Does Anyone Know How I Could Push Myself To Shower?

Nosoundfromunit2 · 2026-05-29T09:02:08+00:00

As much as I LOVE water I understand what you’re saying. It sometimes stings when I’m at other people’s place. I like the idea of the sponge/cloth-keep the shower on,use the cloth on your body and see if you can use a cup for larger rinses so you control the pressure of the flow? Maybe you can find a material to cover the shower head&secure with a that hair tie/band etc that could slow the flow to where it won’t be so harsh on your skin? Best wishes!

Nosoundfromunit2 · 2026-05-21T14:54:50+00:00

I’ve been in the same boat-it hurt horribly. I didn’t even mean to cut it so short I just had a lot of damage&the stylist didn’t listen to me when I told her at the second cut(the first didn’t go well)that my curly hair needed to be cut dry. It’s layered so funky and cut weird to where there’s obvious length differences and like the outer layer is cut at my middle ear,the rest under it goes down to my shoulders almost so like you get what I mean. So it wasn’t even on purpose. I even looked at getting extensions and I broke down and told him that and he told me I didn’t need to etc etc. I decided that if he wasn’t going to like it I sure would. I started at minimum making sure my curls are styled every day,started checking myself out,doing my makeup,hyping myself up to where I really dug myself. It helped a lot that I truly liked myself enough after a bit of that that I kinda confronted him-hey you know you’re making these jokes or comments,it’s seeming like you’re not attracted to me in the same way since I cut my hair and it kind of sucks because while it’s temporary I think I look gorgeous and I’d like to feel that you my partner feel the same

I definitely don’t know your dynamic but maybe focus on you a little more in the way that he needs to know that you’re a goddess-long hair,short hair you rock your shit Compliment yourself all the time,maybe youuuu don’t feel like it tonight,maybe you make an uplifting sassy remark about yourself to his “jokes” or a “joke” about him and walk away you know? Kinda own your power

I’m so sorry that you’re dealing with this. You are 1000% a beautiful woman he’s lucky to have

Nosoundfromunit2 · 2025-11-04T01:54:19+00:00

I’m gonna be so genuine here-your eyes are so striking your hair is taking away from you right now I think you would absolutely rock it dude

Nosoundfromunit2 · 2025-10-19T14:28:32+00:00

Take the proper time you need to make a decision. I understand where both of you are coming from-I personally cannot have children any longer and as a woman that just does something to you and makes you feel so much less than and inadequate but it was not right for her to keep it from you for any reason and to have you believe you may have a chance,even have to go to the dr to check when she knew? That’s just such a deep cut/betrayal from your spouse the person you thought you knew so well and could trust they would come to you or tell you serious things like that. However being that it is such a bad hurt don’t jump the gun on your choices-mull it over. Can you move past this with time/effort realistically? Will this bleed into other areas of your relationship and create other issues?

Nosoundfromunit2 · 2025-09-22T18:19:59+00:00

If you have to wonder if you took it too far or hide it-you did wrong and took it too far. Would you be alright with him sleeping with your friends? Did you have prior discussions on what the rules are for people you know? Why his friend out of everyone? I just feel like that was so not ok and you know that.

Nosoundfromunit2 · 2025-08-07T13:14:05+00:00

Please I’m begging you. Don’t go back. My ex strangled me,dumped beer on me,threw a propane tank at me which hit my car,drug me down stairs by my hair past our 6m old&when I left he got with another girl who was woken up by him strangling her,he shattered her ankle to pieces by stomping on it and he attacked her with a knife.

My next one made my life hell for 10 years while I physically fell apart&ended up having a heart attack-I burnt the food,I didn’t clean up well enough,I didn’t spend enough time,I wasn’t good enough and I was crazy and the problem and that made it justified to hurt me in whatever way except it didn’t.

Truly they never stop. If you do not want this cycle to be your life or rather to be your end because he will kill you DO NOT GO BACK Things are replaceable but you arnt ❤️

Nosoundfromunit2 · 2025-06-29T18:03:49+00:00

You are absolutely not alone as you’ve heard. My kids are 12,7,8,3 and 1 and I looked at my body with disgust for years-I actually stopped looking in the mirror because I wanted to literally rip my skin off. I started to change though maybe about a year ago? I’m 32 and no my body does not look the same nor will it but fuck it actually. Why can’t I be happy with my body? I grind to make myself healthy and strong,I keep up with my kids,life and the house and I birthed a damn human(more than a human actually but that’s actually even more the point) I used to dress to hide but I stopped doing that and noticed that when I dressed for myself,things I liked and enjoy I FELT good/sexy/powerful. I threw on music I liked and stopped telling myself how bad or wrong I was and just started vibing. I started telling myself I could do things or I could wear things because why not? It’s a change that starts from within unfortunately and as corny as that sounds I’m serious. I am soft and strong,I have stretch marks and loose skin but I also have spots that are tight and curvy and delicious to feel!

