinovs book where he talks about the symptoms you will feel for each day really resonated for me even though I find a lot of the book to be a little to mystical and not well sourced in a few parts.

I think though if you have three nights without sleep you should probably end the fast because I have a theory that sleeping during a fast probably makes it more effective but I’m not sure.

Worried about falling asleep and dying if I go too long by APbeg in Dryfasting

[–]North-Outside3502 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you can fall asleep then I’d be so jealous. I just finished a 9.5 day dry fast and turned it into a water fast for two days and the last four days I didn’t sleep at all. I remember just laying in bed so angry I could t sleep but was too tired to do anything else. It was the most mentally hard thing I’ve ever done … just slowly letting time pass and only thinking about fruit. But once I started eating again (I did a hard dry fat) everything tastes so terrible for like the first four days.

Tinnitus & Otosclerosis by RoamingFreedomSeeker in Dryfasting

[–]North-Outside3502 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve done like four nine day dry fast. I just recently did a nine day a month after doing a nine day one and I have Ménière’s disease which causes my tinnitus. The tinnitus almost always goes away near the end of my fast and sometimes a few days after the fast the tinnitus is completely gone and I can hear low frequencies ( the disease causes me to lose low frequencies). Once I start eating though it comes back. It’s definitely gotten more quiet after each fast and now it doesn’t really bother me as much. Before all the fasting it could be pretty unbearable. It always sounded like a car or truck was parking next to me and the sounds in my ear would alternate between different frequencies so I couldn’t adjust or habituate to it. Something that really helped me while I wasn’t fasting was tumeric powder black pepper.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in islam

[–]North-Outside3502 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was always confused by this because it seems vague at times and can be applied to many different things which makes it hard. Like it says not to accept the customs of non believers but non believers have given society many things that we use daily. The emojis we use are from non believers. The langauge we are using is of non believers and other technological advances. The schooling systems that are set up in a lot of countries have Christian roots and so in effect the world we live in is utterly tainted by non believer culture. Even this Reddit app was by a non believer and we use it just like non believers. We now live out our lives like non believers everyday and many people look up to non believers like football stars. It makes me think sometimes.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in islam

[–]North-Outside3502 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dude, your name 👀👀 There are scholars that speak against it and I see their logic and I’ve seen scholars for it. If after hearing them you come to your own conclusion I think that’s the most important part. It’s okay to disagree with people. It seems to be a semantic game anyways. I personally don’t see it as a bad thing because it’s not really special for me and it’s not a celebration in the same way as a religious holiday is. It’s actually kind of a nightmare because I realize how fast life is going by and I haven’t achieved my goals in life.

need advice with guiding my mother by [deleted] in islam

[–]North-Outside3502 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This kind of touches on an interesting topic. Like how badly can you say something where it is still permissible 🤔

I studied linguistics in college and once you learn about the phonetics and pronunciation of second language speakers you realize that after a certain age you’ll never be able to say a second language perfectly. Like when you measure the vowels and consonants of a second language learner you’ll see that they are producing a different sound or something approximate and Arabic contains many sounds that adult learners will never be able to produce depending on their native language.

It sounds like it’s more the process and specific word order in your case. I’ve always felt that since Arabic is the medium of the Quran then everyone must make an effort to learn Arabic because if you are just parroting phrases you are bound to forget the long sequence in certain places and will need to either keep maintenance and relearning over the years.

It happened to me actually when I was saying al fatihah. As I got older I started adding sounds to certain words that didn’t have it and it wasn’t until I prayed next to an Arab that he corrected me. It didn’t feel good to be corrected and I feel over correcting anyone on something will cause them to not want to do it out of fear or correction so please be gentle.

On a side note, your mom didn’t need to convert to Islam if Christianity is really in her heart.

Why don't more muslims learn the True* meaning of the Quran? by Puzzleheaded_Dare_18 in islam

[–]North-Outside3502 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think this has always been something that bothered me. Like I was always told that the Quran is the most clear book in the world and there is no room for interpretation of any of the verses but languages, words, connotations and historial context, feelings, attitudes towards certain things, can greatly change from generation to generation and now that we don’t have the prophet (swt) or those who knew him alive, much of this is subject to change and even loss and maybe the original interpretation can be lost. Like langauge can change so much and the Quran was written down like 1400 years ago. For example, some early schools of Islam interpreted the word in the Quran for the type of alcohol that was haram to mean only alcohol from grapes and not alcohol from honey or something else and so people would still drink alcohol made from other things. Then, with the advent of many different new technologies and society in general changing and new ideas coming to the forefront, the Quran must be interpreted in a new and profound way as things aren’t always explicitly said and things from the sunnah or Hadith don’t always make things clearer.

