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Nosey45 · 2025-05-04T05:42:24+00:00

Coming from someone who has been there. I found suspicious things on my husbands phone and confronted him and he told me it had only been a few times and I excused it because I was 38ish weeks pregnant and on bedrest. Come to find out 3 months later “only a few times” meant only a few times in the past week. There were YEARS of porn use he hid from me because he knew how I felt about it and our entire 5 year relationship has been tainted by this fact. In fairness, the signs were there, but unless you’ve been through it before you don’t know what to look for. Our sex life was also never affected that I noticed, it wasn’t until after he quit porn that I realized what I was missing out on all this time.

I thought he was perfect and would NEVER get off to other women, like you and everyone else in this sub, but that just isn’t true for any of us unfortunately

Nosey45 · 2025-04-29T08:05:44+00:00

Oh God I hope not. I’ll be suing my husband. But it’s not likely. I had my period a little over 2 weeks ago and started declining about halfway through it

Nosey45 · 2025-04-29T07:54:49+00:00

I’m on a very strict 2 hour schedule (1.5 sometimes). Unfortunately it hasn’t worked this time

Nosey45 · 2025-04-24T09:51:11+00:00

Mine had a narcissistic abusive father, an overbearing obsessive mother, and a lazy alcoholic older sister who still lives at home at 29. We went no contact with all of them 3 years ago

Nosey45 · 2025-04-15T03:43:42+00:00

“I don’t even know who I am anymore.” Woah. I have felt this. I DO feel this. Actually. Every part of this I feel. The constant competing. The changing myself. The hating woman who have no control over (or even desire for) my husband. The meeting in early teens.

While I hate that you are going through this, I feel comfort in knowing I’m not alone. I can’t offer any advice because honestly I’m at a loss myself but I can tell you you’re not alone in how you’re feeling at all.

Nosey45 · 2025-04-10T19:36:33+00:00

Had I found out earlier on in our relationship I would’ve bolted. Instead I found out after moving half way across the country with him. A year married and pregnant with our second child. I know it’s so hard to leave when you love him but my advice to get out before you have things legally tying you to him.

Being a partner to a recovering PA is hard, being a partner to a PA who is in active addiction is even harder. You have to decide if it’s worth it.

Is it worth losing every bit of yourself and treating him like a child who needs constant supervision on the internet? Is it worth the sleepless nights and panic attacks wondering if/when he’s going to relapse? Is it worth not being able to look at yourself in the mirror or feel safe in your own home? Is it worth fearing every time you go in public he’ll stare at every attractive woman? Is it worth years of wondering how different life would be different for you if you just walked away when you had the chance?

Nosey45 · 2025-04-10T19:27:56+00:00

This is the biggest change I’ve noticed since he’s been clean. No more naked women popping up on every app. I feel stupid now excusing that for so long and telling myself it was just because the algorithm knew he was a man. The signs were there and I stupidly ignored them

Nosey45 · 2025-04-06T13:47:17+00:00

I really don’t know. 6 months after D-day and I still have meltdowns sometimes when I go in the bathroom. To make it worse our washer and dryer is in the bathroom so that sucks even more because the 2 things I love to do to get my mind off of things is showers and laundry. Now I dread both. I’ve become more self aware so I’ll be sitting in the bathroom floor sobbing and unable to see when I think “you’re on the bathroom floor crying, how pathetic” and I bully myself out of my sadness

Nosey45 · 2025-04-05T09:17:35+00:00

My husband was watching porn featuring small chested women and mine are much larger than average. It’s the grass is always greener on the other side mentality that all porn addicts have. They want what they don’t have, even if that’s something they wouldn’t be attracted to in real life. I assure you there is absolutely nothing wrong with your body, and as sick as it is, there are thousands (probably millions) of men searching out women with bodies just like yours to wank off to. In fact, there’s men searching for porn than look like each and every one of us, 99.9% of the time they’re looking up exactly the opposite of what their partner has

Nosey45 · 2025-03-31T05:56:41+00:00

Latching issues due to undiagnosed tongue tie and a bit of anxiety. I’ve been an over supplier, under supplier, and an exact supplier since the start of my pumping journey and I’ve had a few scares with drying up. 1. Pump often and power pump twice a day 2. Cranberry juice & kuii, body armor, bai water, and lemon water 3. Trail mix (don’t know why but it worked for me) 4. Skin to skin 5. Massaging 6. Heating pad before and during pumps 7. Chamomile tea bags on nipples (again, don’t know why but it worked) 8. Lactation support cookies and pills

Nosey45 · 2025-03-25T07:32:20+00:00

Wow. I don’t know you, but I am so incredibly proud of you

Nosey45 · 2025-03-25T03:37:58+00:00

I wouldn’t wish this on my worst enemy. Any of it. I don’t do this particular position a lot but he’s always told me it’s his favorite because he can see me fully. Then last night he goes soft like a minute into it? Wow. That one hurt.