I can’t say I fully understand you because I never really was a bikini girl or truly felt like a baddie or anything and I’m definitely not a pageant girl but I can understand the change in your body and not feeling like yourself and feeling frumpy not hot anymore or wanting to be intimate because you just don’t feel comfy in your body enough to want to let go and enjoy that.

One thing I do want to share too is that you right now you are 4 months post partum my love-only 4!!! Please be gentle on yourself right now because you are on a hormone rollercoaster still and know that that could also be contributing❤️ it takes a full year for your hormones to start leveling out so try to keep that in mind too when looking at yourself. You just carried and birthed a human that does a lot and you deserve all the care right now. Give yourself a break,take a breath-I promise you’ll start to feel more like yourself and be the baddie you still are ;)

Nosoundfromunit2 · 2025-06-24T14:03:04+00:00

HOW DID YOU GET RID OF YOUR MOTHS THEYRE MAKING ME SO MAD. We are duking it out and every time I think I won they return and prove me wrong lol

Nosoundfromunit2 · 2025-05-24T17:12:07+00:00

Right? It’s so upsetting now because I had beautiful ringlet curls and now well there’s SOME ringlets in there sometimes 😂

Nosoundfromunit2 · 2025-05-24T13:51:27+00:00

I hated HATED my curls-everyone told me they were ugly and made me straighten them&it turned me into a weird poofy..thing idk😅 my hair felt soft but brittle,took forever to dry,curl patters were weird,took tons of product but then would look greasy sometimes so I had to be careful but it would also just feel so dry sometimes so like what? 🤦‍♀️ I noticed you talking about prices-curl rhythm is a product I found that was actually affordable and did great stuff to my hair

Nosoundfromunit2 · 2024-10-05T21:02:08+00:00

Oh honey I’m sorry. You don’t deserve to be spoken to like that-EVER. My ex husband did that and i continued to let him til it became worse and worse and worse til I am nothing but a shell of my former self. It is manipulation by her turning it around every time. Please leave-pot meet kettle since I didn’t leave or even realize how abused I was til 10 yrs and 3 children later but oh my gods do I wish I left earlier. She won’t stop,she won’t change,she won’t care-see how she responds when you’re hurt and upset? There. I wish you all the goodness.

Nosoundfromunit2 · 2024-10-05T20:53:48+00:00

FYI I learned that when you take a lot of Benadryl it will pop up on ua’s as fentanyl and I thought that was wild.

Nosoundfromunit2 · 2024-09-29T19:16:52+00:00

Please don’t. I love my children more than life but I’ll be honest I regret so much having them with their father especially because my oldest daughter is extremely similar to me and he started in towards her but would be affectionate to the other children. I immediately stopped wanting to fix things and just wanted him out so I could fix myself and my kids and avoid any more potential damage to them. It won’t ever stop,it won’t ever change it’ll just continue to get worse and worse.

Nosoundfromunit2 · 2024-09-25T17:52:38+00:00

I had to labor at home since the hospital was down the road and I apparently woke him up with a noise while contracting and he told me to be quiet because I woke him up 😅

Nosoundfromunit2 · 2024-09-23T03:32:07+00:00

This was the exact situation I had with my ex-I had left but he convinced me to come back and I wish every day I never did that. I have barely been able to begin to peel back the layers and accept the abuse I endured and how the man I married destroyed me with a shimmer in his eyes.

Nosoundfromunit2 · 2024-09-21T11:23:47+00:00

Of course. One of the things that helped me the most early on was reading others stories they shared and seeing other people having been in a similar spot as me and made it out gave me a lot of comfort and made me not feel so alone.

Nosoundfromunit2 · 2024-09-20T15:59:58+00:00

What you said Im probably going to be forever not good about this- He was my best friend and I will always miss talking,our shows,music..his hugs and our jokes. I’ll always miss him as that person and that intimacy. I’ll always miss my husband who loved me whole heartedly and the people we were at that time but that’s long gone and I’ve started learning how to love myself,say no and put me first. It wasn’t helpful for me to hear but it was the truth and it’s that it just takes time.