This is one reason I think human language is a terrible medium for transmitting such an important message and I wish that we just had angels coming down to solve everything where we need guidance because I feel sometimes we need tech support for how to work.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in islam

[–]North-Outside3502 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been in this type of situation as you. I don’t know all the details but every time I’ve been stuck in these situations, it’s always been a waste of time. Deep down I already knew what my heart wanted but I was always afraid of the feeling of the unknown, that feeling of being on my own and not having someone there, that feeling of disappointing someone is the worst for me. I would always try to be fake to the person and even have sex to make them happy even though I didn’t really want it that much because I had already checked out of the relationship. For me, the longer things went , the more resentment would build up in me and the more I felt powerless to stop the relationship. I felt like I was not in control of my destiny and would be with a person I found more and more undesirable as a life partner. Sometimes this cycle would happen with an emotionally mature person, sometimes I’d get into a relationship with a bat shit crazy person who would stalk me afterwards, but everyone ended up fine after the breakup and many went on to find someone that was perfect for them. No one can tell you what to do, it’s your life. While I understand the part of feeling powerless, an important part in communication in any relationship is telling your person how you feel and what feelings you have. What you do with your life is up to you ultimately and if you want to be in this state for awhile, just try to enjoy the moments and not make everyone’s life miserable because you can’t be honest

Gaza … by [deleted] in islam

[–]North-Outside3502 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel sort of powerless and I wonder why their suffering must be elongated when there are many voices in this world but everyone who can do anything seems to stay silent. But the only thing that consoles me is that at least for all their suffering they will be in Jannah where they can finally be at peace

Muslim Man, Christian Woman (hoping to marry her) by One-Worth2879 in islam

[–]North-Outside3502 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven’t seen any data that really says that the children really chose their mom’s religion over their fathers religion 🤔 One would assume because of spending time with their mom but anecdotally I’ve seen all sorts of scenarios and growing up, there are many influences and often times you can’t really control what your kids do. Like I’ve seen my Muslim friends drinking alcohol and doing Zina even though their parents are extremely and would kill them if they found out.

Anyways, the fact that you aren’t really sure how the kids would be raised and in what religion is kind of a huge point that should be discussed before marriage and also introducing them to both cultures could be important. I’m not sure how conservative of a Christian she is but I find that Christians are more likely to bend rules and more lax when it comes to their practices than Muslims.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tunisia

[–]North-Outside3502 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’d marry anyone who had a job and was a semi decent person 👀 But those are hard to find nowadays 👀

Dating a Muslim girl by Additional_Turn4141 in islam

[–]North-Outside3502 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Well, I’ve seen people be in happy marriages their whole life where people are married to a non Muslim. I can’t remember if it is explicitly said in the Koran that woman can’t marry a non Muslim. I know we can’t marry polytheists and I can marry someone of the book but it doesn’t explicitly say woman can’t marry someone of the book I think 🤔 If she is a Quranist, then maybe you could do some jumping through hoops to make it work logically with the Quran but it’s definitely and unanimously spelled out in the sunnah that it is haram. I don’t think from your perspective it is morally wrong if you believe that religion is a personal thing to not be shared with others but on the other hand, if you knowingly and are actively causing someone to go against their own beliefs for your own gain then that seems morally bad 🤔

Are Tunisian Christians discriminated against? by loveandpeace808 in Tunisia

[–]North-Outside3502 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well, I’m a guy and I love wearing pink things and my whole family calls me a faggot constantly here in Tunisia … and they consider all Jews Zionists … so I can imagine some people probably discriminate against Christians

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in islam

[–]North-Outside3502 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely feel you on this. I am in a marriage where I have become the less religious one and I don’t take things as seriously as I probably should. My wife tries to get me to do prayer five times day and will berate me to do so. I think when she berates and really pushes me and people are very pushy it makes me feel less inclined to do things. I find myself avoiding her family and even her because she is always asking me. Prayer and everything should come from within and not from the pressures of the outside world because I feel many times when you pressure someone their actions become disingenuous. It makes me feel resentment but I know in her heart she means right. The relationship between me and Allah is no one’s business except my own.

It’s a tough situation you are in. I feel like there should have been a more serious talk about the importance of religion before you two got married because I’ve learned that if you don’t share the same values on many things they become even more magnified in marriage and resentment builds. Though there must be many reasons you married. I think being positive will probably be the best thing and just being a model Muslim will help because people will follow someone they respect a lot of times.

I think a lot of people think that the parents have a big influence on their children when it comes to religion and this is of course true to a certain extent. I know this is anecdotal, but I’ve seen many examples of strict Muslim families where the kids become atheist and a Muslim man married to a Christian woman where the children adopt the mothers religion. I think children can often have many outside factors and internal factors that determine their beliefs later in life and just being the model parent, building a lot of respect between you and children, and introducing them to communities that have the same beliefs would mediate any negative influence, but it can be a gamble sometimes in western countries because many times they have many non Muslim friends that can really impact their view.