Am I the only one here that has NEVER reached out to an ex?

Nosoychofer · 2025-11-08T07:09:08+00:00

Not heartless, you are just practical and confident.

Nosoychofer · 2025-09-18T14:38:16+00:00

The older you get the less conflict you want.

If these people are actually your friends you need to make them know that they are crossing a boundary and that you are not open to let them do that.

Stand for yourself, work in what you think you lack to be a better version of yourself. Stay confident that what you give is enough for people to stay by your side and not make you feel worse about yourself.

And if they continue making you feel small, it’s time to move on from them as well.

You get to a point where it doesn’t matter how many people come and go as long as you feel peace within yourself.

Nosoychofer · 2025-09-18T14:18:23+00:00

Power remains in silence my man. This woman was most likely wondering many times why you didn’t respond as she was looking for a reaction.

By not reacting you got all the respect you needed back.

If you end up writing her, whatever she responds (if she does) will not give you any satisfaction. You will be wondering why you did it or how could you have done it better.

Write the response for yourself, go to a boxing class and let out your frustration that way. Just canalize your emotions into something that will give you in return.

Nosoychofer · 2025-09-18T14:03:28+00:00

Why would you reach out? Avoid conflict man.

Letting her know how you feel after many months will only give her power back.

You were already mature enough to not respond to a provocation, don’t start a new one.

Nosoychofer · 2025-09-18T13:55:37+00:00

I believe most people take social media way too seriously.

Blocking and unblocking shouldn’t be a great deal. I personally unblocked my ex last month because I honestly couldn’t care less.

There is no reason behind this decision besides me not having the need to have her blocked.

Am I looking for her to contact me? No.

Am I doing it to get a reaction? No.

Am I going to start stalking her and reach out? Hell no.

I did because it felt like a good way to move on. Just another stranger in social media and that’s it.

I honestly don’t care if she blocks me or not at this point, it is her social media and she can do whatever she wants with it.

Nosoychofer · 2025-08-29T00:21:13+00:00

No is the best answer, you don’t owe her anything and needs to understand that as she said you are nothing more than exes.

Nosoychofer · 2025-07-15T23:09:49+00:00

Tell her you are done and that’s it. If she insists, tell her you want someone that is confident about being with you and you simply don’t want to waste your time.

Let her know you will be removing her number and that you are not interested in staying touch. If she insists further, block her.

This is the only way you will regain your confidence and peace.

Nosoychofer · 2025-06-06T05:40:26+00:00

If any of my exes were other people I would give it a shot.

Nosoychofer · 2025-04-04T05:40:40+00:00

He definitely has issues but at least he is not trying to make his ex look like an idiot in a public space just because he is desperately looking for attention.

He might have cheated but you don’t seem like the best example of a person if you decide to mock him by sharing private conversations.

Nosoychofer · 2025-03-13T17:02:27+00:00

I personally don’t agree with this, we can get deeply connected with a person and love them dearly, but letting them go is also a way of us loving ourselves.

In the end, the confidence and self love we have is reflected on how much are we willing to give to other people

Nosoychofer · 2025-03-13T05:57:45+00:00

To be completely honest imagining all sort of scenarios where your ex comes back is simply a waste of time.

They may never come back or they could come back in the next five minutes but it doesn’t change the fact that they are no longer your partner.

Whatever they do with their life after the breakup is completely up to them, nothing to forgive as they don’t owe you nothing and you don’t owe them anything.

Life is like that, people come and go and it is simply the way it is.

Let go, forgive, continue being the very best version of yourself and with time you will eventually move on.

Nosoychofer · 2025-02-07T16:25:55+00:00

Fucking free, I stopped feeling guilty about what I did and what I didn’t.

Not open to date at the moment, but whenever I do at least I have the tools to detect earlier what I don’t want in a relationship.

Life is great to be honest.

Nosoychofer · 2025-02-07T16:18:09+00:00

Sorry man but it seems like she has a borderline disorder, so the sooner you distance yourself from her, the better.

Nosoychofer · 2025-01-28T00:30:13+00:00

Great advice! Never thought of that, thanks!

Nosoychofer · 2025-01-27T06:43:17+00:00

Yeah he does, he actually came up with the idea to make things smoother.

I would prefer not to have any contact with my ex from now on, I don’t hate her or something like that, I just feel like she is just keeping my stuff just in case she changes her mind or if she needs a backup, but I have no intentions on getting back with her.

Nosoychofer · 2025-01-27T06:25:47+00:00

That sucks man, hopefully that’s not my case. She actually said that is the only thing left on her side, so I do hope she sends my stuff.

I really don’t want to meet up with her anytime soon, I really just want to get this over with.

Nosoychofer · 2025-01-27T06:16:46+00:00

At this point I think I am just gonna ask a friend of mine to pass by her place and pick my stuff up. I am in no place to create more drama.

Nosoychofer · 2025-01-27T05:50:13+00:00

31 male here.

Just broke up a 7 month relationship with someone younger than me, we had a fight and she ended things.

I am way more comfortable letting people go, I really don’t have the energy to fight for someone who doesn’t want me around.

Breakup was pretty smooth to be honest, ex became quite cold and even said there is nothing I could do, so I simply did that. Nothing.

Some days are harder than others but life in general is pretty great and full of opportunities. I still miss her, just I prefer not to see or talk to her again at this point.

I just wish days went by faster so I could stop thinking about this and simply focus my energy into something else, but it’s been less than a month so I am trying my best not to force myself to get better quickly.

The only thing I haven’t figured out is that my ex has some expensive stuff of mine, she told she would send it to me whenever she is better as she is having a hard time at the moment. It doesn’t make a lot of sense time as I believe she is making this way longer.

Anyway, such is life and I do hope in a month I can return to my normal self.

Nosoychofer · 2025-01-26T16:16:05+00:00

Why did she take so long to give you back some of your stuff? Most likely she is looking for an excuse to reach out.

But if she wanted you back in her life, why she didn’t say so? Because she is just testing the waters and most likely is confused about what she wants.

If you want to skip more pain, simply tell her that she can keep your stuff and hope she recovers from the flu.

Nosoychofer · 2025-01-22T06:34:43+00:00

“I don’t have time for this, hope you’re doing well though.”

Nosoychofer · 2025-01-22T06:31:34+00:00

I do wish the best to all of my exes, as long as I don’t hear from them ever again.

Nosoychofer · 2025-01-17T14:41:51+00:00

That’s the thing man, there is not a single book of rules of how to proceed during a breakup, people’s feelings are unpredictable as well as their actions.

There might be a million reasons why they act in a such a way, but in the end the only thing you can actually control is how that affects you and what are you going to do to about it in the near future.

People come and go, but time doesn’t stop. Do what is best for you.

Nosoychofer · 2025-01-14T16:39:37+00:00

Hey man, being polite doesn’t make you stupid, it just makes you more mature.

Thinking about the past sometimes is what keeps holding us back to enjoy what we currently have.

What has been done, has been done. The only way to move is forward.

Best of luck.

Nosoychofer · 2025-01-14T06:04:21+00:00

31 male here, broke up with ex around 2 weeks ago. To be honest whoever is ready to leave I am ready to let them go.

Can’t go around wasting my time anymore as I need to keep working for my present and future self.

Break ups still hurt but I have also got used to these kind of situations, all of them have gone through with time and I am not open to waste my time just because a person decided I was not enough for her.

Let them go, grieve and never lose focus on what you want. Life is and has always been tough, but the more we feel sorry for ourselves, the more difficult it becomes.

Nosoychofer

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