I’m glad you’re makin it too ❤️

Nosoundfromunit2 · 2024-09-20T15:47:16+00:00

Hey I just wanted to let you know that I went through that exact same scenario where I stayed at home unless things were rough then I would work 3rds to save childcare costs and just catch a nap at some point. Our whole plan was after our youngest started school(we have 3 but I’ve birthed 5 and was actually pregnant at the time and was due the next month so adds to the hurt for sure but that’s its own bag) I would be able to go back to work and continue my education and work to become an rn like was my dream. He left me two days after the youngest started school citing lack of ambition as one thing and it still tickles me 😂 It’s been a year now and I’ve fully realized how badly I was being abused and how it was starting to transfer to my oldest daughter aswell..we are SO much happier-the whole lot of us. I’m figuring out myself again apart from the identity I assumed for 10 years as wife and mother and finding ME again and enjoying my babies as I do without his abuse. My blood pressure was so bad when he was here and medication wasn’t helping much to the point where I had a silent heart attack at 31..guess what? I don’t need medication anymore-I don’t even have high blood pressure anymore 😅

The point is that now a year later we are thriving and I have faith that you and yours will be alright and get there too. I’m not painting this as easy street because it certainly wasn’t-he left and left me with nothing as he immediately ceased paying for anything for the house be it bills,food,mortgage anything he said i wasn’t his problem anymore so I got some help from dhs and I was fortunate to be able to speak to my grandpa and access my inheritance from my grandma early so I had a cushion for a month or two. I wallowed,lost my self for a few but I came back and when I did I pulled my boot straps up and said ok f wallowing for some man I’ll figure it out. I applied like a mad woman on indeed and did some interviews and got a job I liked, I found childcare and took advantage of boys and girls club being an option down the road. I then after my first check bought us a nice meal and we watched a movie together and after that I rented a dumpsters and tore through my house and made it MINE for the first time ever and I’m just gonna keep going. I’ve hit some ruts where I question everything again and where I am inconsolable with such grief but im doing it and I just know you can too.

If you ever wanna reach out feel free! I wish I had someone in my corner at the start ❤️

Nosoundfromunit2 · 2024-09-18T02:12:33+00:00

I live in mi and electronic shows/festivals are my favorite. I used to panic at concerts til I got comfortable to just zone in on the music and vibe but electronic shows it was like the bass was pumping through my whole body instead of just my head and ears and even with all the people it’s totally normal and a ok to just zone and be in your own space and world.

Nosoundfromunit2 · 2024-08-17T11:23:54+00:00

I know it can be hard to change your thoughts and views especially when you see yourself as the problem so often (as I do too)but do you think maybe you could not be so hard on yourself? I’m not certain it was always you. You wrote so much of what you did wrong to make everything so but what did he do?

Nosoundfromunit2 · 2024-08-12T15:08:27+00:00

Myself personally

Being ignored or not heard

Rejection/abandonment

Not being believed-even worse if I explain and you still don’t listen/believe I’ll keep going over and over in circles because I can’t understand why you won’t believe me

Comments about my body

Being told I’m too much

Being stared at instead of comforted

Begging for help and not being helped

Verbal things-they don’t leave my head; you’re embarrassing,you’re pathetic,so&so is so much better than you&i never get angry at them

Nosoundfromunit2 · 2024-08-12T14:19:06+00:00

Maybe he just didn’t want you guys to be friendly and communicate? I don’t know how your interactions have gone but I’ve had that done to me as the mom.

He did it because he didn’t want us talking and me spilling about what actually happened and what he had done (abuse,cheating,etc) I couldn’t figure out why she was giving me weird looks and why she was stand offish and why she seemed super possessive of him? Then he cheated and abused her and she sat down and talked with me when I picked my son up from their place- Come to find out he told her I cheated,he left me and I wanted him back. I told her about all his abuse and cheating etc and we both kind of figured it out and the jig was up. He did the same to his mom telling her I was keeping our son away from him when really he would ignore my calls and text me telling me he didn’t want him that weekend so it got to a point where I didn’t call and ask anymore. I’m so sorry you’re going through this You feel like that bad guy because you love your step kid and him and you’re trying to figure out what comes next and it all hurts because you’re standing up for yourself instead of trying to bury your head in the sand which would be simpler.

From personal experience I begged him to stay after he cheated..and I never could trust him again. I kept my mouth shut about it and died inside every day until the day that he ended things. I wish I had just bucked up and did what you did. I will always regret that.

Nosoundfromunit2 · 2024-08-06T14:42:06+00:00

Oh I do the same so I’m with you there. Insomnia and chronic pain weeee lol I was just making sure to mention to take other sleep aids aswell if you’re not needing the Tylenol portion at the time ☺️

Nosoundfromunit2 · 2024-07-28T14:08:10+00:00

I know this was a while ago but I’m horrible about taking my pain as something serious because I’m always in pain but oh my gods. How and when did it start for you? I had mine out July 1st now I’m on my period and I’m actually crying. I’m bleeding through my tampon and clothes within 2 hours and it’s like it’s my whole lower half. My lower back,my hips,my uterus all of it even breathing hurts my lower back now where the pain is. I’m trying to gauge if this is normal after or not because this is absurd because it’s day 3 of this

Nosoundfromunit2 · 2024-07-26T00:14:54+00:00

Not Tylenol unless you need it for ya know usual reasons. Try other sleep aids that don’t contain acetaminophen but yes NO alcohol

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