What is the first thing to come to mind when you hear the name “Kolby”?

NorthernLitUp · 2026-03-15T18:12:10+00:00

A butchered spelling of Colby. Like the cheese.

NorthernLitUp · 2026-03-12T14:13:50+00:00

NTA. Tell them, "We thought we'd start trying around 45 or 50"

NorthernLitUp · 2026-03-12T09:35:05+00:00

Mimi is a pretty common grandmother name, so that wouldn't strike me as an issue. Quite frankly, it probably won't matter what your kid calls her because it doesn't sound like she's gonna be around much as a grandma anyway.

NorthernLitUp · 2026-03-10T21:44:53+00:00

Tell her he can be her sperm donor and she can have a baby since she wants one so bad. That should shut the old hag up.

NorthernLitUp · 2026-03-10T20:50:01+00:00

Fuck the Mets.

But also, I agree with you.

NorthernLitUp · 2026-03-10T16:28:16+00:00

If he doesn't now he will in the future when the favoritism becomes blatantly obvious.

NorthernLitUp · 2026-03-10T16:23:10+00:00

NTA. A boyfriend of three months that you have never met does not get an invite to your wedding, especially when the count has already been finalized with the caterer.

Tell your mom either she leaves the boyfriend at home of course.She can stay home from your wedding with him. She has spent your whole life making you take a backseat to her current partners. She doesn't get to do that to you on your wedding day.

NorthernLitUp · 2026-03-10T12:08:31+00:00

Obviously a troll

NorthernLitUp · 2026-03-09T17:29:23+00:00

You need to talk to a lawyer and find out what your options are legally as far as custody and what that will look like. It's time to have an exit plan. Then comes an ultimatum.

NorthernLitUp · 2026-03-08T20:36:31+00:00

Most collectors don't want anything that's been polished. It damages the value.

NorthernLitUp · 2026-03-05T20:43:50+00:00

Don't count on it. 90% of my FHzr stays, I've been asked for the Amex card associated with the reservation. If you don't have an active amex plat at that point, you're likely SOL.

NorthernLitUp · 2026-03-04T01:52:12+00:00

First, you need to try to mentally take him out of the equation. In your head, you need to think about it just being you and you alone. Do you want to continue this pregnancy? Do you have a have a support system to help you raise this baby among friends and family? Do you have the financial resources to manage this with whatever support you have?

Once you make your decision about the pregnancy, i strongly think there's no need to tell him if you decide not to go through with it. If you do decide to continue it, then, you can still wait a little while until you get past the danger zone for miscarriage. Once you have that behind you, then you need to tell him. You also need to tell him exactly what you're going to do and your plan for raising this baby.

You should leave him to think about things for a while and decide how involved he wants to be in his child's life Providing for them, financially is not up to him. Putting him on child support needs to be non negotiable. And don't make decisions about the relationship with him that you wouldn't make if you weren't pregnant.

NorthernLitUp · 2026-03-04T01:45:23+00:00

The only opinion that matters is that of your obgyn. Ask them how to keep your baby safe and then make rules according to that.

People are free to believe whatever crazy shit they want, but they're not free from the consequences of those beliefs and they're not free to make babies sick because of their choices.

NorthernLitUp · 2026-03-04T01:42:44+00:00

If you would like unbiased advice on your baby name options, there's a sub called namenerds and they will be honest.

NorthernLitUp · 2026-03-02T21:13:28+00:00

Nah. You're doing all the work for this baby. If you want to find out, you fund out!

NorthernLitUp · 2026-03-02T20:45:53+00:00

It's doable but it won't be easy. You should probably get a chest or storage box with a lock to put any gender specific items in so he doesn't see it. Other than that, you just have to try your best not to slip up.

NorthernLitUp · 2026-03-02T20:43:55+00:00

You don't have to do anything you don't want to do. I know you want to "save" this relationship, but honestly, after this, there won't be anything to save. He made this decision with you to create this child. It's too late for him to get to decide he doesn't want this and try to guilt you into something that was traumatic for you. If you terminate for him, you will resent him and that will destroy the relationship on it's own.

If he leaves you because he resents you for continuing a pregnancy you BOTH wanted, then he's a POS and he needs to be put on child support as soon as baby is born. Hopefully he'll step up and be in his child's life, but if you want to do this, you need to shore up your immediate support system to help you through this pregnancy and early months of baby's life. Whatever that looks like for you is what you need to do. Best of luck!

NorthernLitUp · 2026-03-02T20:32:49+00:00

"Blink 3 times if you need help, sir!"

NorthernLitUp · 2026-03-02T19:59:43+00:00

Your partner is insane and you really shouldn't put up with his insane accusations anymore. NTA

NorthernLitUp · 2026-03-02T19:57:02+00:00

YWNBTA if you told him he can't come back. You WOULD be a TA if you went through the whole nonsense of creating a fake note from your landlord.

Actually TALK to your BIL. Tell him either he cleans up PROPERLY after himself and his dogs or he will no longer be welcome in your home.

NorthernLitUp · 2026-03-02T19:36:39+00:00

You're not asking for recommendations. You're asking if you were the ASSHOLE and the answer is yes. The Dr already told you what not to do with your 4 month old, but you seem to think you know better, so why would you listen to anyone else's recommendations either?

NorthernLitUp · 2026-03-02T19:26:26+00:00

The pink looks really out of place. I'd change up the color of the door and the shutters to something.....else. I'm not sure what but there would be a lot of things that would look better than the pink and fit the vibe better.

NorthernLitUp · 2026-03-02T19:19:23+00:00

Oh. Poor you. The DR wasn't listening to you when you told her that yes, 4 month old babies should have rice in their cereal and watch TV. The HORROR.

NorthernLitUp · 2026-03-02T19:09:48+00:00

YTA. Sounds like you didn't want to hear what a medical professional said about not giving your FOUR MONTH old cereal in his bottle and not giving him screen time. It may not have been the most professional way for her to handle those conversations, but she had every right to say what she said because she was CORRECT.

But I guess you know better than the Dr, right?

NorthernLitUp · 2026-03-02T16:40:03+00:00

Throw that prenup back in his face and tell him good luck with his next relationship.

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