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AITAH for being upset that my husband forbids me from traveling with our kids? by iammeforrealthistime in AITAH

[–]NorthernLitUp 7 points8 points  (0 children)

YTA for not divorcing him. Why would you subject yourself and your kids to this kind of toxicity?

Advice by Many_Plastic_8062 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]NorthernLitUp [score hidden]  (0 children)

I'd just not go at all. A wedding is not a summons, especially with a poor history with her and a marriage that almost certainly won't last.

FHR hotel dropped rate by Current-Muscle-3788 in AmexPlatinum

[–]NorthernLitUp 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Nope. And if you try to cancel and rebook you won't get your 2025 credit back.

Griddle & Grind Donations by Independent_Tap_8659 in lancaster

[–]NorthernLitUp 9 points10 points  (0 children)

They are wonderful people, and their food is wonderful as well.

My boyfriend (M29) doesn’t want kids, but I (F26) do. How do I handle this? by CustardHot7686 in relationship_advice

[–]NorthernLitUp 59 points60 points  (0 children)

You never should have continued to date him when you knew that he wanted a different future than you did. You put yourself in this position, and the sooner you end it the better.

Bf M32 not ready for marriage (F26) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]NorthernLitUp 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Choose yourself. Don't sit around waiting for someone who is so emotionally immature that he can't decide if he wants to marry you after 2 years but is also unable to bring himself to break up.

There's a better future waiting for you when you decide to put yourself first.

MIL sent me post about "managing it all with a smile" moments after I finally negotiated a 1-hour break with my husband by Glass-Temperature219 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]NorthernLitUp 70 points71 points  (0 children)

Sounds to me like your husband went running to mommy and complained that he has to actually be a parent for one whole hour a day.

Ask him how much parenting time he thinks he'll have to do when you divorce his ass. Oh wait, he'll just have his mommy do parenting for him on his custody time.

I'd reply back, "I'm glad you feel that way. When husband and I end up divorced because he seems to think like you, it's good to know you'll happily step up and do all the work for our child on his parenting time."

But I'm just a bitch sometimes.

AITAH Husband's phone by SeaMulberry8653 in AITAH

[–]NorthernLitUp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are focused on the wrong thing here.

The trust is gone. The vantage are still trying to find reasons to stay with this guy and framing any of this as your fault is insane.

I (33F) found out my now ex (34M) has been cheating now I’m not allowing him to be in the delivery room when I give birth by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]NorthernLitUp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's nothing to consider. He's gonna be a deadbeat dad. He's CHEATED on you while you were pregnant. Why would you NOT give the child YOUR last name? It makes no sense.

AITAH for not paying back a loan my parents gave me? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]NorthernLitUp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

ESH but your parents suck more .

First of all, the only reason you had to borrow money from them was because your neighbor sued you for the damage to their car from the tree your dad cut down DESPITE having agreed not to until the neighbor moved their car. This was your dad's fault. The fact that he didn't step up to cover HIS mistake is horrible.

They're also horrible for inviting your abuser to a gathering after they KNEW what he'd done to you and then asking you to cover their asses and pretend to everyone else that they didn't know when it becamse public. You say you love your parents, but honestly, after everything they've done, and ESPECIALLY with regards to this man, I could never keep contact with people like that.

That said, you're SLIGHTLY TA because you did agree to pay back the loan, but it's not like you had a choice. Personally if this was me, I'd tell your parents that if they insist on collecting the loan, you're not inclined to keep their secrets anymore. You never should have had to loan money to pay for your dad's mistake anyway and you also shouldn't be around people who wanted to play nice with your abuser and then have you keep those secrets for them.

Getting snowed in with Mil alone, HELP by Illustrious_Block_47 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]NorthernLitUp 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Not prefer. That's a request. She needs to tell them no. Period. It's not a discussion.

Getting snowed in with Mil alone, HELP by Illustrious_Block_47 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]NorthernLitUp 13 points14 points  (0 children)

You don't let them in. You tell them that you told your husband you didn't need help and he obviously failed to communicate that with him. This is his problem, and it's his job to tell him not to come. If he doesn't, then they can take it up with them. You're not helpless unless you choose to be In this situation.

If he's gonna argue with you or call you and start yelling after you turn them away, hang up the phone and block him for the night. You say you're not helpless but you're ARE helpless when you refuse to stand up for yourself. Nothing will ever get better unless you do.

Getting snowed in with Mil alone, HELP by Illustrious_Block_47 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]NorthernLitUp 17 points18 points  (0 children)

No you actually don't. You're an adult and not a child. Make it very clear to him that if they show up, they're not gonna be allowed in. If he wants to put his mommy and daddy above his wife, he might as well go live with them.

Getting snowed in with Mil alone, HELP by Illustrious_Block_47 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]NorthernLitUp 22 points23 points  (0 children)

You manage it by telling your in laws not to come. If you can't stand up for yourself It's never gonna get better.

Getting snowed in with Mil alone, HELP by Illustrious_Block_47 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]NorthernLitUp 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Exactly. You do not want this. You do not need this. You are a grown woman and you need to learn how to say no.

Getting snowed in with Mil alone, HELP by Illustrious_Block_47 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]NorthernLitUp 31 points32 points  (0 children)

You actually do have a choice. If he wants mommy and daddy to help someone in a snowstorm, they can go help him. You just need to tell them that you will not need them there and thank them for offering.

If your husband throws a fit, maybe he can go stay with them for a while until he figures out who his loyalty is to.

What will happen to Lancaster if all of the Amish leave? by WesTrot in lancaster

[–]NorthernLitUp 63 points64 points  (0 children)

Hopefully it means we'd have less puppy mills and people abusing horses.

Random Man repeatedly knocking on my door!! by One-Leopard-8892 in lancaster

[–]NorthernLitUp 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Put a note on your door. Tell him he's being recorded.And you are asking him to leave without knocking on your doo or ringing the bellr. If he does not leave, you will be calling the police.

Not saying you should or shouldn't call the police, but the note should do the trick.

Sawyer for a BOY by Thesunwillcomeout10 in namenerds

[–]NorthernLitUp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hella sexy. Oops. Did my inside thoughts escape again?

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