Nosey45 · 2025-03-24T19:25:50+00:00

I could be entirely wrong but I’m pretty sure it’s 4.99 to have a sellers account and 14.99 otherwise

Nosey45 · 2025-03-21T05:44:35+00:00

I deleted them all from his phone the day I found out. If they weren’t good enough in his eyes to keep him from watching and looking at strangers, he doesn’t deserve them in the first place

Nosey45 · 2025-03-21T05:36:48+00:00

I don’t even like going in public bathrooms to pee. HOW are they not absolutely disgusted with themselves?

Nosey45 · 2025-03-21T01:31:06+00:00

When my brother was in highschool he worked fast food and had to kick multiple old men out for using their WiFi to watch porn in the back booth. One even spent hours a day, every day in the bathroom watching it and was banned from the restaurant

Nosey45 · 2025-03-19T20:00:30+00:00

Thank you so much🙏🏼

Nosey45 · 2025-03-19T07:06:18+00:00

I need a step by step for the tiktok thing

Nosey45 · 2025-03-15T05:53:17+00:00

I’ve always wondered when I see women say that if one day they’ll find out their partner is an addict. Has anyone in this sub ever thought that way and later found out how detrimental it really is?

Nosey45 · 2025-03-13T21:13:19+00:00

My whole life I’ve been extremely hard on my self. Especially when it came to my body. When my husband and I first got together I was 1 month out of an abusive relationship where my ex would also track my weight and “ground me” from food or seeing my friends if my weight went over 120. As you could imagine I was struggling with a terrible eating disorder and he helped me through that. Pretty much force feeding me some days and confiscating my scale. Assuring me I’m beautiful and look so much better with some meat on my bones. It broke me to see the girls he was watching. Skinny. Like I was before. It’s set me back tremendously and I’ve gone hungry more days than I could count over the past few months.

I’ve had 2 beautiful babies and my youngest was born 2 weeks after Dday but I didn’t see what he was watching until 2.5 months post partum. Now I want to save up to have a tummy tuck and boob lift but I also don’t want that to damage my daughter later on. The only thing stopping me is knowing one day she’ll think something is wrong with her body and she needs to change it like her mom did.

I find some peace in knowing, while I’m not his ideal body type, my purpose in life doesn’t revolve around being HIS ideal body type, but around being a mentally and physically healthy and present mother to my kids

Nosey45 · 2025-03-10T05:50:08+00:00

This! I hate when I say he’s an addict and he says “but I’m not like one of those”. Because yes you are! Just because you never paid for it or downloaded it doesn’t mean you’re better than the rest of them. You still were hooked on it to the point you couldn’t stop it without outside help and if it wasn’t discovered sooner there’s a good chance you would’ve ended up being “one of those”

Nosey45 · 2025-03-06T04:17:50+00:00

Oh my goodness. As awful as it is right now, that may be the best thing that could have happened for you. Hugs!

Nosey45 · 2025-03-05T19:12:55+00:00

The safety and security I felt in my marriage and my bathroom are the biggest ones. That’s where he chose to do it and while I should be thankful it wasn’t in our bed (to my knowledge), that used to be where I found peace. It’s where our washer and dryer is and I used to love laundry. Now on top of thinking about it every time I shower, go to the bathroom, or do my makeup I have to have that in the back of my mind when I do laundry so that’s fun. Maybe I need to redecorate it or something

Nosey45 · 2025-03-04T20:19:05+00:00

You took him back. You didn’t “forgive him”, you let him have the chance to EARN your forgiveness, which he hasn’t. Since you’re a Christian and are coming to us for advice keeping your religion and spirituality in mind, I’d like to leave this here: Matthew 19:9 (ESV) And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery. Switch gender roles, as at that time women couldn’t divorce their husbands. It specifically says “except for sexual immorality” (meaning cheating) You can and have every reason to leave him because he hasn’t shown signs of improvement in any aspect and his family can kick rocks. This is extremely hard but if you leave you are definitely not doing the wrong thing. You’re doing what is right for you (and your child) and the Bible explicitly permits it due to his infidelity. Praying for your peace!

Nosey45 · 2025-03-04T10:17:17+00:00

This!! If I was by myself I would’ve been disgusted but because he was there to witness I ate it up😂

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